I am the KH to a very kinky husband, Mistress A Slave. I have always been open-minded about trying new things in bed but never had any specific fantasy or fetish. Mistress A Slave on the other hand had always had many different fantasies and things he wanted to do. After our 1st year of marriage we talked about chastity a few times and we decided to give it a try. My hubby tends to be a bit controlling when it comes to real life, so the first time we tried, it felt like he was pushing too hard and being too demanding. We tried for a little more than a month but I thought that "punishing" him and being "mean" to him would transform me into someone I am not, that we'd be disrespecting each other by doing so.
I had trouble to understand that being the dominant one in bed gave him the release he needed. I failed to comprehend that chastity is a lot more than just carrying a key around my neck. So we gave up on it before even trying.
A couple of months ago we started talking about chastity again and I decided to educate myself more on the matter. I started to experiment a little bit and follow the guidelines to see what we could get out of it. After a month of experimenting my opinion has completely changed, I feel like I've been the dominant one all along but just couldn't see it. We are back to a full FLR and I take a great deal of pleasure by making my husband do whatever I want, whenever I want and that makes us both happy. It's been a fun journey having a slave to fulfill my every demand anytime, anywhere. We've never been so close and so intimate.
I will keep you guys posted on all the fun details another time.
-Mistress A
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How goes the journey? Your story peaked my interest because like y'all (sorry I let my Texas show) He is more dominant out side of the bedroom, but loves the release of being submissive in the bedroom.
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It's always nice when Keyholder's can find something in male chastity for them. I have always thought it had such potential for our relationship, but I haven't had much success in getting my spouse to harness it. Mostly, in her mind, I think she just does it for my benefit. Good luck on your journey. I look forward to reading about it.
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Wishful4
Current Device: DhGate A271
Current Device: DhGate A271
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Most days are easy, some not so much. Hubby and I still need some adjusting when it comes to the power exchange. He's been good and is trying hard to become more and more submissive and I am genuinely enjoying it. Some days we have a little trouble to keep the lifestyle interesting because of our work routine, so we agreed on doing something sexual at least once every three days, it could be whatever I am in the mood for: tease/denial, cock/ball torture, anal play; he basically will do anything. He's happy to serve me.NormasMan wrote:How goes the journey? Your story peaked my interest because like y'all (sorry I let my Texas show) He is more dominant out side of the bedroom, but loves the release of being submissive in the bedroom.
I try to not over think things, let my imagination go wild and the most important thing: to have fun with it.
Right in the beginning we decided to create a contract and write down everything we expected from this. I think that was very important because we have something to base our routine on.
I keep a chore log which is updated on a daily basis and there I specifically describe what I expect from him and how it has to be done.
If he doesn't do his chores as I expect he has to go through some sort of punishment. The punishments usually involve either a flogger, a riding crop, and my favorite: a bamboo cane which is by far the most effective of them all.
Today I got him a nice leather collar and he has to wear it while he's serving me, that's also the only thing he wears. I find it very hot to have such a strong and handsome male being so attentive and ready to fulfill all my needs whenever I need him to.
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wishful4, I hope your KH can find the benefits of this lifestyle. There are so many.wishful4 wrote:It's always nice when Keyholder's can find something in male chastity for them. I have always thought it had such potential for our relationship, but I haven't had much success in getting my spouse to harness it. Mostly, in her mind, I think she just does it for my benefit. Good luck on your journey. I look forward to reading about it.
We have been researching a lot together and came across the book "Uniquely Rika". It has been a very insightful read and is helping us A WHOLE LOT. I strongly advise all KH and chaste husbands to read it.
And above all, talk to your partner about whatever doubts/fears may come, don't be afraid to discuss things. Honesty is everything.
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