[chastehub] better husband, better lover

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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by chastehub » Fri Oct 30, 2015 11:48 pm

In my last post i talked about rounding out the basering of my MM JB and the improvement it made in resolving a sore spot that formed regularly in one spot under and between the basering and the cage ring. It was an improvement, but the sore spot still returned, so although we've played on and off over the past year, i've never managed to go much more than a week of constant wear before the sore spot returned and put an end to the game.

The folks at MM just increased the diameter of the basering slightly and increased the gap size slightly, and after 24+ hours locked it is MUCH more comfortable and no sign that the sore spot is returning. i'm hoping the problem is finally resolved and we can get on with some long term play. As i type that the phrase "BCWYWF" keeps going through my head. :oops:
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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by chastehub » Fri Nov 20, 2015 7:25 am

Several weeks have passed since i had the MM JB resized and i can declare that the problem i was having with sore spots is resolved. That has changed the dynamic for us; before the longest i could go was one or two weeks before taking a break to allow things to heal. Now i can wear the device indefinitely and realize the comfort [and frustration] other JB wearers report. We haven't set any new duration records, but i'm sure that will happen.

At the start of this journey, when the lock first clicked, my submissive fires raged. i started doing all the chores around the house, cooked all the meals, did all the shopping, bought cards and flowers -- and that sudden change freaked out MyBride. We worked on finding a happy medium between the old (me doing little) and the new (me doing everything). We did find that happy medium for a while, but over time i've drifted back toward my old ways. Now that She has me securely locked She is again squarely in the center of my every thought. We've also added a new daily routine: i kneel and kiss Her feet every morning. It is amazing how that simple act stokes my submissive fires; it is the Ctrl-Alt-Del that resets my frame of mind.

MyBride has also been working at teasing me. We've had a couple sessions where She has tied me spread eagle, removed the cage and slowly rubbed just the tip of my junk while watching Her favorite TV shows. My pleasure ramps slowly, but after 20 minutes it gets intense. She is getting good at reading me and determining when to back off from the edge before ramping again. i find myself straining at the bonds, realizing i'm completely out of control and hating -- and loving -- every minute of it. When Her shows are over the cage goes back on and i'm left spooning Her with a raging hard on trying to break through the steel.

And yesterday morning we both woke before our alarms. We snuggled and caressed, and before you know it i had brought Her to a quick orgasm. She patted the cage, said "thanks" and headed to the shower.

I love that the game is back on...
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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by chastehub » Fri Feb 12, 2016 7:20 am

i was unlocked over the Christmas holidays (from about mid-December) due to numerous house guests and travels, and i was not relocked until last Saturday when, at my suggestion, we agreed to get the game going again by having me give up orgasms for lent. 40 days without an orgasm would set a new record for us (by far).

We've tried extended periods of denial before...once with a goal of 30 days...but just over 20 days in she got carried away during a play session, forgot about the goal and let me orgasm. (For the record, i'm not complaining...she is the sole decision maker when it comes to if and when.) This time, however, i think she may go the distance. The other night, after i gave her a nice orgasm, she was stroking me through the JB cage and said "too bad he doesn't get to come out and play for a month." i was instantly straining at the cage and listened to her gentle snores for over an hour as i spooned her and struggled to fall asleep.
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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by chastehub » Tue Feb 16, 2016 5:51 am

Oh what a night... Last night was the Grammy Awards, and that line from the song -- December 1963 by the Four Seasons -- is going through my head as i think about our evening.

