[14005] What the heck am I about to do!
Posted: Wed Aug 02, 2017 6:33 pm
The journey. What will mine look like, will I even start? I don’t know.
I’ve been looking into / considering chastity for something like a year and a half, haven't really kept track. My goal very bluntly is to stop wanking. My wife and I have sex very predictably once a week on the weekend. Trouble is I can't keep from jacking off after that usually something like M, T, W, maybe R, and then wait for the weekend; I hate it, I want all my orgasms to be with my wife.
I self-tried a cheap Chinese device maybe 6 or 8 months ago. I discovered that it was way too easy to escape. Then tried a vice (similar to a CB but with a vice feature that is supposed to prevent pullout). That was pretty easy to escape too. Very recently I went to tetherproducts.com and paired that with the vice. So far completely inescapable (and I am really good at escaping) - very important considering my goals (I would cheat if I could).
So today is a bit of a unique day. I haven’t pulled the trigger on chastity yet as the two devices I had tried were easily escapable. Knowing myself that I would wank if I could (unless truly locked up) there just wasn’t any point in suggesting this to my wife. Until now. She is away for the day, maybe overnight. I wanted to know what it would be like to put on an inescapable device with no key to find. Before she left I hid the keys / tools (the tether uses a tool as a key) in her trunk. But about mid-day I started getting more sore in my urethra (fortunately better now). I thought, well I’ll just take it off and try again some other day. The tether is designed to be released with a special size allen wrench. I thought maybe a small pliers would work. No go. I was determined to give up and get out of it, I really did try, but no go. I am really locked in - and I love it. Not having the ability to do myself, I can’t wait to approach my wife on this (delicate matter I know).
Really what my problem was is I had an affair a few years back and it has been more than difficult to leave her behind. Fortunately she is in another state and we have no contact. However pictures of her are all over the internet and it was just so easy to get her picture on-screen and wank-off to her (great way to pro-long the agony b.t.w.). So I guess her pictures were a sort of porn (though I'm not much at all of a porn watcher).
Complicated subject that I won’t go into more other than these few tid-bits: 1) I belong with my wife, I love her, and have chosen to stay with her, 2) affairs are EXTREMELY destructive. Don’t do it unless you for sure want to leave your situation and commit to this new person. Very likely YOU will be the one most hurt (I was and it was way more than I bargained for). I tried many apps and such and FINALLY found ways to block all her pictures on the internet. That was 2 weeks ago and my desire for her has diminished pretty substantially. Couple that with not being able to wank in anyway except WITH my wife (soon), and I can feel good about myself, move on, and have a new life.
So I know it won’t be so easy. This may not be a magic bullet. But I’m optimistic. Concern one is the device I’m practicing on. Security is top priority for me, the tether offers that. But I can get sore in my urethra. Especially to put it on (and taking it off) can be almost grueling. It was sore earlier today, but is now getting better. Maybe my body is settling in / adapting to it. It is high grade stainless steel, hopefully no reaction in a sensitive area, we’ll see. Concern two: the reality of it. What will this REALLY be like? I guess I won’t know until we try this. How did many of you feel just prior to trying this with your significant other? Apprehensive? Excited? I guess both of those is where I am at.
So to approach the wife…… I’ll make another post with questions on this, or use the search function, or likely both. I’m sure there are many threads on this. We will be traveling lots for the next 2 months. So I may just shelf this until after. Or maybe in the next day or two I’ll talk to her. I just don’t know. I’ll update my journal when it happens.
I’m hoping to be locked during daytime hours and free at night in bed with her. I enjoy her nakedness. My goal is to have more sex with her, not less. But only with her. So rather than 1x per week with her (and 5x or 6x by myself), I’m hoping for 2x per week with her. We’ll see how it goes. I really like the idea of her having the keys and being in control, me being sexually submissive. But I don’t want her to get overly dominant to the point of her not wanting to have sex with me and to leave me locked for weeks or months at a time. My goal is to have sex with her, alone.
