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Post by sherulestherooster » Mon Mar 17, 2014 9:16 am

Thought it might be time to start a "journal" page. Within the past week or so we seem to have crossed a chastity tipping point in that my wife is much more interested in dominating me. We had a FANTASTIC sex talk Saturday (about 45 minutes of undisturbed and uninhibited discussion on sex) and I feel like we are "on the same page" in terms of communication of our desires and acting them out.

It would take me a while to go through an entire background of my interest in female domination and the years of trial and error that have gotten us to where we are today. Suffice it to say that I've made a lot of mistakes along the way, but have come to appreciate how we can meet each others needs.

To quickly summarize, she enjoys controlling my orgasms but never really liked using the physical chastity device (I have a mini-birdlocked and a CB-6000S). She recently has gotten more assertive with stretching out my denial periods, speaking that maybe just once a month is "all I need".

Last Tuesday night, after I brought her to orgasm with my tongue she confidently told me that she was "upset with me" (she really wasn't) and wanted me to lock up immediately. I was stunned, this is something I have wanted for so long but she seemed uninterested. I complied and have been locked ever since. She has made it clear that I am not getting unlocked anytime soon.
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Post by Lady M » Mon Mar 17, 2014 2:27 pm

All I can say is... woohoo! Yay for you!
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Post by sherulestherooster » Wed Mar 19, 2014 8:45 am

I have now been locked 24/7 for over a week (except for a 15 min shower). My longest prior lockup time was 8 days, so this is going to be a record for me. There is no indication from my wife that she has any real plans to unlock me. My guess is that this weekend would be the earliest, but I really have no idea. I feel that I am playing this pretty cool, although I have asked her about it here and there.

She unlocked me to clean up one morning. I thought the experience was rather arousing, because it played on my CFNM fetish as well as her ownership of my body. She didn't seem to actually want to do it, she seemed reluctant. Standing before her naked in the bathroom, she took the lock off and then I took the cage off, with a pretty significant erection immediately poking out. Everything looked as it should. I showered with the door open and she was still in the master bedroom. After I cleaned up, I had a naughty idea of facetiming her to show me installing the lock. She QUICKLY got up, came into the door and clicked the lock shut, smiled and left. I was rather surprised at how eagerly she did this. It made me feel all subby.

I woke up early this morning, probably due to an erection issue (they are rarely painful for me and I am a heavy sleeper) but also because I went to bed super early. We cuddled all night long. It was awesome. I kept thinking to myself: do I prefer this intimate, emotional, bonding experience that is just so intense when I am denied orgasm, or 6 seconds of OMG pleasure?
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Post by sherulestherooster » Sun Mar 23, 2014 11:52 am

My Queen unlocked me on Thursday and allowed me to come inside her. It was fantastic.

We have not spoken about our play time. We have both had issues to contend with at work and home. I'd really like to have an honest discussion about what we liked about my lockup time. Hopefully we will have some time tonight.

In all, I was locked up in the CB-6000S from Tuesday night through Thursday night, so that was ten days, which is the longest I've been under lock and key. It was exactly 3 weeks since my last orgasm. The underside of my scrotum is a little tender, but other than that no real issues. The only real discussion we had about the mechanics of me being locked up is that we both don't like the hygiene issue that much. My wife really didn't physically tease me much - I wonder if it's because of the hygiene concerns. In the ten day session, we played only twice with all the attention focused on my wife.

The night she unlocked me was the best. I was naked and had my legs spread. My cock struggled to get hard and "pulsed" up and down. She teased my inner thighs and pecked out my exposed testicles. She said it was time to unlock me and went to get the key. She teased me, saying she had changed her mind (that would have been hot too!) but ultimately unlocked the key and told me to take it off. I did, really quickly. I gave her a quick orgasm and then let her bask for a while.

She didn't actually say that I could come. She just unlocked me. I was rubbing against her, trying to figure out how to ask. I think she realized this, and said something to the effect that "you're going to have to ask permission to come". I did, and she said I could come inside her.

It wasn't the most intense orgasm I have ever had, but it was one of the LONGEST I can remember having. It was great.

How am I feeling? Pretty good. Not horny, but still feel the deep relaxation in my groin.
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Post by sherulestherooster » Sat Mar 29, 2014 10:24 am

The next time we played, we wound up giving her an orgasm with her now favorite technique, which is for me to finger her pussy really shallow and slowly at the "10 o'clock to 2 o'clock" position as I also apply the Hitachi to her clitoris. She came hard, and said something to the effect of "I can't believe how awesome that feels". This is now our standard way for her to climax now.

We did a little "pillow talk" and it seemed like a) there will be more lockups in my future; b) she didn't want me to come that night.

I knew she was almost on her period and I pleaded with her to let me at least feel her wetness on my cock. If I am to be denied, the "best" way from my perspective is to be so close to actually coming insider her and then her telling me to pull out. It just goes against all male instincts to hold off ejaculating intentionally and have her tell me that my time in her pussy is over. It puts me into sub-space to have to clean up my cock even if though I don't ejaculate. Sort of a role reversal as it were - she doesn't clean but I do.

She got to thinking that she wanted me to do this shallow thrusting technique with my cock. I agreed. She reiterated that she did not want me to come.

