[Decman]...Journey

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Decman
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Back from vacation. I was released from the cage the morning we took off for our vacation.... but that was about it. A week with her family, various kids, aunts uncles etc etc in a vacation house didnt really put her in the mood. Then she got her monthly bill, while -- interestingly enough -- I got a rash from wearing a wet swimsuit all day (yeah -- 2 weeks in a cage with no issues, and I get a rash from 6 hours in a suit?). Anyway, it was a frustrating week -- lots of denial and no tease.

Last night was the first time we had a chance to get together, and we had a great session. I'm out of the CB until she says to go back in. Entirely on the honor system.
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I couldn't hack the honor system. .On Saturday, I asked her if I could get back in the CB. She made me beg for it, and promise that once I'm back in, I'm not going to ask to be let out. All has gone well so far -- no rash, no problems keeping things clean with the new showerhead we installed and this cool sponge thing we found that allows me to scrub.

On Sunday evening, she called me up to the bedroom after the kids were down and proceeded to jill herself with the vibe while I watched. This is huge -- I mean -- actually huge to have her let me watch her get off. It was awesome and excruciating at the same time.

No further talk of the steel device, but I really like what I've seen about the jailbird. I think I like the idea of being able to SEE that I have a cock -- the steel devices that are sheathes that make it seem like you don't have a cock are just a little too extreme for me.
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Decman wrote: No further talk of the steel device, but I really like what I've seen about the jailbird. I think I like the idea of being able to SEE that I have a cock -- the steel devices that are sheathes that make it seem like you don't have a cock are just a little too extreme for me.
I used to think that (I've had three jailbirds). I loved them, don't think I would go back though.
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Decman wrote:
No further talk of the steel device, but I really like what I've seen about the jailbird. I think I like the idea of being able to SEE that I have a cock -- the steel devices that are sheathes that make it seem like you don't have a cock are just a little too extreme for me.
I showed my wife a picture of the Steelheart the other day. She didn't like the fact that she couldn't tease me with her fingernails and tongue.

Glad to hear your wife is venturing out in her new role.
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This weekend I was unlocked and was able to give her a great orgasm. From watching her the other evening, I found that she really likes to have her nipples stimulated -- something I didn't pick up on in 12 years of marriage! While she was riding me, I tugged on her nipples and it drove her over the top. After she recovered, I got on top of her and was going slowly with some nice deep strokes. I asked her how I could get her to cum again, and she said "you know what would be really hot..." there was a pause and then: "if you could pull out, clean up and put the CB back on."

I pretty-much almost came right then and there. I had to hold on, slow down.... I made a few more thrusts because I knew it might be a long time before I was in her again. I lay back to catch my breath and she we talked about it a bit more. She's been reading up on chastity... the main reason she feels that we've started is that we have different sex drives... this is pretty close to the truth. She knows I (used to) jerk off a lot, and she's really touched that I've given up on that for her. She told me that she wants to become the center of my attention and fantasies -- and that the whole experience the past few weeks has been great for her -- to realize how much I truly desire her. The irony is that my denial has increased her sexual awareness. The biggest turn-off for her is that to make it all work, she has to work harder to continue to tease me. Many times, she says she doesn't have the energy after a day of work and an evening doing kid activities. This is something that we're going to have to work on.

At the end of our conversation, I felt great -- it was great to hear her express some of those things and realize that we're kind of clicking again. This time, she had me assemble the CB, and she locked it up. Just as she was locking, she looked me in the eye and said "whose cock is this?" I told her "your cock." She repeated the question, and when I responded she clicked the lock shut and said "and don't you forget it."

Sunday while we were making dinner for her family, she brushed up behind me, and grabbed the cage. "Whose cock?". "Your cock".
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Its Hot. Read on another blog about the heat affecting his wearing of the device. I have to concur, and I'm just in a plastic sleeve, but yeah it is uncomfortable in the heat. Its like (another) constant reminder.
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What is the sound of one hand clapping?

Not a good week.
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Havent posted in a month. Things are progressing, but my KH / wife isn't a fan of my sharing personal details... so I'm respecting that.
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As you should. Shame though, I was enjoying your story.
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Checking back in (with permission!). We're still going strong, but have moved "beyond the device". I pledged my orgasm to my wife, and after some trial (and very little error!) I've been able to keep that pledge for the past several weeks. One thing I miss is the constant reminder that the device gives/gave me. However, what I really wanted to share is some of the physical / psychological changes since we started down this route.

In particular, I find that now that I've pledged to only orgasm when allowed, that I'm not the walking/talking hardon that I was before we started MC play. I have permission to touch myself, edge myself, but not ejaculate. I find my sexual interests still pinned on my lovely wife. This morning, as she was getting dressed for work, I lay in bed in the semi-lit room and played with myself -- just watching her -- and it struck me that in the past I would masturbate to online porn, or imagine a beautiful actress etc etc -- and now -- I really only get hard and want to touch myself when I think of her. Its kind of crazy, but I really love it, and it has made my love for her not only stronger, but deeper.
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