I’ve been looking into / considering chastity for something like a year and a half, haven't really kept track. My goal very bluntly is to stop wanking. My wife and I have sex very predictably once a week on the weekend. Trouble is I can't keep from jacking off after that usually something like M, T, W, maybe R, and then wait for the weekend; I hate it, I want all my orgasms to be with my wife.
I self-tried a cheap Chinese device maybe 6 or 8 months ago. I discovered that it was way too easy to escape. Then tried a vice (similar to a CB but with a vice feature that is supposed to prevent pullout). That was pretty easy to escape too. Very recently I went to tetherproducts.com and paired that with the vice. So far completely inescapable (and I am really good at escaping) - very important considering my goals (I would cheat if I could).
So today is a bit of a unique day. I haven’t pulled the trigger on chastity yet as the two devices I had tried were easily escapable. Knowing myself that I would wank if I could (unless truly locked up) there just wasn’t any point in suggesting this to my wife. Until now. She is away for the day, maybe overnight. I wanted to know what it would be like to put on an inescapable device with no key to find. Before she left I hid the keys / tools (the tether uses a tool as a key) in her trunk. But about mid-day I started getting more sore in my urethra (fortunately better now). I thought, well I’ll just take it off and try again some other day. The tether is designed to be released with a special size allen wrench. I thought maybe a small pliers would work. No go. I was determined to give up and get out of it, I really did try, but no go. I am really locked in - and I love it. Not having the ability to do myself, I can’t wait to approach my wife on this (delicate matter I know).
Really what my problem was is I had an affair a few years back and it has been more than difficult to leave her behind. Fortunately she is in another state and we have no contact. However pictures of her are all over the internet and it was just so easy to get her picture on-screen and wank-off to her (great way to pro-long the agony b.t.w.). So I guess her pictures were a sort of porn (though I'm not much at all of a porn watcher).
Complicated subject that I won’t go into more other than these few tid-bits: 1) I belong with my wife, I love her, and have chosen to stay with her, 2) affairs are EXTREMELY destructive. Don’t do it unless you for sure want to leave your situation and commit to this new person. Very likely YOU will be the one most hurt (I was and it was way more than I bargained for). I tried many apps and such and FINALLY found ways to block all her pictures on the internet. That was 2 weeks ago and my desire for her has diminished pretty substantially. Couple that with not being able to wank in anyway except WITH my wife (soon), and I can feel good about myself, move on, and have a new life.
So I know it won’t be so easy. This may not be a magic bullet. But I’m optimistic. Concern one is the device I’m practicing on. Security is top priority for me, the tether offers that. But I can get sore in my urethra. Especially to put it on (and taking it off) can be almost grueling. It was sore earlier today, but is now getting better. Maybe my body is settling in / adapting to it. It is high grade stainless steel, hopefully no reaction in a sensitive area, we’ll see. Concern two: the reality of it. What will this REALLY be like? I guess I won’t know until we try this. How did many of you feel just prior to trying this with your significant other? Apprehensive? Excited? I guess both of those is where I am at.
So to approach the wife…… I’ll make another post with questions on this, or use the search function, or likely both. I’m sure there are many threads on this. We will be traveling lots for the next 2 months. So I may just shelf this until after. Or maybe in the next day or two I’ll talk to her. I just don’t know. I’ll update my journal when it happens.
I’m hoping to be locked during daytime hours and free at night in bed with her. I enjoy her nakedness. My goal is to have more sex with her, not less. But only with her. So rather than 1x per week with her (and 5x or 6x by myself), I’m hoping for 2x per week with her. We’ll see how it goes. I really like the idea of her having the keys and being in control, me being sexually submissive. But I don’t want her to get overly dominant to the point of her not wanting to have sex with me and to leave me locked for weeks or months at a time. My goal is to have sex with her, alone.