[cmjdjm1] The beginning of my journey
Posted: Sun Jun 07, 2020 12:48 am
So just for the sake of anyone willing to read this- I'm a happily married (of 18 years), 45 year old man with one son. I've recently come to the realization that my sex life has dried up, and it's probably my fault in many ways. So I've decided to be a better husband. I might be too late to save my sex life, but at least my wife will be happier. We may argue, but she's the love of my life and I'll always want to please her. It's that want to please my wife that started my journey to being caged.
I was talking with a coworker who was complaining about his wife, and I commented that I’d do anything to please my wife. Jokingly he was teasing that I needed my dick and balls removed because my wife obviously has them trapped in her purse. I laughed, he laughed, we all laughed. But deep inside I was thinking I’d do it if I could for her.
I figured I needed a way to let her know that I'll do anything for her happiness. So I started doing more things around the house. I cooked more meals, did the laundry, some cleaning and stuff without being asked. I talked to her more. Started giving her a kiss goodbye in the morning. Small things, but they worked. Her mood improved with me, almost like she was flirting. If that was her intentions, it worked and my dick responded. But I didn't pester for sex. If she wanted it, sure. But I didn't want to pressure her into it.
After a week or so of her flirting with me, I could hardly control myself around her. I realized I hadn't masturbated in a couple weeks for some reason either. Usually I do it every couple nights, but since focusing on my wife more, I'd forgotten about myself.
Figuring my lack of sexual activity played a part in my better mood and willingness to please my wife, I looked online and sure enough, stumbled onto a website that talked about how a man's attitude improves, has more energy, a higher sex drive and so on. It talked in more of a feminist manner. You know, men are bad, men need punishing etc. I know it's dumb, but I related to it. I was a bad husband, lover and friend to her. I was everything that website said I was. It talked about how all men should have their genitals locked up so they can't ever be touched again, and I thought what a good way to control a man's masturbating and sex to help improve his attitude. Exactly what I needed to do. So I decided I should do it.
I researched online into chastity, and found I wasn’t the only one to think the same way. In fact it seemed very popular. So in the last month, I decided to test the waters and ask my wife her thoughts.
We were joking around through text while at work and mentioned how I seemed to have more energy, been in a better mood and doing more around the house. She agreed and asked me what I changed in my diet and I said the only thing I've changed is not masturbating at all. She was shocked, knowing we hadn't had sex in a long time. I said I read online and figured I'd try it out. She laughed and said that I shouldn't ever masturbate again. “Jokingly” I replied “nah, I can only go so long before I'd just throw you down and rape you”. She laughed and said we should find out what happens. I said I can't guarantee that I wouldn't cheat and just tell her I hadn't and she’d need to put my dick in a lock box to stop me. Of course the conversation ended there because we both got busy.
Later at home that night, I brought the conversation back to locking me up and told her they actually do make a lockbox for a dick. She laughed and thought I was joking. I told her I was serious and she wanted proof. So I went on my phone and pulled up a picture of a cage. Specifically a CH34 stainless steel one. It was the first one I found online and she was shocked they even made things like that. She said it looked like it would hurt and I said it probably wouldn't be as bad as it looked. I told her its supposed to keep me from getting hard, and to make sure I can't cheat when I'm not supposed to touch myself. She just said cool. Then she stopped in her tracks when I told her I'd wear it if she wanted me to.
She turned around and asked why would she want me to. I told her she had noticed me being a better husband, so why not see if it helps by not cumming. She smiled, shrugged and went into the bedroom. I made dinner and while we ate, I pretended I was reading facts about chastity cages on my phone. She seemed intrigued, but didn't say anything. But later as we were going to sleep, out of the blue she told me to order one if I thought it would help but not to lose the key. I told her she’d be the one holding the keys since I was going to need the willpower from her. I told her I'd look into it more and see if I thought it might work.
The following day I bought that exact same cage I’d shown her earlier. I told her a couple days later though that I’d just ordered it, so she’d think I'd looked into it more. She seemed surprised, but said cool, and told me not to forget to give her the keys. Seemed like she was getting into it already.
So since then, I've been bugging her asking how long she was going to keep me caged up, what her rules would be if I needed to get the key back and how she was going to decide how long I was going to be caged up. She's unsure about it all though, saying there were so many possibilities and her mind was spinning.
So now we are here, at today. The cage should be here early this week. I asked her the questions again and asked if she wanted my help to decide. So tomorrow we’re going to sit outside in the evening where my son can't overhear and she's going to try and figure out the rules with the possibility of input from me. I don't really want my input used, since I want these to be her ideas. But whatever the case, I'll be happy to settle down the main rules so I have an idea what to expect. I told her I'd like a week to test out the cage and make sure it's comfortable before giving her the keys and she's agreed.
Now you're caught up to tonight. I'm really eagerly awaiting next week to give this a shot. I pray it feels good and I don't need to try a different one.
I read tonight on someone else's journey, that they enjoyed being pegged by their wife. I had to look that up. Getting fucked by their wife with a strap on for anyone else who didn't know. I find the idea very intriguing, because she once a slid a finger in my backdoor once while she was giving me a BJ a long time ago and I enjoyed it. I might have to figure out a way to put that in her head. I wonder if she'd enjoy doing that. Something to think about I guess. If anyone has suggestions on ways to subliminally work pegging into conversations, I'm all ears. I'd be willing to do that for her if she would enjoy it. Seriously though, if anyone else had that discussion with their wife, and it worked out well, please let me know what you said. I'm the shy quiet type, so broaching subjects isn't my forte.
If anyone has suggestions on what types of rules you've had, I'd be happy to read them off to her tomorrow night when we talk about it. Thanks
And so ends the first journal entry. I'm going to try to update this for my own memories anytime something interesting happens. If you enjoyed reading, by all means continue to read. If you didn't enjoy reading, well I hope you didn't stick around long enough to read this. Just know I can't give you the last few minutes of your life back.
