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[Muzzled Horndog] Our journey in chastity

Posted: Fri Jan 24, 2020 5:03 pm
by Muzzled Horndog
Hello everyone. I would like to share a bit of our journey here. My wife and I are in our late fifties, and we've been married for 12 years (second marriage for both). We're empty nesters (which we love). I am a custom home builder, and Princess K manages our home. We genuinely enjoy each other's company, and both of us would say that we are best friends. Our relationship and sex life has always been good.

I'm not exactly sure what prompted this journey, but I think it was probably me discovering femdom porn and chastity. I began reading up on FLR, chastity, tease and denial, etc. It really turned me on. I bought a book about it, prepared my speech and introduced Princess K to the whole concept of FLR and chastity. I explained how I've had a problem with masturbation since puberty. Although our sex life was great, making love 3 times a week +/-, I would still masturbate the days that we didn't make love. I explained that enforced chastity (chastity device) would focus all of my sexual energy toward her, and she would benefit from that. She hesitantly agreed to give it a try although I think she had reservations. We began this journey last September, and we participated in "Locktober". The longest I went was 6 days without an orgasm, but for someone who had scarcely missed a day for over 40 years, it was quite the accomplishment. That O was unfreakinbelievable! For the first time in my life, I discovered what saving and giving all of my sexual energy to my partner does for the relationship. All of a sudden, I couldn't keep my hands off of her. I wanted to cuddle, rub her back, legs, and feet. I couldn't wait to get home and snuggle on the couch. The intimacy we found was simply incredible. I have always enjoyed pleasure kisses, but now I was like the cookie monster. I wanted to eat her up! LOL! We continued with the chastity device and FLR into December, and K was really seeing the benefits. I was opening the car door, taking out the trash or emptying the dishwasher without being asked. She was getting LOTS of O's and back rubs almost every night, and I was loving it too! I was loving the constant energy, buzz, lust, whatever you want to call it by only ejaculating when she allowed. In FLR, they say "Be careful what you wish for" because there's probably no going back, and Princess K was really not interested in going back to the way things were. For that matter, I didn't really want to either. However, we began having some issues with the FLR scene. So much of it seems to devolve into kink that neither of us want. Cuckolding, humiliation, sissification, etc. just isn't a road we want to go down. I was also having some physical issues with wearing a cage long term. So I was surfing the interweb this past December, and I stumbled into the Devotional Sex site. I began reading (devouring) everything on this site. It was amazing! It was like what I had been looking for all this time! I introduced this whole concept to Princess K, and she loved it so much more than the FLR!

So in late December, we put away the chastity device, I went on the honor system, and we began our journey with DevS. It has been fan-fucking-tastic! K has wholeheartedly embraced DevS, and has become quite the Princess! I just can't get over what a transformation this has made in our relationship. Almost every day begins and ends with cuddling. Sometimes it leads to full sex, sometimes it's pleasure kisses and O for her, sometimes it's just a back rub and a devotional cuddle. K loves to see and feel me erect and to know that she's in control with where it goes. She still is adjusting to me NOT having an O every time, but she is growing daily in her assertiveness. We've had some amazing seasons that are better than any porn I've ever seen. That's another benefit. My wife has always hated that I looked at porn. Since we began DevS, I have stopped watching porn, and that makes my Princess happy! Also since we began this journey, I could count on one hand how many times I have masturbated. I'm proud of that, and I am committed to giving all of my energy to my Princess. It has been an amazing journey so far, and I believe it will only get better from here.

This concept should be taught in school! Whether you know it or not, this is actually a biblical principle. It tells a man to to give himself to his wife and to love her as Christ loved and gave himself. In other words, to love with a fully devoted and sacrificial love. I am now fully devoted to my Princess K, and we're loving it!

Re: [Muzzled Horndog] Our journey in chastity

Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2020 8:15 pm
by Curtis
Hi, Muzzled Horndog.

Thanks very much for sharing your story. Like you, I have struggled with masturbation for many years. I'm convinced that it put a serious dent in my relationship with my wife. Since she doesn't like to have sex very often and has no interest in anything outside the norm, I justified to myself that it was acceptable to take care of my needs without her, even though I knew this was wrong. Long story short, I discovered male chastity while surfing for jerk-off material, bought a cage from Amazon, put it on, then confessed my masturbation/porn habit to my wonderful wife. She readily forgave me, but wanted to know how we could stop my habit. I explained to her about the chastity cage and offered her the keys. She readily accepted them. Now I use the cage whenever I feel tempted to start masturbating again and she holds the keys.

I agree that keeping your sexual energy for your wive is biblical. Another biblical concept is "flee temptation". I think using the cage is exactly that.

Curtis.