[TealCage] Color of the Cage
Posted: Fri May 15, 2020 12:44 pm
My wife loves to accessorize and pick clothes out for her friends so that was the first step to get her invested into considering chastity. She describes herself as not having a lot of "kinks" of her own, but she is into lingerie somewhat, vintage clothing, being a planner for social events, etc. I bought a CB6000 at the local store so we could try out chastity for a while over December holiday break, but she mentioned that she thought the clear color was kinda bland. Well that won't do!
The mental light bulb turned on at that comment. It was time to go shopping! I found all sorts of styles and color options for cages, which got her super into the activity of picking out a cage for me. She spent a long time looking through them and picked out several styles and colors she liked. She settled on a teal colored holy trainer v3.
We made a short contract about chastity, which specifically stated that I don't get to bring up chastity unless she does first (unless health or maintenance is the subject). I wore the cage for another couple of weeks (with playtime in between) and then we set it aside for a few months. Now we're a few days into it again and things are becoming more "fun" than they ever we're before.
The extra attention I pay her now with all that redirected energy and the attractive style of the cage is getting her more comfortable with the idea. She's checking in on the cage most days to make sure I put it on (I don't sleep in it) in the morning and says "good boy" whenever she finds it. She worries about my comfort level some, but I'm reassuring her that it's not "uncomfortable" to wear and all is well.
I guess we'll see how things go! Last night we had some amazing playtime and she enjoyed the control. Maybe she's seeing the benefit. Fortunately, I was told before bed to put my cage back on first thing in the morning. Yes ma'am!
Work in progress:
Not wanting to bring up chastity to her (it's against the rules) constantly. I'm not doing it, but the urge is there.
Increasing Her comfort level with control without trying to control the situation myself.
Successes:
Cage is comfy andy maintenance pattern is set.
She loves the extra attention from me and seems very turned on.
Sex is way less stressful in this new dynamic. Normally it takes me a while for me to orgasm and on a rare occasion performance anxiety gets the best of me. I don't like to be the center of attention normally and the idea that me having an orgasm is an indicator of her "success" as a partner is not fun. Now I'm fighting off the urge to orgasm and her success criteria has changed. Win win!
The mental light bulb turned on at that comment. It was time to go shopping! I found all sorts of styles and color options for cages, which got her super into the activity of picking out a cage for me. She spent a long time looking through them and picked out several styles and colors she liked. She settled on a teal colored holy trainer v3.
We made a short contract about chastity, which specifically stated that I don't get to bring up chastity unless she does first (unless health or maintenance is the subject). I wore the cage for another couple of weeks (with playtime in between) and then we set it aside for a few months. Now we're a few days into it again and things are becoming more "fun" than they ever we're before.
The extra attention I pay her now with all that redirected energy and the attractive style of the cage is getting her more comfortable with the idea. She's checking in on the cage most days to make sure I put it on (I don't sleep in it) in the morning and says "good boy" whenever she finds it. She worries about my comfort level some, but I'm reassuring her that it's not "uncomfortable" to wear and all is well.
I guess we'll see how things go! Last night we had some amazing playtime and she enjoyed the control. Maybe she's seeing the benefit. Fortunately, I was told before bed to put my cage back on first thing in the morning. Yes ma'am!
Work in progress:
Not wanting to bring up chastity to her (it's against the rules) constantly. I'm not doing it, but the urge is there.
Increasing Her comfort level with control without trying to control the situation myself.
Successes:
Cage is comfy andy maintenance pattern is set.
She loves the extra attention from me and seems very turned on.
Sex is way less stressful in this new dynamic. Normally it takes me a while for me to orgasm and on a rare occasion performance anxiety gets the best of me. I don't like to be the center of attention normally and the idea that me having an orgasm is an indicator of her "success" as a partner is not fun. Now I'm fighting off the urge to orgasm and her success criteria has changed. Win win!