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Well my first post was on Monday - 3 days ago. I talked to my wife about chastity for me yesterday (see my post under Hello World). It was really hard to admit why I was wanting this. She was not surprised by me taking care of myself vs PIV. And when we do have PIV I could not orgasm but I always make sure she comes. We talked about her not being interested in sex when she told me something happened to her as a young girl but did not share any details. After her interest in sex had declined and talked about it over the years, this is the first time this has come up. She requested a change to my plan so I will be locked for 20 days unlocked, visiting our daughter and family then locked back up until Nov 10 for a getaway. Hoping that ~60 without masturbating will help ‘reboot’ my system into orgasming when it should during PIV, inside my love.

Side question for all - any recommendations how to boost the wife’s libido?

WOW, day 3 and the wife is getting into this.


When I talked to my wife 3 days ago she was not OK with chastity for me. Her thoughts were after the 60 days I will want lots of PIV, what guy would not want that. We went to bed with her in her pajamas and pick a show to watch while falling asleep. The next thing I know is she is getting up stripping and laying back down asking me to take care of her. How could I refuse my wife being all locked up. (part of what I had in my letter to her was I would take care of her nightly) remember she has initiated very little in the past. After her having multiple Os and relaxing afterwards she said “After the 60 days are you staying locked up? I said if you want. Well her response was maybe this chastity is not so bad. WOW what have I created.


When making her O, I was surprised how hard is was becoming, I normally have to take cialis to help me.

any recommendations how to boost the wife’s libido?

Looks like you've got it covered.

NeedingToBeLocked wrote: ↑Sat Sep 15, 2018 4:23 pm WOW, day 3 and the wife is getting into this.

Well her response was maybe this chastity is not so bad. WOW what have I created.

From a post early in my journey:

I jokingly remarked that I had created a monster. She said it was more like woke one up.

It appears that your wife is reac ting much like mine did. If she is, you're in for one helluva journey!

Day 5 (yesterday).

After going to bed, I tried to give my wife a good O, but none to be had. One issue we have is that she is very dry at times. That is part of why she does not like PIV.

Sometime during the night, I slipped out of my HTv3 (I was not trying it just happened) , I noticed this when I was getting up for the day, trying a smaller base ring hoping that helps.

Sept 21, 2018

Day 9 locked & since I last masturbated, redirecting my love to my wife. Still going to try for 58 days before having PIV on a nice getaway weekend. (see reasons in my first journal post).

Well smaller base ring seems to be working, was afraid to go too small to begin with. The one painful issue is having nocturnal erections and the ring strangling my balls, OUCH does that hurt!! Getting up to urinate helps, but never had to get up so often to get to the bathroom.

I am feeling much better about myself and more energy in general and doing projects around the house.

Day 29 locked & since I last masturbated, redirecting my love to my wife. Still going for 58 days before having PIV on a nice getaway weekend. (see reasons in my first journal post). A few days ago my wife ordered a dress for out getaway weekend, after it arrived she modeled it asking how it looked on her. I was surprised no bra under the dress (she never goes without one when going out) I said it looks great and she said she was going to wear it like this for on our getaway weekend.

Been a while since I posted. After wearing a HTv3 for about 2 ½ weeks have changed to a birdcage (clone) feels much better in a metal cage vs plastic and much easier to keep clean.
After taking care of the wife last night making her O, she asked why I like to make her O. My answer was that since I enjoy having an O with her, I thought she was liking them too. This went on to talking about how she thinks that she was not supposed to enjoy sex, stupid things that the nuns drilled into her head and others growing up.
I continue to feeling much better about myself and more energy in general and doing projects around the house.

NeedingToBeLocked wrote: ↑Mon Sep 17, 2018 9:31 am Day 5 (yesterday).

One issue we have is that she is very dry at times. That is part of why she does not like PIV.

Have you ever tried water based lubricant? Ever since I first tried it has been a constant in all relationships, even with my current wife who has no problem self lubricating - she enjoys the feeling in her and also for masturbating me. It seems strange at first to use something during sex, but definitely not as strange as a chastity cage lol