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Post by cycling2work » Wed Mar 28, 2018 1:21 pm

When I started Chastity this forum was my first place and I will be forever greatful to the site owners and moderators but also to everyone who shared their journals. This was the best place for me to start out as the mods made sure to weed out any of the bullshit stories.

I remember when reading the journals and at one point they would stop I always asked myself what happened to the author, does he still practice chastity, is he still with his wife. What happens long term.

Happy to tell you / I am now in this since 2 1/2 years and it only gets better. Here is an update from me:
My Keyholder was vanilla when we started and she has taken her new role very well. It just all takes time and patience. I also have evolved. Whilst at the beginning of the journey I didnt want anything to do with a FLR that is what we are in now and I couldn't be happier.

We went through counseling this past year and it helped a lot. We are now an amazing family but the end point to why I got the green light from the marriage counselor to stop seeing her was once I completely turned submissive to my Lady.

It happened when she came home from a business trip. I had been reading books and stories over the past year over the power of submitting and the last story I had read had the most impact, it was a true story of someone going down the "slave route" in his marriage and whilst struggling at first becoming happier and happier in the long run.

I can't be a full slave since we have 2 lovely kids however when my wife came back from that business trip I decided to act completely submissive. After 2 years of chastity I was already a lot more submissive and I had experience when giving up what I wanted and just cuddle up to her feet. It made me feel save.

So when she came that was all I did, I wanted to hug her, I was emotional and promised to be more submissive going forward. That was it.

Then at the next counseling session I told her and the therapist that my plan would be to do anything that makes my goddess happy. That is what I said in the session, that I had been thinking and that I am so much more happy when I can submit then when we both try to lead. The counselor/therapist was a little concerned and she asked my wife if she realized that goddess doesn't mean boss - it is so much stronger and if she feels comfortable with it. My wife said yes. We had one more session after that and we still fight but about 10% of what we used to fight or perhaps 5% and we make up so much faster then we used to. This is amazing. My Lady, as she asks me to call her now recently told me how in love she is with me and she is so grateful that we went down that road. She reminded me again that had it not been for the chastity device (and my resulting attitude change) we would probably by now be divorced.

Gotta run now. If there is interest that I add more details do let me know. There is quite a bit to tell.. :o
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Re: [cycling2work]From Porn addict 2 better husband. This wo

Post by TwistedMister » Thu Mar 29, 2018 4:02 am

cycling2work wrote:...Gotta run now. If there is interest that I add more details do let me know. There is quite a bit to tell.. :o
Most definitely :)
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Post by jfenoffti » Fri Mar 30, 2018 10:17 pm

TwistedMister wrote:
Most definitely :)
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Post by cycling2work » Tue Apr 03, 2018 2:42 pm

It is awesome to get a reaction around here. I feared I would be shouting in to the crowd with no response, thanks Twisted Mister and jfenoffti .

As you can see when I started my journal my marriage already improved just by using Chastity but it became amazing once I truly started submitting to my Lady. Also after we went to Marriage Counseling. We went for almost a year. Thankfully we both have good jobs and Therapists, whilst expensive do not cost as much here as they do in the USA so we never looked at the money aspect.

My wife recently told me if it hadn't been for the cage we would be divorced by now so the other day I thought I would ask her what relation my submission and the counseling had. I believe they were both important but had the feeling the submission had more weight than the counselling and my wife agreed. :):) She gave the submission a 10/10 and the Counseling a 7/10 So the slogan... Save yourself some money and do counselling AND submission that way you might be able to shorten the counselling periods. We did 1 year of marriage therapy but after 4 weeks of me submitting we didn't need Therapy anymore. However thinking back it wouldn't have worked without the cage and the 2 years of getting used to having the orgasms controlled.
And now.......

.... ;);) . In the past I purchased toys and introduced them to my wife and they would never be used. With the exception of the Wand which she loves. In Phase 3 as I call it (my thrid year of Chastity and my first year of full submission) I decided to open up more to my Lady and tell her that my fantasy was that she pegs me. I brought it up a few times and then asked for permission to buy a good harness and dildo. I did and have been pegged 4 times by now. First time was with a huge dildo (1.5 inch width) and I liked it although she was ever so careful, the second time was o.k., third time was a total disaster and the fourth time was a big improvement again. I liked it and am longing for more. Apart from the first time they were all done with a small dildo (1.25 inch width and 4.8 inch insertable lenght. I am scared of the big one... but want it. I also noticed that I am so calm, so submissive. I don't care if she decides she doesn't want to play with my cock, something she did almost every second night in the past if we were in harmony. I said to her last night I feel you have me exactly where you want me, right? And she just smiled. I so love my Lady.

Here is another one. On Sunday I was very grumpy as I didn't sleep enough. I didn't want it to spill over to our Relationship but it kind of did. So when she came back from her morning run, the kids watching TV, my mother in law who is with us at the moment downstairs I told her that I don't like myself this morning and am grumpy. I told her I longed for her to hit me into submission. She looked at me with wide eyes and I told her I really think it will work. She did, gave me 10 swats and left some love marks. She told me what each Swat was for. Some people might see this as topping from the bottom but it worked for both of us. I was a good Sub the rest of the day and still am :)
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