[willshelockmywilly] The Get-Away that started it all
Posted: Sun Feb 06, 2022 12:41 pm
I will go back and add the beginning of our journey from notes I made at some point. For now, I want to jump in where we are before I get further behind. Life is very busy for us now, and has been since the pandemic started. She works in healthcare and I in retail. That along with other family matters has meant the pandemic has been more of a force to drive us apart as a couple, rather than tucked in at home together. That being said, our relationship as a whole was in a terrible spot. We have both been battling depression and anxiety along with tremendous stress. I had brought up chastity pre-pandemic, and she didn’t say no, but we ordered a few cheap cages, had problems with fitment and falling off, and I think it really turned her off. I don’t blame her, she is very vanilla and traditional and was surely thinking “my pervert husband wants me to lock something metal on his dick now. How did I wind up in the position in my life?”. But she also didn’t get upset or mad about it, and said that if it was important to me, she would continue to try to keep an open mind. I went back and ordered a cage with better fitment, and wore it when she was gone at work some, getting familiar with is and seeing if it really fit, but she never knew it. Shortly after the holidays, or relationship seemed to be really starting to improve from our pandemic stress. She got me some really nice tickets to a show she knew I would love for my birthday in December, and the show is in February. I saw I t as huge gesture from her because it really showed me that she cared about me, and it was the first thing I felt like she had put that much effort into that was specifically for me, in a long time.
Due to some hormonal changes she has not been on birth control, which obviously complicated sex even further than a strained relationship does. She intended to go back on it at the beginning of the year, and her OBGYN appointment had to be cancelled due to COVID. She promised me that it would be rescheduled before our trip, and that became the beginning of our journey. I had become a masturbation addict and porn watcher when our 9 year relationship hit its all time low. When she made me that promise to make the get away weekend so special for me (just so happens it is the weekend before Valentine’s Day, women can’t help themselves but to be romantic ) I decided to admit to her my vulnerable secret and resolve to do my part to help our relationship. She received it better than I think you could expect any vanilla wife to. She didn’t yell, really even get mad, leave or cry. She was hurt by it, and I was ashamed of it because I knew they were hurtful things. Whether or not you agree with watching porn or not can be debated in any way you want. But if you watch it without your spouse knowing and you know they are clearly of the opinion it is wrong to watch it, that is very hurtful towards that person. I suggested that in return for the special weekend she had planned out for me, we give chastity one last try. If it worked out, we could discuss further arrangements at or after that weekend, and that if she was still indifferent towards it at that point, we would throw them away and I promised I would never mention it again.
I now have an account on this forum, I will be surprised if it is the latter. This first journey post is to give a background story leading up our start of chastity. I will add what happened in the first few weeks later from the few notes I have, it was an absolute whirlwind, and time flew by. But I want to be able to document the week leading up to the get away weekend.
T minus 7 days -
Friday - We leave in 1 week. I had a long stressful day at work today, and we were apart tonight, she works nights. We spoke over the phone twice, but I was short the first time at work, and the second time she had some left over work stuff she needed to get off her chest on her commute to work. We small talk texted over the course of the evening. She broke the news to me that her OBGYN appointment was not going to be in time for our get away. I was devastated. I had been looking forward to unprotected sex that weekend for so long now. It has been many months since we have been able to do that due to her being off of birth control and pregnancy being a concern due to other health issues; and it certainly hadn’t been helping our relationship. I felt like this was all her fault, by not insisting with her doctors office more, or not coming up with a solution sooner. I decided I wanted to quit chastity all together. I thought it wasn’t fair to me. Then I had a major perspective shift, and one I would have never had if I wouldn’t have been forced by chastity to spend less time thinking about myself, and more time thinking about her. I realized, maybe she doesn’t want this either. She didn’t ask for all these problems, she didn’t want her appointment to be cancelled, and she definitely didn’t want it to take this long to be rescheduled.
Saturday - Reflecting on my thoughts last night really made me realize how selfish I have been, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. I felt genuinely bad about this and it depressed me quite a bit. That, combined with her work schedule meant very little time for much togetherness the start of this weekend. I did spend about 2 hours locked and gave her a manicure (she likes the SNS powder and it takes a WHILE to do; something that I have just learned since she started holding my key) on Saturday night though, while she watched a movie she choose.
Due to some hormonal changes she has not been on birth control, which obviously complicated sex even further than a strained relationship does. She intended to go back on it at the beginning of the year, and her OBGYN appointment had to be cancelled due to COVID. She promised me that it would be rescheduled before our trip, and that became the beginning of our journey. I had become a masturbation addict and porn watcher when our 9 year relationship hit its all time low. When she made me that promise to make the get away weekend so special for me (just so happens it is the weekend before Valentine’s Day, women can’t help themselves but to be romantic ) I decided to admit to her my vulnerable secret and resolve to do my part to help our relationship. She received it better than I think you could expect any vanilla wife to. She didn’t yell, really even get mad, leave or cry. She was hurt by it, and I was ashamed of it because I knew they were hurtful things. Whether or not you agree with watching porn or not can be debated in any way you want. But if you watch it without your spouse knowing and you know they are clearly of the opinion it is wrong to watch it, that is very hurtful towards that person. I suggested that in return for the special weekend she had planned out for me, we give chastity one last try. If it worked out, we could discuss further arrangements at or after that weekend, and that if she was still indifferent towards it at that point, we would throw them away and I promised I would never mention it again.
I now have an account on this forum, I will be surprised if it is the latter. This first journey post is to give a background story leading up our start of chastity. I will add what happened in the first few weeks later from the few notes I have, it was an absolute whirlwind, and time flew by. But I want to be able to document the week leading up to the get away weekend.
T minus 7 days -
Friday - We leave in 1 week. I had a long stressful day at work today, and we were apart tonight, she works nights. We spoke over the phone twice, but I was short the first time at work, and the second time she had some left over work stuff she needed to get off her chest on her commute to work. We small talk texted over the course of the evening. She broke the news to me that her OBGYN appointment was not going to be in time for our get away. I was devastated. I had been looking forward to unprotected sex that weekend for so long now. It has been many months since we have been able to do that due to her being off of birth control and pregnancy being a concern due to other health issues; and it certainly hadn’t been helping our relationship. I felt like this was all her fault, by not insisting with her doctors office more, or not coming up with a solution sooner. I decided I wanted to quit chastity all together. I thought it wasn’t fair to me. Then I had a major perspective shift, and one I would have never had if I wouldn’t have been forced by chastity to spend less time thinking about myself, and more time thinking about her. I realized, maybe she doesn’t want this either. She didn’t ask for all these problems, she didn’t want her appointment to be cancelled, and she definitely didn’t want it to take this long to be rescheduled.
Saturday - Reflecting on my thoughts last night really made me realize how selfish I have been, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. I felt genuinely bad about this and it depressed me quite a bit. That, combined with her work schedule meant very little time for much togetherness the start of this weekend. I did spend about 2 hours locked and gave her a manicure (she likes the SNS powder and it takes a WHILE to do; something that I have just learned since she started holding my key) on Saturday night though, while she watched a movie she choose.