Greetings. I haven't fallen off the earth (although at moments I feel like I have).Locked by LRC wrote:I think Dev and likes2blocked should weigh in on this.
A month or two ago they had the opportunity to meet each other. Reading Dev’s blog I got the impression that they were like any other couple’s that are together. She said they talked about anything and everything and occasionally chastity.
When L2B, keyhldr, Ab and I got together, we all knew about our shared chastity, since that is how we met (L2B emailed me first, after reading my blog). We also knew a lot about each other's sex lives. So in that respect, we were outliers on the curve of telling people.
However, the other night, I was chatting with one of our volunteer nurses (let's call her Joan) at the clinic. Of all the nurses, she's the only one who is pretty open about her relationships. While she may not be super-explicit as to the how's and why's, sex is an important part of her life. Difference is, she's single, so it's not just a husband she is talking about.
A week or two ago, she went to Seattle to visit some friends. She said she got into fairly intimate conversations with the friends (one on one, not all at a time) which surprised her. Apparently one of the guys said that he hadn't had an orgasm "in quite awhile" and that it was "okay, I like pleasuring her. That's what's important." Joan seemed a little surprised at this and asked her friend if it was really okay and didn't he need to finish? Apparently he said pleasuring his wife was finishing.
I saw this was a perfect opportunity and made a comment about orgasm denial can be a good thing and fun. But she clearly didn't want to hear this and changed the subject. So, so much for a chance to introduce someone new to the lifestyle. Maybe next time!
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