If you ever have any questions or comments or tips for me, don't hesitate to ask.
I was talking with a coworker who was complaining about his wife, and I commented that I’d do anything to please my wife. Jokingly he was teasing that I needed my dick and balls removed because my wife obviously has them trapped in her purse. I laughed, he laughed, we all laughed. But deep inside I was thinking I’d do it if I could for her.
I figured I needed a way to let her know that I'll do anything for her happiness. So I started doing more things around the house. I cooked more meals, did the laundry, some cleaning and stuff without being asked. I talked to her more. Started giving her a kiss goodbye in the morning. Small things, but they worked. Her mood improved with me, almost like she was flirting. If that was her intentions, it worked and my dick responded. But I didn't pester for sex. If she wanted it, sure. But I didn't want to pressure her into it.
After a week or so of her flirting with me, I could hardly control myself around her. I realized I hadn't masturbated in a couple weeks for some reason either. Usually I do it every couple nights, but since focusing on my wife more, I'd forgotten about myself.
Figuring my lack of sexual activity played a part in my better mood and willingness to please my wife, I looked online and sure enough, stumbled onto a website that talked about how a man's attitude improves, has more energy, a higher sex drive and so on. It talked in more of a feminist manner. You know, men are bad, men need punishing etc. I know it's dumb, but I related to it. I was a bad husband, lover and friend to her. I was everything that website said I was. It talked about how all men should have their genitals locked up so they can't ever be touched again, and I thought what a good way to control a man's masturbating and sex to help improve his attitude. Exactly what I needed to do. So I decided I should do it.
I researched online into chastity, and found I wasn’t the only one to think the same way. In fact it seemed very popular. So in the last month, I decided to test the waters and ask my wife her thoughts.
We were joking around through text while at work and mentioned how I seemed to have more energy, been in a better mood and doing more around the house. She agreed and asked me what I changed in my diet and I said the only thing I've changed is not masturbating at all. She was shocked, knowing we hadn't had sex in a long time. I said I read online and figured I'd try it out. She laughed and said that I shouldn't ever masturbate again. “Jokingly” I replied “nah, I can only go so long before I'd just throw you down and rape you”. She laughed and said we should find out what happens. I said I can't guarantee that I wouldn't cheat and just tell her I hadn't and she’d need to put my dick in a lock box to stop me. Of course the conversation ended there because we both got busy.
Later at home that night, I brought the conversation back to locking me up and told her they actually do make a lockbox for a dick. She laughed and thought I was joking. I told her I was serious and she wanted proof. So I went on my phone and pulled up a picture of a cage. Specifically a CH34 stainless steel one. It was the first one I found online and she was shocked they even made things like that. She said it looked like it would hurt and I said it probably wouldn't be as bad as it looked. I told her its supposed to keep me from getting hard, and to make sure I can't cheat when I'm not supposed to touch myself. She just said cool. Then she stopped in her tracks when I told her I'd wear it if she wanted me to.
She turned around and asked why would she want me to. I told her she had noticed me being a better husband, so why not see if it helps by not cumming. She smiled, shrugged and went into the bedroom. I made dinner and while we ate, I pretended I was reading facts about chastity cages on my phone. She seemed intrigued, but didn't say anything. But later as we were going to sleep, out of the blue she told me to order one if I thought it would help but not to lose the key. I told her she’d be the one holding the keys since I was going to need the willpower from her. I told her I'd look into it more and see if I thought it might work.
The following day I bought that exact same cage I’d shown her earlier. I told her a couple days later though that I’d just ordered it, so she’d think I'd looked into it more. She seemed surprised, but said cool, and told me not to forget to give her the keys. Seemed like she was getting into it already.
So since then, I've been bugging her asking how long she was going to keep me caged up, what her rules would be if I needed to get the key back and how she was going to decide how long I was going to be caged up. She's unsure about it all though, saying there were so many possibilities and her mind was spinning.
So now we are here, at today. The cage should be here early this week. I asked her the questions again and asked if she wanted my help to decide. So tomorrow we’re going to sit outside in the evening where my son can't overhear and she's going to try and figure out the rules with the possibility of input from me. I don't really want my input used, since I want these to be her ideas. But whatever the case, I'll be happy to settle down the main rules so I have an idea what to expect. I told her I'd like a week to test out the cage and make sure it's comfortable before giving her the keys and she's agreed.
Now you're caught up to tonight. I'm really eagerly awaiting next week to give this a shot. I pray it feels good and I don't need to try a different one.
I read tonight on someone else's journey, that they enjoyed being pegged by their wife. I had to look that up. Getting fucked by their wife with a strap on for anyone else who didn't know. I find the idea very intriguing, because she once a slid a finger in my backdoor once while she was giving me a BJ a long time ago and I enjoyed it. I might have to figure out a way to put that in her head. I wonder if she'd enjoy doing that. Something to think about I guess. If anyone has suggestions on ways to subliminally work pegging into conversations, I'm all ears. I'd be willing to do that for her if she would enjoy it. Seriously though, if anyone else had that discussion with their wife, and it worked out well, please let me know what you said. I'm the shy quiet type, so broaching subjects isn't my forte.
If anyone has suggestions on what types of rules you've had, I'd be happy to read them off to her tomorrow night when we talk about it. Thanks
And so ends the first journal entry. I'm going to try to update this for my own memories anytime something interesting happens. If you enjoyed reading, by all means continue to read. If you didn't enjoy reading, well I hope you didn't stick around long enough to read this. Just know I can't give you the last few minutes of your life back.
If you ever have any questions or comments or tips for me, don't hesitate to ask.