[Erock] My journey has begun

[Erock]

Hi everyone -

How it all began.. I am 30 years old and have been masturbating for almost 20 years straight 3-8 times a day. I have never been able to cum while having sex, or from a blow job for that matter. I have also never had sex with out a condom. My girlfriend became self conscious because I was unable to cum. She finally was able to jerk me off but it took a lot of effort on both parts and now I was asking her all the time to jerk me off. It lead me to search the web. I went out and ordered a cb.
I talked to her about my problems and she laughed and said it wasn't normal and didn't want any part of it. She didn't understand why I must masturbate everyday. She believed it as cheating but she said lets try it if it doesn't hurt. We tried it a few days, but she really wasn't going along with it. One day she left for work I saw the key and unlocked myself and masturbated. Later that night we talked and she said she didn't realize it was that big of a problem and she now will be taking it more seriously. Our goal is for me to lower my libido and to be able to finish inside her while we have sex. I have been locked up for one week now. I have never gone this long with out madturbation ever. This thing is crazy! So many mind games. My girlfriend is coming along and not allowing me out, and asking for massages. I have always been an attentive boyfriend and we already split up housework, we really don't want punishment and rewards, we just want to end the craving for madturbation. I feel great knowing she is happy knowing I haven't masturbated. I asked the other night to take it off and she said no, she thinks it's working.

My question to all of you - what kind of schedule should we go on to achieve our goals? To all key holding girls is she starting to like this and should I be scared? She is thinking 2-3 weeks until I am able to try and cum during sex and if I don't in an appropriate amount of time it's back in a locked for even longer till my body learns.

[locked4her55]

Sounds like you both are working towards a common goal. She would like to have you cum inside of her and it sounds like you want to have that happen too.

I'm sure it's going to be tough for you (especially at 3+ times a day) but it sounds like she is warming up to having you locked up and I think that's great on her part. You can read many threads here that describe their reluctant wife’s at first becoming wonderful keyholders with time. It looks like you have made a good start so I would put your "penis in her hands", so to speak.

Hopefully after 3-4 weeks, when let out you will have a great release that you both will enjoy.

As you put it, "My journey has begun"

[Finn]

I find that being locked up increases the level of sensation during sex. This is one of the big reasons I went back to it after a few years away from it. I was finding it harder to get and stay aroused, but the level of sensation is amped up when it's been without stimulation for a long enough period. This may be a big help in making it possible to get you off during sex. Much of reaching orgasm for me is also mental. Too much masturbating to porn seems to both de-sensitize the cock, and, in the case of porn, it conditions us to get off to images that are more graphic than the sex we tend to have. If you get aroused at the thought of being denied/locked up...then focus on that during sex. See if she'll tell you what will happen if you dont cum. Sometimes the biggest orgasm comes from the thought of not being able to have one.

[Erock]

Thanks guys.

I was doing some more research and trying to figure out what I should do
to kick the masturbation habit. I high a much higher sex drive then my girlfriend and I know she would eventually want me out of this device. With that said I have read
3 months of no release and even a year to kill the habit. Is that how long it really takes to kill the habit?

I have noticed the past two days haven't been as intense as the first couple of lock up. I can't imagine going 3 or 4 weeks let alone 3 months. How do you guys and key holders do this?

[TwistedMister]

I have noticed the past two days haven't been as intense as the first couple of lock up. I can't imagine going 3 or 4 weeks let alone 3 months. How do you guys and key holders do this?

*Some* of us are a little older, and we're just not quite as horny as we were when we were younger.

[Anymouse]

*Some* of us are a little older, and we're just not quite as horny as we were when we were younger.

Maybe you're not as horny. . . .

I have a similar problem with an inability to cum, but it is due to a combination of a botched circumcision and abuse (ooo I outed myself here). . . .

The chastity lifestyle has done a couple things:
a) Being locked away makes everything more sensitive (and me more -ah- aroused)
2) It decouples "sex" from "abuse" in my mind, as this is one thing I was allowed to do (rather than forced to do). Even though Miss BethK now holds the key to my nether regions in her heart (see avatar) this was a choice rather than force. That makes a world of difference.