I was rock hard, and inserted just the tip of my cock in her and then attempted to replicate her the fingering motion. I have a pretty steep erection angle, so my cock was firmly in and pressed up against the tope of her vagina. She applied the vibrator and things were going pretty well... until she started moaning. I am very stimulated by verbal things like that. I knew I was in trouble. I sensed I was close to coming and I pulled out... several times. At this point, she wanted to come again (which is rare, she usually only goes for one orgasm even though she is perfectly capable of multiples) and told me to get back in. She said it was "ok" if I came in her, although it was obvious she didn't prefer that.

I got back in her, and I knew I was reaching the point of no return. As such, I started penetrating roughly and fortunately, she was ready to come. She said that my thrusting hard really turned her on and pushed her over the edge and we came simultaneously. It was an awesome experience for both of us. She went on her period the next day.

I wish that I could hold off longer, but all in all she didn't seem that upset that I came.
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Post by sherulestherooster » Sun Jun 15, 2014 3:28 am

We had an uncharacteristically open dialogue about orgasm control/chastity this weekend. My wife feels that denying me orgasm is a benefit in the sense that she likes how affectionate and loving I am towards her, but feels that I am too "high maintenance" for her. I got the sense that she really is conflicted about this. I made a mental note that I should back off a bit to give her some room.

Also, brought up the subject of the chastity device. We have a great many sex toys, most of which we rarely play with, some of which we have not yet even tried. She does in fact seem keenly aware of the chastity device - somehow I think she "forgets" about such things. I have "suggested" it a few times, and she seems pretty against it. Our "rule" has been that I am locked when we are apart overnight. The problem is a) that situation rarely comes up; b) when it does, she rarely enforces this rule (in this case, I think she really does forget about it, being rapt up in other things).

The last time I was locked, we both lamented about the hygiene issue with the device. I thought about pointing out a possible metal cage, but I really don't think that is worth the investment.

So, it doesn't seem that being locked up is in my future much. And I think I'm ok with it. She's the boss, after all.

So, there is a balance we must strike in our relationship, keeping me denied to enhance our intimacy vs. overly bothering her with wanted to play. That's where we stand right now.
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Post by sherulestherooster » Tue Nov 04, 2014 10:06 am

Locked again!!

To sum up, I am not locked up that often, probably 3-4 times per year. But we DO practice male orgasm denial. My orgasms seem to be getting fewer and far between. It seems like about 1-2 per month for me, and 10-12 per month for her.

We had an intense tease and denial session on Saturday night, I was on edge for about an hour. I told her I was super horny and thought I should lock up. Giving such a "suggestion" is usually bad for me, because she doesn't like topping from the bottom. To my surprise, she agreed. I could NOT put the device on, I was still hard from our session. She said that was OK, just put it on in the morning. I woke up before her, made her breakfast/coffee in bed, and then presented myself to her to snap the key shut.

She is having a stressful work week and on her period. I don't particularly like wearing the device to work/gym because it's kind of a pain... but I am really excited about finally being locked!

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Post by sherulestherooster » Wed Jul 25, 2018 9:52 am

Looking for advice, comments welcome (please).

We are not newbies, but going through some mid-life difficulties. I feel that I inherently crave variety - I'm the kind of person that is upset that there is only three ways to get to work. Likewise, I'm inherently "kinky".

We've had some ups and downs with playing out our kinks. I recently purchased a steel cage from dhGate and feel like I have a combination that works for me. I've done some self-locking when she's been away, but I've never told her I bought it; frankly it's not exactly hidden on our sex toy shelf. I'd say 40% chance she's seen it.

Anyway, we've had some tease and denial sessions lately, after a long hiatus. After a release, she says matter of factly, "ahh, I like you better when you are horny for me"; or "I like it better when you're always hard around me"; and when falling asleep with my erection against her, she seems really happy.

Last night, I was trying pretty hard for some sex play. she's on her period, and simply didn't want anything, wanted to cuddle. As I was trying, I was erect and "poking" her. out of the blue (seemingly), she says, "hey, I might have to lock you up again", she recognized how stunned/aroused/excited I was, then sorta dropped it.

So here's the thing - how do I bring this up? Should I bring this up? We tend to struggle with communication, and she really does not like topping from the bottom.
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Post by KittensBoyToy » Wed Jul 25, 2018 1:02 pm

Encourage her to register on the forum and read what others, especially other keyholders, have written about male chastity. She will have to ask to gain access to the Keyholder's Forum. The book, "Male Chastity, A Guide For Keyholders" by Lucy Fairbourne is what really got my wife to enthusiastically accept my/HER keys.
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Post by sherulestherooster » Thu Jul 26, 2018 11:57 am

Thanks for the feedback. Unfortunately, she's shown little interest for forums and books. I think she thinks it's "topping from the bottom".

Bottom line, we played again last night and she was pretty clear she didn't want me to climax. I've learned that once she gets that in her head, she doesn't change her mind. I used the Hitachi through her pad, which always makes me feel like I'm hurting her but she keeps telling me she needs more pressure to get over the edge. She came nicely.

Following that, she stroked me a little bit, then gave a nice CBT session. My balls feel "blue" today. She also told me she'd tease me tonight as we go to sleep.

So, seems like she's liking me being her chaste/denied hubby. Our quasi-FLR has had a lot of ups and downs, but I'm glad we're on an "up" right now.

I simply don't know how to bring up the fact that I got a new chastity cage. Although as I've said, she might have seen it. The thing is, she may view this as a "suggestion" which she really doesn't like.
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