[Yumbojones] Tentative beginnings

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[Yumbojones] Tentative beginnings

Post by Yumbojones » Sun Nov 25, 2018 3:47 pm

Seeeing that things have gone reasonably well with the initial mention of chastity with my wife I said I would start keeping a log of this journey as best I can.

Small backstory

I have been interested in all things femdon for as long as I can remember back to when I was a teenager being taught by some very strict nuns but when I got married that side of me kind of took a back seat. It was only after we had our first child that my desire started again. I used the Internet to look at femdom porn and masturbated quite frequently to this. I hid this side of my personality for several years. It was after the birth of our first child that we began to experiment with lingerie, sex toys etc. It was at this time that she began using a strap on to fuck me with. This was my suggestion. From what I can see she gets no pleasure from using the strap on me. I usually masturbate until I cum when she fucks me. We would use the strap on every couple of months maybe. Aside from that we're pretty vanilla.

16/11/18
Following on from our initial chat about chastity and subsequent ordering of a device, I've since ordered a further 2 Chinese devices. All fairly cheap plastic knock offs. These are due within the next week or so I reckon.

25/11/18
We have had another great chat about chastity this weekend. We were out for a few drinks and I mentioned it again. She explained that she could not see the point of it and what did I have to gain from it. I spoke about my fantasy around it and explained the benefits for her. Increased closeness, more help around the house, me having to earn release and her becoming the main focus of our sexy life. She was pleased enough with what I had to say and said she'd do some research online

I'm amazed how well this is going! I hope I don't mess it up.

Any tips at this point are very welcome
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Re: [Yumbojones] Tentative beginnings

Post by wishful4 » Mon Nov 26, 2018 8:48 am

Don't get in big hurry. Women, in general, have a hard time understanding MC. It took my spouse a long, long time to get her arms around it. A lot of it is probably societal, where sex has always been about the male orgasm. Help steer her towards good reading material without being pushy. Us guys want everything to happen now. Just understand it doesn't happen that way with women. Take your cues from her and pack your patience. She will have to do her research and understand what MC is all about. Then, she will have to find something in it that turns her on sexually. Good Luck!
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Re: [Yumbojones] Tentative beginnings

Post by Yumbojones » Mon Nov 26, 2018 12:22 pm

wishful4 wrote:
Mon Nov 26, 2018 8:48 am
Don't get in big hurry. Women, in general, have a hard time understanding MC. It took my spouse a long, long time to get her arms around it. A lot of it is probably societal, where sex has always been about the male orgasm. Help steer her towards good reading material without being pushy. Us guys want everything to happen now. Just understand it doesn't happen that way with women. Take your cues from her and pack your patience. She will have to do her research and understand what MC is all about. Then, she will have to find something in it that turns her on sexually. Good Luck!
I sent her the below link yesterday evening and followed up by asking her this morning has she read it yet, she just answered a terse no. I'm only home from work now and I'm doing my best to resist temptation to ask again.
I'm going to heed your advice and not say anything about it until at least one of the devices arrives, hopefully she'll bring it up herself.

https://dominajen.com/2018/02/06/my-hus ... tity-help/
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Post by Kitten » Mon Nov 26, 2018 2:41 pm

KBT left the following book on my pillow the day he introduced the concept of MC to me. Reading it & beginning the chaste life has turned our marriage & relationship around. I still got back to it occasionally.

Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders by Lucy Fairbourne
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/19056 ... bl_vppi_i1
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Post by Yumbojones » Mon Nov 26, 2018 3:53 pm

Kitten wrote:
Mon Nov 26, 2018 2:41 pm
KBT left the following book on my pillow the day he introduced the concept of MC to me. Reading it & beginning the chaste life has turned our marriage & relationship around. I still got back to it occasionally.

Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders by Lucy Fairbourne
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/19056 ... bl_vppi_i1
Thank you. I shall do some reading...
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Post by Yumbojones » Wed Nov 28, 2018 4:12 am

We had another brief chat about it this morning. I jokingly asked how was the research coming along. She laughed and said fine..
She then said she has no issue with the idea of it and she'll go along with it when the device arrives. But she still can't see what I get out of it.

I asked had she read the link I sent and she said she hadn't. So I suggested she read it today if she had time and we'd discuss it when we were alone later.

So far so good!
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Post by wishful4 » Wed Nov 28, 2018 7:53 pm

Agree with Kitten. Ms Lucy's Keyholder's Guide is a very good book for new Keyholders. Remember my earlier advice. Don't be pushy. Give her the time she needs to explore this subject and gain some understanding. Also, remember every conversation you have with her does NOT have to be about male chastity and keyholding, no matter how excited you are about it. There, consider yourself scolded!! :lol:
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Post by Yumbojones » Thu Nov 29, 2018 2:55 am

You're right. Scolding warranted and accepted. Excitement is getting the better of me. I shall revert to my earlier statement. I'll hold my tongue until a device arrives.
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Re: [Yumbojones] Tentative beginnings

Post by Yumbojones » Fri Dec 07, 2018 5:36 pm

First device arrived yesterday. A cheap Chinese clone of a CB6000. I wore it for a few hours last night. Had some fun with herself while wearing it when the kids were gone to bed. Without going into detail. It was very one sided towards her and it was amazing! She asked me to take the cage off before going to sleep and then said she wants me to wear it again Saturday and we could play it by ear then as to how long I keep it on. She commented several times that she thought it looked very uncomfortable. I had to keep reassuring her that it was fine.

Wearing the device felt really good. I had some discomfort at times but that's to be expected I'm sure. Plus the device itself is not very well made and I imagine would only be suitable for short term use. I was extremely aroused while wearing it. My cock was throbbing!

After reading many of the logs here I have ordered Lucy Fairbournes book from amazon. I managed to get a pdf version online for free but I think a physical copy would carry more weight. I plan to just leave it on my wifes beside locker and let her read at her leisure.

Thanks for the advice from everyone here so far. The softly softly approach has definitely worked so far.

It's very much appreciated.
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