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So I hope I'm doing this right
Jello, I am a 48 year old male in a relationship where the wife goes and has affairs, witu my approval of courae, and I stay monogamous to her and wear a steel chastity cage when she's out.
I have several questions and thoughts and i jopeni get access to ask.
Thanks for reading and please let know if thosnos the correct place to post

My spelling was atrocious
My apologies

All of your typos were within one letter on the keyboard, so I didn’t judge you too harshly...

I was really hoping that 'Jello' would become the new greeting people used, sounds welcoming and delicious at the same time. Welcome here.

Hi everyone. I'm a married guy from South Africa. Been lurking around the forum for some time. Have been kept locked, on and off since around 2013 when I bought my first CB6K, if I remember correctly.

I've collected a couple of cages over the years; Jailhouse, 2 x CB6000s (split the seam on one), 2 x PA-9000 (one, pretty much being held together by superglue where the plastic is disintegrating) and two Chinese knockoffs one of which fits surprisingly well - wish they would make these with larger tube diameters to make it more comfortable for us uncircumcised growers.

I'm still looking out for that elusive "one" that I can wear without interruption over an extended period of time - a custom job is just to expensive for me at the moment. The longest uninterrupted period spent locked in a chastity cage was 21 days in my modified PA-9000.

In recent times my wife and I have been more disciplined in use of a cock cage in our chastity play and it's mandatory for me in cases where she does not have direct supervision over me. I work from home so it goes on when she leaves in the mornings and at some point the evening close to bed time she'll hand me the keys to unlock. My wife doesn't like metal pressing against her at night. When I'm not caged I'll be wearing a PA-ring or a bar.

I'll probably see some of you around on various posts in the forum. Thanks for having me and have a great day.

Hi everyone. I've stumbled across this forum a few times and read a bunch, but now it's time to join in.

I've been struggling to find the right device (aren't we all) but it's been difficult. I'm trying to find something that is inescapable before approaching my mostly vanilla wife about it. That's a challenge I'm putting off until I've found a good cage.

Anyway, I look forward to throwing some questions out there to you all.

Welcome to our three newest members. @MikeInMass, there's no such thing as inescapable short of a piercing that locks to the cage. If you approach your wife in the right way she might surprise you in how receptive she is to the idea. Start by stepping up the help around the house and then give her the book "Male Chastity: A Guide For Keyholders" by Lucy Fairbourne. Ask her to read it before judging and then sit down and talk. On a final note: Be careful what you wish for! My wife was completely vanilla a little over 2 years ago now is addressed as M'Lady or Mistress.

MikeInMass wrote: ↑Fri Sep 25, 2020 6:50 amI've been struggling to find the right device (aren't we all) but it's been difficult. I'm trying to find something that is inescapable before approaching my mostly vanilla wife about it. That's a challenge I'm putting off until I've found a good cage.

Welcome to the Forums. I don't often respond in here, but thought maybe a few words from a keyholder who began this journey as vanilla might be helpful ..... or not. When I was first approached about male chastity my thought was "not no, but HELL NO". I was happy that he approached the subject the way he did because it gave me time to read, investigate, and decide on my own. After I decided to go along with it I helped decide which cage to purchase. Had he already bought a cage the outcome would probably have been very different.

All I'm trying to say is that how she is approached could be the difference between a yes or no response. I'm by no means an expert, just sharing what was true for me.

Kitten wrote: ↑Fri Sep 25, 2020 2:15 pm... After I decided to go along with it I helped decide which cage to purchase. Had he already bought a cage the outcome would probably have been very different.

All I'm trying to say is that how she is approached could be the difference between a yes or no response. I'm by no means an expert, just sharing what was true for me.

I appreciate what you’re saying. If I thought there was no hope, I’d not have made it this far. My problems finding a good cage revolve around my lack of endowment and weight issues. Two topics in don’t want to become a point of frustration that would make her give up on the whole idea. I know my wife and how easily she can get frustrated and abandon something that isn’t working.

Hi! I'm new and I'm locked up. It's bloody amazing!

Let me go back 2 months. I'm 37 and have been looking my whole life for a woman who can handle how strange I am. 2 months ago, after reading a couple of my posts on Reddit, she creates an account specifically to message me. Within days I'm in love. She turns out to be exactly what I had always looked for. She is in Canada and I am in the UK. But I know where I need to go now... What are the odds..

For most of my adult life I have been into the Hotwife, stag / vixen fetish. I love promiscious woman.. And my new found love is a secret wannabe slut, though she has yet to act on it and is wary of the consequences. Rightly so, and I'm in absolutely no rush. I got all my life with her..

Which brings me to my chastity.. About a few weeks of talking to her, I find myself wanting to submit to her. Emotionally and sexually. The desire became so strong, so fast that it has put my other kinks on the backburner. I introduced her to the concept of a loving female relationship. I have never actually considered this path before at all. Amazing the effect she has on me.

She's a submissive, and I'm normally dominant.. But things are changing. I'm not into humiliation or the slavery type of lifestyle, but I love the idea of giving control over one of the most influential aspects of my person.

And you know what.. I absolutely love this new found direction. My love for her has improved my will to work. It has reduced my depression. And calmed my
anger. Because of her, I stopped watching porn and vastly reduced how often I masturbate. My dreams are more practical. My goals aligned with hers.

Pretty much as soon as I showed her a cock cage and expressed my desire to give over control of when and how I recieve pleasure and release, she buys me one. She isn't as into it yet as I am, but she did it for me, and I can see the idea growing on her. God I love this woman.

I have now been in a https://lockthecock.co.uk/products/silv ... ity-device for exactly 1 week. I am lucky in that it is a perfect fit, even though there is a little under ball pinching, which I relieve with Vaseline when necessary. I have not taken it off except for twice... to clean it, check chafing, and masturbate once with her permission (I gave her control over that even before the cage). Yesterday I sent her by post 2 of the 3 keys, keeping one for emergency only.

I love the feeling that with every step, I think of her. I love knowing I belong to her. I even love the pain because I see it as a symbol of my submission to her. I do not miss the freedom. She is more important.

My testicles are big and hang low. I've only been able to get the middle ring on (45mm), with enough space to push a finger up to the first knuckle. I only wish I can use the smallest ring so it can ride higher on my body.. One day, I will get a custom jail bird.

I do not ever plan on removing it without her permission for the rest of my life. Couldn't be happier.