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Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Sun May 29, 2016 9:06 am
by attentive_husband
In the middle of teasing me this weekend my wife said - "no orgasm for a year." And she clearly intends to follow through on it.

She may decide at some point that she wants me to cum. But she has become comfortable that the sex is what she wants and what I want is irrelevant. In addition she is getting more and more turned on denying me.

Both very arousing and very scary. The longest she's had me go so far is 4 weeks and that clearly was the limit she was willing to put me through before.

Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Wed Jun 01, 2016 7:12 am
by attentive_husband
The other morning I told my wife when we woke up of a dream I had. (All my dreams now are of her teasing & denying me.)

She had me go on. And then told me to go shower as she reached in her nightstand for her vibrator.

Aside from a good morning kiss there was no touching between us. The entire shower I was straining inside my cage knowing that she was getting herself off. And that what turned her on the most did not include our getting physical.

I hope that there will still be intense touching between us. But at the same time, if it moves to just talking and she then masturbates on her own, that would in some ways be the ultimate tease & denial.

I have no idea where she's taking us. I'm not sure she does either...

Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2016 9:32 pm
by attentive_husband
This just got a lot more real. I was unlocked for a couple of minutes today to try on a new cage (lock didn't fit). After being locked back up, as we kissed, I reached into her hand where she held the key and tried to take it from her. I was just joking (mostly). At first she tightened her grip on the key.

But the she looked at me, said "ok," and put the key in my hand. She then stood there looking at me waiting to see what I would do. Not even directly challenging me, but looking at me to see what I would do.

I thought through that she was giving me the opportunity to masturbate (it's been a month since I had an orgasm). I had a couple of hours available. I really wanted to. And...

In under 2 seconds I handed it back to her. No anguished decision. Not long back and forth in my mind. It was just it's her decision if/when I get to do anything and so I handed it back to her.

And she then dropped it in her cleavage (which is substantial). Between her lovely boobs that I only get to see or touch maybe once a week.

I am so fucking owned by her.

Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Thu Jun 16, 2016 9:41 pm
by attentive_husband
Oh, and last Saturday we had sex for the first time in 4 weeks. Several times she told me I could not be in her again, then did let me in (until the final time when she meant it that it was no more). Many times told me I could cum, then when I got close told me no and pushed me out. Basically destroyed me.

Then this morning (5 days later) when I said that I so wanted to be in her again, she told me that no, I had "just" been in her and it would be a couple of weeks. And she said it in passing. It was of course, no big deal. My wife clearly likes denying me and I think I'm going to get to have full sex (no cumming) maybe once a month. God I miss that so bad.

I only get tease/touched every 3 - 4 days. I get to touch/kiss her breasts maybe once a week. It looks like being in her is going to be once a month or so. I'm not sure now when the year is up if she'll let me cum. It is unbearable torture & denial.

But then when we do do something - my god it's beyond anything I've every felt sexually. Indescribably intense.

And this is just 7 months after we started this journey.

Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Sun Jun 26, 2016 7:18 pm
by attentive_husband
This weekend was a contradiction. This past Friday was 5 week, 5 days with no orgasm. My wife had told me I was going a year.

But she was going out of town and decided to unlock me as a present. And told me I could watch porn and masturbate all I wanted. Oh my god!!!

So Friday night... I almost didn't do anything. I finally did and while I was masturbating it felt so good with no second thoughts. And when I came, again felt good although nowhere near as intense as anything with her recently.

And then 30 seconds later... regret that she had let me out. Not regret that I took advantage of it, but regret that she let me out.

Bot Saturday & Sunday I repeated, but only once. I could have pulled it off 3 times each day. I even considered locking myself back up and mailing the keys to our house to stop myself. And again, great while doing it but very mixed emotions afterwards.

I locked myself up today (Sunday) after my morning shower. It felt good to be locked back up even though I could have unlocked it. And later this evening my wife will have the keys again and then we're back to me being under her control.

