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[Muzzled Horndog] Our journey in chastity

Posted: Fri Jan 24, 2020 5:03 pm
by Muzzled Horndog
Hello everyone. I would like to share a bit of our journey here. My wife and I are in our late fifties, and we've been married for 12 years (second marriage for both). We're empty nesters (which we love). I am a custom home builder, and Princess K manages our home. We genuinely enjoy each other's company, and both of us would say that we are best friends. Our relationship and sex life has always been good.

I'm not exactly sure what prompted this journey, but I think it was probably me discovering femdom porn and chastity. I began reading up on FLR, chastity, tease and denial, etc. It really turned me on. I bought a book about it, prepared my speech and introduced Princess K to the whole concept of FLR and chastity. I explained how I've had a problem with masturbation since puberty. Although our sex life was great, making love 3 times a week +/-, I would still masturbate the days that we didn't make love. I explained that enforced chastity (chastity device) would focus all of my sexual energy toward her, and she would benefit from that. She hesitantly agreed to give it a try although I think she had reservations. We began this journey last September, and we participated in "Locktober". The longest I went was 6 days without an orgasm, but for someone who had scarcely missed a day for over 40 years, it was quite the accomplishment. That O was unfreakinbelievable! For the first time in my life, I discovered what saving and giving all of my sexual energy to my partner does for the relationship. All of a sudden, I couldn't keep my hands off of her. I wanted to cuddle, rub her back, legs, and feet. I couldn't wait to get home and snuggle on the couch. The intimacy we found was simply incredible. I have always enjoyed pleasure kisses, but now I was like the cookie monster. I wanted to eat her up! LOL! We continued with the chastity device and FLR into December, and K was really seeing the benefits. I was opening the car door, taking out the trash or emptying the dishwasher without being asked. She was getting LOTS of O's and back rubs almost every night, and I was loving it too! I was loving the constant energy, buzz, lust, whatever you want to call it by only ejaculating when she allowed. In FLR, they say "Be careful what you wish for" because there's probably no going back, and Princess K was really not interested in going back to the way things were. For that matter, I didn't really want to either. However, we began having some issues with the FLR scene. So much of it seems to devolve into kink that neither of us want. Cuckolding, humiliation, sissification, etc. just isn't a road we want to go down. I was also having some physical issues with wearing a cage long term. So I was surfing the interweb this past December, and I stumbled into the Devotional Sex site. I began reading (devouring) everything on this site. It was amazing! It was like what I had been looking for all this time! I introduced this whole concept to Princess K, and she loved it so much more than the FLR!

So in late December, we put away the chastity device, I went on the honor system, and we began our journey with DevS. It has been fan-fucking-tastic! K has wholeheartedly embraced DevS, and has become quite the Princess! I just can't get over what a transformation this has made in our relationship. Almost every day begins and ends with cuddling. Sometimes it leads to full sex, sometimes it's pleasure kisses and O for her, sometimes it's just a back rub and a devotional cuddle. K loves to see and feel me erect and to know that she's in control with where it goes. She still is adjusting to me NOT having an O every time, but she is growing daily in her assertiveness. We've had some amazing seasons that are better than any porn I've ever seen. That's another benefit. My wife has always hated that I looked at porn. Since we began DevS, I have stopped watching porn, and that makes my Princess happy! Also since we began this journey, I could count on one hand how many times I have masturbated. I'm proud of that, and I am committed to giving all of my energy to my Princess. It has been an amazing journey so far, and I believe it will only get better from here.

This concept should be taught in school! Whether you know it or not, this is actually a biblical principle. It tells a man to to give himself to his wife and to love her as Christ loved and gave himself. In other words, to love with a fully devoted and sacrificial love. I am now fully devoted to my Princess K, and we're loving it!

Re: [Muzzled Horndog] Our journey in chastity

Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2020 8:15 pm
by Curtis
Hi, Muzzled Horndog.

