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The P word
I've probably mentioned that I don't particularly care for the word "permanent" because of the way it gets (mis) used so much in this community. Mrs Edge and I certainly don't use it at home... well, at least, we hadn't, that is, until last weekend.

Our daughter has been locked down with us, and her hours got cut to part time. Last week they asked her to cover Saturday morning, which meant that we had some unexpected, but welcome, daylight playtime. Our 2 - 3 times a week have been cut down to just once a week, usually quietly at night, so we were both looking forward to it' Right after she left for work, I hopped into the shower, and started warming up the Vixskin in a thermos mug of hot water.

I can't remember how it came up, but in between lovemaking and some sexy conversation, I mentored how hot it was the very first time that she kept me locked for my birthday. She said that she had briefly thought about unlocking me, but forgot about it. She had also thought about unlocking me for Christmas or New Year (at least during the first year, not this past year), but eventually just decided against it, since things were going so well. And then she said something to the effect of "I decided that I'm not planning on unlocking you again; it's permanent now."

I repeated it back to her, and she confirmed it. This, of course, made the both of us so aroused that we went at it again, with me giving her an orgasm strong enough to induce a small headache.

And who knows, maybe in ten years she'll relent and remove the cage on some whim. But it's been fascinating to see her get carried along on this ride.
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Exciting! Glad to see you guys are enjoying yourselves!
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Glad to see you guys are enjoying yourselves!
Thanks. It's headed down this path because we're *both* enjoying it.
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Mrs Edge doesn’t care for the P word because, in her mind, she had been leaving open the possibility that she might remove my stainless steel cage one day. Maybe after five or ten years, just as a reminder. Or something; it’s very vague in her mind, and I sometimes have wondered if she isn’t slightly afraid of thinking about it too much.

Because of the local lockdown condition, our regular intimate time has been reduced to once a week or so, partly because we rarely have any alone time in the house. However, last weekend, the Edgelette was asked to cover a Saturday morning slot, so Mrs Edge and I looked forward to some daylight fun in which we were not forced to be overly quiet.

Taking a break in the middle of it, I mentioned how hot it was that first year when she did not unlock me for my birthday, and just kept right on going. She explained that she had thought about it, but just sort of forgot. Then it was past, and there wasn’t any point until the holidays six months later. But by the time the holidays came, she realized that we were closing in on a year, and she thought it would be hotter to keep going until we hit that mark. And when that mark came, she was enjoying it so much that she just… sort of… didn’t want to unlock me. At all. Maybe Or something.

So she didn’t.

And that led to another birthday, and another set of holidays, and then she could see coming up on two years, and along the way she found her self thinking that as long as I was enjoying things, and as long as she was enjoying things, was there really a need to unlock me?

And that’s how, being well into the third year, she off-handedly said to me:

“I guess I just don’t have any plans for that anymore; it’s permanent now.”
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Mrs Edge doesn't process things internally like I do. That is, I'll cogitate over something for a while, looking at different perspectives, etc. Mrs Edge just will come out and say something, then talk about it later.

So, we were in the middle of some hot bedroom action, both of us talking dirty to each other to help ramp things up, when she said something like "I'm going to keep you locked up all the time, I don't need the one in the cage anymore, this (the Visxskin) is the only one I want now..." she paused for a second and said, more to herself, "... I think I'm serious."

I didn't ask her about it because that would have broken the mood. But later, I still didn't ask her about it because I realize that she has to process things differently. But I did notice that for the next couple of weeks, she kept asking me if I was okay with how things are now. She rarely asks, figuring if I'm not okay, then I'll say something. So she's obviously working through the concept that it would actually be a permanent arrangement, and not just a hot idea.
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Mrs Edge and I recently passed the miles stone of 30 years of marriage. Here's the interesting thing: We started fooling around with enforced chastity and denial about 20 years ago. I think my first home built cages were in the late 90s, after I had stumbled across the Altairboy site. This means that in those 30 years, I've been locked up for some portion of the last 20. When I started looking into just how much of that last 20, I realized that I've been locked up for somewhere between 35% to 45% of our marriage. This means that in another 5 years, if I continue to be locked 24/7/365 as I've been for the last 2+ years, I will have spent more than half my married life locked and denied.

More interestingly, I've also determined that I (we) will have easily passed the point at which we will have had more sex with the Vixskin than with my original equipment. And since I figure we've probably got another 15 to 20 years of good physical health, you can see where this is going.
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April 2021:

I joined a small group of newb bicyclists, riding paved bike trails, with a mish mash of different bikes. I'm there to help, give advice, etc., and I figured it would be good way for me to get back into some regular saddle time.

Anyway, we had a ride planned for Saturday morning. It was only 38 degrees when I took a test spin around the block, and you know what happens to the boys when it's that cold.

I loaded the stuff into the car, then went back inside to ask Mrs Edge if she minded that I take the cage off. She really doesn't mind if I remove it for road cycling, since she doesn't want me getting hurt or chafed - the idea being that I'm certainly not going to pull off into the woods for a wank, and if I did get chafed, then I might have to remove it for several days to heal. She certainly doesn't want that.

A couple of hours of riding, and naturally I put it on again right after I got home. It never got above 48, and replacing the cuff ring with cold testicles would probably have been funny to anyone who might have been watching.

I have 2 road bikes with saddles that will accommodate short rides caged. I've gone up to 30 or 35 miles, but after 20 it's just distracting to be moving or adjusting things all the time.
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Four years in a cage
Posted on April 1, 2022 by Tom Allen

The ironic thing about being locked so often is that we no longer keep track of the days or dates. Months after we began what has turned out to be a permanent arrangement, we were trying to figure out when we had started. February? March? We could not pin down a date, so @mrs–edge arbitrarily assigned April 1st as the anniversary date.

“It’s easy to remember, and since you’re never going to be unlocked again, what difference does it make if we’re off a week or two?”

So here we are, celebrating our fourth year and going into our fifth of what I expect will be many more. It’s been – and continues to be – exciting, scary, and hot. 💖🔒

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I was doing MsM’s report on Tuesday and realised it was only 3 days short (they’re gone now) before I had been five years without an orgasm !! Lately things have been very low key because I’ve been kept busy doing a lot of projects before we have winter down here but the basics of the cage, the panties and the discipline remain as it has become ingrained in our lifestyle !

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Tom Allen wrote: Fri Apr 08, 2022 5:13 am So here we are, celebrating our fourth year and going into our fifth of what I expect will be many more. It’s been – and continues to be – exciting, scary, and hot. 💖🔒

Congratulations and Happy Anniversary, Tom and Mrs Edge! (and slave d too)!

You've certainly helped inspire the denying and locking of so many cocks - including mine. I hope you're proud of yourself!
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