[Ruined1] My journey into chastity

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[Ruined1] My journey into chastity

Post by Ruined1 » Fri May 10, 2019 9:40 am

How we got here

The starting point:
Together for 20 years, a bunch of kids were had. Sex life was getting routine, stressful job diminished the remaining libido. Neither of us was content with the situation. We had already discovered that when we didn’t have sex for a a longer period, say two weeks, it was super intense and hot, but we didn’t want to only have sex every other week.

Me having a habit of indulging in porn and masturbating quite frequently didn’t help, either. However I had already found ruined orgasms through browsing for various kinks in porn (back then robandjill.com was still around) and was experimenting with that on my own ever since. I had also stumbled over Thumper’s blog back then and have loosely followed it over the years.

In fall ‘18, both realizing the need for some change, any change, I brought up the idea of chastity, ruined orgasm and the effects it brings in terms if reducing horniness less. The list of purported changes was impressive and so She was willing to give it a try and surprisingly quickly mastered the concept of properly ruining it.

So ten years after first finding out about it, the right moment in time and in our relationship came so that a longtime fantasy could become reality.

I looked for further guidance on the net, but most pages were impractical fantasy bullshit, like a six week program to become chaste (only based on wearing a device for certain hours and if you fail one of the steps you have to start over) or raced straight past chastity into sissification and cuckoldry. So with limited guidance we decided to play by ear and experiment.

We had quickly substituted full orgasms for minimized ones and I was actively asking to not let her have me have a full orgasm and ruin it instead She went with it, reaping the benefits of an always-on husband that started to be more attentive and make compliments (funny how this really works). I was very quickly down to one full blown orgasm every three months with all the other opportunities to cum ruined, which was still a generous thing 2-3 times a week.

But I was hungry for more of that sweet frustration. I had read that the typical next step is to also take away the ruined orgasms and to just give a teasing handjob ending the night in frustration. I brought it up and even that progression (a good half year into it) went much smoother that anticipated, with both of us getting a kick out of it. Now I get to have all the sex, but no orgasm. I am currently in my third week and we’ll just see how it goes.

She loves to be penetrated though and I fuck her eagerly, frustrated as I am, but I have the feeling that this is too much enjoyment, much more fun than I deserve! I even feel that way about full satisfying strokes during handjobs: Rather just caress the tip or massage that balls., always surfing the feeling of frustration when you want more and maybe you might get a quick peek, before it goes away again. Funny how one can relentlessly pursue to have ones own sexual fun restricted. But it makes it so
much more exciting. Rarity makes you value things more than abundance.

In the light of this I scoured the internet for sex restrictions placed on husbands and found basically nothing. Among the barely usable hints was a long thread on those for cuckolds on a hotwife forum. I read them to see which one gets me particularly excited. The whole less P to even going entirely P free thing resonated with me. But the “I wank to her making out with someone else” did nothing. We both feel strongly that I carry her dick and only she gets to play with it (not me).

How to square the equation with ‘her dick’ and ‘P free’ is challenging, though.
We had tried an Oxball penis sleeve, a dildo, layers of condoms and delay cream, to provide her pleasure without me getting much, but she said it just didn’t feel like the real thing and she still preferred my bareback cock.

Having gotten some helpful pointers from this very forum, it is time for us to continue our experiments. Stay tuned for updates.
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Re: [Ruined1] My journey into chastity

Post by Ruined1 » Wed May 29, 2019 4:55 pm

Since being denied I have developed an affection or even addiction to her ass. One night after a couple of reds with friends I went down to the bedroom (she went to bed earlier) and tipsy as I was started eating out her asshole. She didn’t know if she liked it thaat much but woke up got horny and I licked her to orgasm.

I really enjoy eating her ass, but have to plead to be allowed to do it; sometimes she is in the mood for it, other times not. She did take a new liking to my tongue on her clit that wasn’t there before and her usual way of orgasm is now by my tongue. (Experimenting with dildos hasn’t even started as the real life currently doesn’t give the preparation space and privacy right needed.)

After four weeks of no spilling I was finally able to convince my wife to let me have a three course late night dinner: First eat her ass, second her pussy and for desert lick my spillage from her tits.

Her ruin wasn’t perfect, though, due to an unfamiliar position to get the juice on her tits, and given that it was four weeks worth, the load was huge. Challenged by the drop in horniness and the volume, I only managed to eat half of it.

The next morning I reveled in the experience but felt very guilty about not following through with my plan fully. I asked her to provide more encouragement with the necessary strictness next time.

I am however proud that we quickly managed to go from ruined orgasms after every time we have sex to a four week dry spell (and no accidental spills in between, either!).

Surfing on the high of being denied for four weeks was addictive. After three weeks there have been moments that felt like heat waving through my body like never felt before. This and making eating the spill compulsory add to the predicament of desperately wanting to spill (by male design) on the one hand but also not wanting to spill and the horniness to edge off on the other.

On the side I’m experimenting with cages. The really short A274-1 fits surprisingly well, but being uncut is bringing it’s own challenges into the fold. With the foreskin left pulled back, the head developed an irritation within two hours of wearing with underwear that took three days to go away.

The copycat HT nub might be too tiny, I’m having problems fitting it, so I ordered the HT nano both in steel and plastic from DHgate to experiment more. If only the delivery wait times were shorter...
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Re: [Ruined1] My journey into chastity

Post by Ruined1 » Wed Sep 25, 2019 3:35 pm

So. Life got in the way. Just as a brief update:
- Still haven‘t found a suitable cage for uncuts, maybe for lack of trying...
- She likes to have PIV more than I would like, but has been cutting it short lately „seems like you are having too much fun, I want to be licked now“ - so all in all I can‘t complain 👍🏼
- honor system is actually working well, with only small incidents
- she doesn’t like to have her asshole licked half as much as I want to lick it
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Devices I own: Holytrainer v2, DHgate A274-1, DHgate HT nub - Spareparts Joque

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