After a busy day that carried over into the evening, we finally retired to the bedroom where MyBride surprised me by tying me to the bed spreadeagled. Just after tying me down, she climbed on top and humped me slowly and sensually while i strained against the bonds at my wrists and ankles, and against the cage. Humping me while caged was a first, and VERY hot. Then she tugged on the cage and said "you told me not to take this off for lent." i reminded her that i suggested i give up orgasms for lent, but that she could still let me out of the cage for teasing. She thought about that for a couple seconds, and said she wasn't sure she could take the cage off because she might get carried away. Oh God...what a BCWYWF moment. :shock:

While she had my full and undivided attention, she got down to her agenda...she felt that lately i've been watching a lot of TV and have not been as attentive or helpful as a "love slave" should be (a fair assessment). We agreed that going forward the only time i get to watch TV is with her feet in my lap and the remote in her hands. i can request to watch certain shows, but she ultimately decides and has total control of the TV. We also agreed that to get my submissive juices flowing, when i arrive home i'm to immediately get naked except for my bathrobe and begin looking for ways to help her around the house. If at anytime i'm not being attentive she can say "kneel," and i'm to kneel at her feet immediately in a submissive posture (knees spread, sitting back on my heels with hands behind my back) while she tells me what she wants done. i'm to rise and do as asked without any question or complaint.

From there she started the award show and began stroking me slowly. She kept me straining at the cage the entire duration of the show. Luckily, before getting started, we had recorded most of the show so she was able to skip through commercials and boring parts; otherwise it would have been a very long teasing session. It was the most amazing and frustrating couple of hours. When the show was over and she untied me, i offered a nice orgasm in return for the attention she showed me. She said "no, I'm tired, maybe tomorrow" and turned out the light.

Oh what a night...
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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by chastehub » Fri Feb 26, 2016 4:58 am

Last weekend, and the lead up to it, were one of MyBride's and my busiest and most stressful times of the year. We were looking forward to this week for some decompressing, relaxation and play, but then we both came (not that way, but i wish) down with colds. Consequently, there hasn't been much teasing or play.

She's had me locked for 19 days, and there are 28 days to go until the end of lent. Just typing that, and realizing we're not even halfway there, causes twitching in the cage. i hope we can shake these colds soon and get back to feeling like playing.
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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by chastehub » Sat Mar 05, 2016 7:07 am

When i suggested to MyBride that i give up orgasms for lent, i don't think i understood how long 40+ days really is. Not only that, but she locked me up the weekend before lent started, so all told it will have been 47 days between orgasms, assuming she allows me to cum when lent is over. i've been locked and orgasm-free for 27 days -- already a record for us -- with 20 more to go. Also, i was hoping for some out of cage teasing during this time, but so far she hasn't produced the key. i think she doesn't trust herself since last time we went for a record she got carried away during a teasing session and allowed me to cum.

The other night i brought her to a nice orgasm and as we snuggled after she teased me through the cage and asked "how's your lent been." The first word that came to mind was "frustrating." The lights were out but i could feel her smile.
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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by VinnyDee » Sat Mar 05, 2016 4:57 pm

Glad to hear that. We started chastity in our 60's. Going on 4 years now. We were already good to go in both departments when we started chastity, so nothing changed there. The thing that did change was that my wife was in charge of our sex life for the first time. I owe her a few thousand orgasms to repay her for the sexual freedom she gave me. Now it is all about her.
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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by chastehub » Wed Mar 09, 2016 2:19 am

Last night MyBride tied me spread eagle to the bed, and then enjoyed the final episode of Downton Abbey while teasing me through the cage: a 2 hour ordeal. i asked if She was going to unlock me (i really long for the feel of a full erection and Her skillful stroking). She replied that it has been so long -- 31 days now -- that i would cum too easily and She didn't want any accidents. While i'd love to be unlocked, She's probably right. So locked i stayed, straining against the cage. Torture, heavenly torture.
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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by locked4her55 » Wed Mar 09, 2016 8:33 am

chastehub wrote:and then enjoyed the final episode of Downton Abbey
:lol:

My wife knows that having to watch Downton Abbey would be a punishment for me.
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Re: [chastehub] better husband, better lover

Post by chastehub » Thu Mar 10, 2016 7:27 am

locked4her55 wrote:
chastehub wrote:and then enjoyed the final episode of Downton Abbey
:lol:

My wife knows that having to watch Downton Abbey would be a punishment for me.
She was sitting between me an the TV so i couldn't watch that show if i wanted to, i could only listen. It didn't really matter because there was a different show on that i was much more interested in, a porno of sorts that involved a lot of moaning, my moaning. :D
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