[Erock]

We had a great and busy labor day weekend. I got to get out of my cb6000s for the weekend, with the condition of no masturbation if so, I would face a very long lock up her choice not mine. I noticed most of the weekend I had an erection that wouldn't go away. I have busy week at work this week and my girlfriend is heading out of town this weekend with her family and has made it clear that I am going to be locked up while she is out of town so we can continue or good proggress. It's weird after I have gone this long a month seems possible now and three months seems to like it could be a struggle but still possible.

[Erock]

I am approaching three weeks of Lock up this Friday. I was able to go with my girlfriend out of town to her family's lake house this past weekend. She had me remove the cd for the weekend since the cabin is so small and all of her family would be there. I noticed that my penis was much smaller the first two days I was not in chastity. I would try to stroke myself when I could and not much would happen. I would only grow and get hard when I would passionately kiss her. When we go back her penis was locked back up. I wasn't thrilled about it, I did miss the freedom. I became extremly moody yesterday and have become super horny. I still have orgasmed or masturbated for 19 days, it seems as it has been an eternity.

[Erock]

It worked!! I was able to cum multiple times this past Friday with out hands. Best feeling ever. We also decided to make this a little more fun since we both don't care for the chastity device. We decided to do a weight loss challenge with releases being the reward. I have more weight to loose than her so I have to loose 15 lbs the first time and she has to loose 3 lbs. we weigh in once a week so I can't get a release more than once a week. We both put $10 in the pot every week to start. If we cheat on our diet we get penalized by having to put in more money, and I also get penalized on days added for after hitting my target. We wrote the list of bad food and the money and dollar amount associated with each food. If I hit my goal and she doesn't I get to choose how I get the release, so if we both hit it it's through intercourse only. If we miss our goal at weigh in it is additional days and we have to pay a penalty and I get no free days out of chastity. As of right now while we are both home and not working I get to be out of chastity now, but if I am home alone I have to put it on. We both have a end goal, once the end goal is hit by both of us we are using the money put in the pot to go by a iPad. We started on Saturday and I weighed in at 229 lbs. my first goal is to hit 214. We weigh in every Tuesday morning and I weighed in at 223. She gained 1.4 pounds. We both view each others weigh in on Tuesday morning complete nude first thing in the morning. My end goal is 190. Her goal is only 15 lbs to loose. So today was officially the first day of the challenge. Hopefully I can loose 9 lbs by next week. Also from whatever day I meet the challenge and if I have any days added she has one week from that day to give me the release. If I can't cum from sex its I get locked up and have to wait. My goals and her goals will go down each time do my next goal from 214lbs will have to be 206lbs. And hers will prob 1-3lbs. We both like the idea of chastity know with this game added to it, and we know being sustained from masturbation that I have all the feeling and sensitivity restored back in my penis that I was able to cum from intercourse. Chastity has helped our relationship so much. I feel so great about it and not ashamed to tell anybody about it.

[Erock]

So we adjusted our rules and simplified them for our weight loss challenge.

Every week it $10 each, $20 if you go up in weight from the previous week
We weigh in every Thursday morning together butt naked (except the cd for me)
And I cannot get any time out of my cd when we are both home if I go up in weight
I get a release if I hit my target at weigh in her way if we both hit our goal
I get a release my way if I hit my target and she doesn't hit hers
We will set the next goals with and for each other after we both hit our targets
We both have ultimate goals and when we both hit our ultimate goal for two consecutive weeks we will then go and take our saved money and by something together or put it towards a vacation.
If at any time I am pestering her to take it off she can add more weight or days till I can get my release.
I get my release within one week of hitting my target at her discretion

She is really digging the chastity thing now. I might get my next release she said in 4 or 5 weeks if I am at my target weight because I was complaining the other day, and she said that's being nice because she saw me touching myself with the cd off and she really wants to do much much longer like not till I hit my ultimate goal weight (190 lbs. I am 222 right now). So she said don't bitch and maybe in a month or so you can get one of those mind blowing orgasms you want.