Part of me is scared she'll never give me an open weekend again. And part of me is hoping she'll never allow it again.

Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Tue Feb 28, 2017 5:42 pm
by attentive_husband
Gee, 8 months with no update. I'm not going to add much in the way of specifics but big picture - my wife is coming to embrace this more and more.

We've definitely reached the point where she's not willing to leave me unlocked. When I asked if we could end this if I wanted to, she said we would have to have a serious talk about how would I remain the new wonderful husband without it.

She keeps saying no orgasm for months. And then lets me out sooner. I'm good with that. It's usually 4 - 6 weeks although sometimes just 1 or 2 weeks. I enjoy getting to cum although after it's a bit of a let down. But leaving her in control works for me.

She has also come to enjoy being a prick tease. Sometimes multiple days in a row. More often every 3rd or 4th day. Sucks when it's a skip day, but more intense when she then decides to do something. And it has definitely lead to more orgasms, and more intense orgasms, for her.

When this works, it really is forever.

Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Sun Apr 23, 2017 12:53 pm
by attentive_husband
Over the past couple of months it's become clear my wife figures it should be at least 5 weeks between orgasms. And it felt like at 5 - 6 weeks she was figuring both she would like to have us make love and that I needed it.

But it seems to have shifted in the last couple of weeks where she now tells me that keeping me frustrated is better than having me in her. It used to be they're different but both good. Now it's they're different and me frustrated is better.

I'm on a business trip in a couple of weeks where I'm unlocked (airport security). But when I get back she says she interested to see how long we can go and is curious if we can do a year. Which means does she want to go a year.

Not sure if that will happen, but it probably will sooner or later.

Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Sun Apr 23, 2017 12:55 pm
by attentive_husband
Oh, and this weekend she decided it's naked and no touching weekend. Normally she now wears a nightgown and I don't see her naked except for 1 or 2 mornings each month. But this weekend she's naked. I can see her and she's lying in bed next to me.


I can hold hands and kiss her. But that's it. I'm just about insane lying there unable to roll over against her. This may be worse than no orgasm.

Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Fri Sep 22, 2017 1:14 pm
by attentive_husband
Nothing new to say really. The few times I've been let out for business trips, while I masturbated like crazy, I also felt off/wrong and looked forward to getting locked back up. My wife generally makes me got 4 - 5 weeks between orgasms, often driven by my being about to leave on a business trip.

I recently asked her to fully embrace my chastity for 3 months and she agreed. That doesn't mean she won't let me out, but it does mean she focuses solely on what she wants and to not feel like she needs to let me out occasionally because of my desperation.

She's already made a couple of little comments that are inline with fully embracing it. So it'll be an interesting 3 months. And interesting to see what she wants to do when the 3 months are up.

Re: [attentive_husband] And I've started the journey

Posted: Sun Oct 22, 2017 9:31 am
by attentive_husband
Well she's definitely going with the embracing chastity. I think the 3 month period helped her a lot as occasionally she has said "I'm embracing" when doing, or not doing something. It's the most real it's ever been so far.

One big change has been I no longer ask her to unlock me. I don't even think it. I desperately want to cum and tell her that. But I seem to have accepted that my orgasms are for her, if/when she wants them. Yesterday at one point she said she wanted me in her and I started wondering if she would decide to unlock me, and if so if she would let me cum. But not a single thought about trying to influence her - because it is what she wants. (She didn't say another word about that and I remained locked.)

The other biggie yesterday (yesterday morning was definitely memorable) was she spanked me for real for the first time. With a paddle. It got to the point where it hurt a lot, I wanted to roll away from her, I wanted to beg her to stop. And I held my position because she wanted to spank me. I felt incredibly submissive. And it felt right - that I should be this submissive to her.

What's really game changing about this is not what we did, or even what I said. It's what I was thinking. Clearly I'm now mentally in a place where I'm her's wanting to make her happy and loved.