[Laudie3426] Off to a good start
Posted: Wed Jan 27, 2021 1:54 pm
I'm 56 and have been married almost 30 years. My wife & KH is also 56. While there have been some rocky times along the way (mostly caused by me) we have a good marriage.
My wife has always had confidence issues (body image, looks, etc.) that seem to be too common among women. I have always felt like if she just had more confidence, she would be that much more awesome. My problem has consistently been that when she does agree to do something kinky, I immediately take it to the next step too fast. This has caused her to pull back.
Whenever I indicated that I wanted her to take a more assertive role or venture out to playing with others, she would typically respond with something along the lines of "that's too much pressure" or "who would want to play with me?"
In the last year or so we have been experimenting with tease and denial and a little bit of what is probably called CBT (squeezing, light slapping). She once said, "you seem to be OK with not cumming." I tried to explain that keeping me on the edge is what is exciting. She also enjoyed pegging me over the years but not often.
I have mentioned things about locking me in a cage and maybe 4-5 months ago she almost ordered one to surprise me. When she did mention it I said that it needed to be the correct size. Soon after I got another "too much pressure" comment so I put off ordering one - though I did spend a lot of time researching and getting my measurements.
Fast forward to December and one night while were playing she said "I'm really liking this domineering thing." I ordered the Holy Trainer v4 knockoff and the "Contrast Color with vent" red & black thing the next day.
My wife has always had confidence issues (body image, looks, etc.) that seem to be too common among women. I have always felt like if she just had more confidence, she would be that much more awesome. My problem has consistently been that when she does agree to do something kinky, I immediately take it to the next step too fast. This has caused her to pull back.
Whenever I indicated that I wanted her to take a more assertive role or venture out to playing with others, she would typically respond with something along the lines of "that's too much pressure" or "who would want to play with me?"
In the last year or so we have been experimenting with tease and denial and a little bit of what is probably called CBT (squeezing, light slapping). She once said, "you seem to be OK with not cumming." I tried to explain that keeping me on the edge is what is exciting. She also enjoyed pegging me over the years but not often.
I have mentioned things about locking me in a cage and maybe 4-5 months ago she almost ordered one to surprise me. When she did mention it I said that it needed to be the correct size. Soon after I got another "too much pressure" comment so I put off ordering one - though I did spend a lot of time researching and getting my measurements.
Fast forward to December and one night while were playing she said "I'm really liking this domineering thing." I ordered the Holy Trainer v4 knockoff and the "Contrast Color with vent" red & black thing the next day.