Thanks very much for sharing your story. Like you, I have struggled with masturbation for many years. I'm convinced that it put a serious dent in my relationship with my wife. Since she doesn't like to have sex very often and has no interest in anything outside the norm, I justified to myself that it was acceptable to take care of my needs without her, even though I knew this was wrong. Long story short, I discovered male chastity while surfing for jerk-off material, bought a cage from Amazon, put it on, then confessed my masturbation/porn habit to my wonderful wife. She readily forgave me, but wanted to know how we could stop my habit. I explained to her about the chastity cage and offered her the keys. She readily accepted them. Now I use the cage whenever I feel tempted to start masturbating again and she holds the keys.

I agree that keeping your sexual energy for your wive is biblical. Another biblical concept is "flee temptation". I think using the cage is exactly that.

Curtis.

Re: [Muzzled Horndog] Our journey in chastity

Posted: Fri May 22, 2020 11:25 am
by sherulestherooster
Great story - would love an update!

Re: [Muzzled Horndog] Our journey in chastity

Posted: Mon May 25, 2020 6:46 am
by Muzzled Horndog
sherulestherooster wrote:
Fri May 22, 2020 11:25 am
Great story - would love an update!
Well we’re still using the honor system right now. It’s such a mystery to me why I/we long to cum but don’t wanna cum. For the most part, I have been “faithful” and not masturbated though. Lately I’ve been missing the cage though. I have a wonderful Princess who loves me a lot, but she’s not into the cage. She rarely forbids my cumming even though I ask her to. She just doesn’t get why. Hell I don’t even get it. But saving my orgasms for her is still awesome. Our intimacy and sex life is amazing. Princess K is an incredible lover and it’s never the same, even after 12 years.

Re: [Muzzled Horndog] Our journey in chastity

Posted: Mon May 25, 2020 8:23 am
by Muzzled Horndog
So yesterday I was horny all day, but we had company until late afternoon. After the guests left, I was anxious but my Princess had other plans. She wanted to chill and watch tv for a while. Although I wasn’t wearing a cage, I felt the denial completely which of course make you even hornier. That was her devious plan I believe. I stayed hard for practically the whole time we watched tv. Finally Princess suggested we go to bed. We begin to kiss and make out. But then she stops and tells me she wants a nice foot rub. She has me facing her on my knees and her feet planted against my chest. While I rub her foot, she starts rubbing my cock with her other foot, all while she’s toying herself. What a sight! Princess says, “your cock is so rock hard under my foot!” She continues to tease me until she’s satisfied with the foot rub, and FINALLY she lets me in! How wonderful! After her first loud O, I ask if I can cum, and she tells me yes. What a release! But she wasn’t done! She told me to get her vibrator and then stuck her breast in my mouth as she brought herself to another incredible O. We crashed together in a heap, almost melted into one body, and fell into a sweet sleep. What a wonderful day!

Re: [Muzzled Horndog] Our journey in chastity

Posted: Thu May 28, 2020 10:52 am
by sherulestherooster
Muzzled Horndog wrote:
Mon May 25, 2020 6:46 am
She just doesn’t get why. Hell I don’t even get it.
As far as the "why", for me it was the "down" I get after a full orgasm, I get almost depressed (see post-coital tristesse) afterwards and I really just prefer the feeling of constantly being horny. However, I do need the teases and subsequent erections, otherwise I also begin to feel depressed. Last night I was tired as heck (not sleeping well lately) and my partner subtly rubbed against me and I got hard. I love the 'buzz' of getting an erection. If I were to measure my sexual desire (1-10) with teasing and orgasms for her, it would be like a constant 6; during intercourse and release, it's a 10, then immediately drops to a -2 for maybe 2 days. I don't like that feeling, I'd prefer to be at the constant 6. My preference of course would be for her to have as many orgasms as possible, and tease me about the asymmetrical nature, e.g., "silly boy, orgasms are for girls".

Your footrub story reminded me of a ritual we used to do. Kids were in bed, we'd watch Desperate Housewives Sunday nights. She would put her foot out signaling me to rub it. Without saying anything, she'd stick her other foot out when she wanted that one rubbed. With her other foot, she'd rub my cock till it was hard but no way I could cum from it. So we'd watch this 40 min sexy show with me constantly hard and her getting her foot rubbed. Then we'd go upstairs to play and I'd usually bring her to an orgasm and there was like a 60% chance I'd get one. Very hot, denied or given release.

Great story!