[Norcalguy09] and so it begins

[Norcalguy09]

With my extra week in lockup coming to an end wife told me that as long as I get chores done that she’d spin the shower wheel. In case I’ve not explained it, it’s a pinwheel that you can enter whatever you like in each slice of the pie. Ours ranges from 10 seconds of PIV to 1 minute and thirty seconds with a few pies that allow her to dictate on the fly. At any rate, it landed on 25 seconds which she sent to me via text. She also sent me my new lockup time directly after.

All said, we’ve not had PIV since November 10. She’s also not yet decided she like any physical T&D so mostly I’ve been without her touch. After chores we proceeded to take our shower. As an aside, I asked her if I did cum does she want me to clean her up or want to drop it back into my mouth? Not this time she said, but it seems she has been contemplating the idea since our last conversation. She allowed me ample time to stroke myself fully hard and to get lubed up. I set my timer and entered her. She’s so gracious in that she let me push all the way in and just enjoy the feeling of her wrapped around my cock. It felt amazing! After she had gotten used to me being in her she told me to begin the timer. In the past before chastity I could last for plenty of time. In fact, she often commented that she wished I would just hurry up. That is no longer a problem and in fact, if I would have had ten more seconds I could have fully lost myself inside of her. I’m not sure if it’s the idea of being timed or that I only get to cum when with her, but at 25 seconds I had to pull out and I lost some onto the shower floor. Even ruined orgasms are amazing when you’re not used to that feeling. It seems like the past few times we’ve had sex it’s ended with a ruined orgasm and I love it!

I’m locked back up and throughout the evening I have been filling up my cage. I can’t believe how amazing this chastity experience is! My wife is the most amazing woman I know.

[Yumbojones]

The dream is becoming a reality for you my friend.
Well done!

[Norcalguy09]

@Yumbojones Indeed it is! Slowly but surely. Thank you!

[Norcalguy09]

Still a week to go until possible PIV but wife did give me a spin on the play wheel last night. She had me unlock and stroked for for nearly two minutes.... was short but felt so good!! Frankly this is a huge step in T&D as she has never offered to stroke me on her own volition. I had not mentioned wanting anything yet she told me to go unlock. I don’t want to read too much into this one occasion but I loved every second of it! She also left me some slightly worn panties in my sweatshirt pocket to discover when I put it on earlier in the day. It seems that she is starting to either enjoy me being locked and teasing me or she is trying very hard to tease me because I love it and she in turn is showing me some love through teasing. Either way I feel grateful.

About a week ago I mentioned possibly not cumming for a long period this year, she quickly said the whole year would be fine for her. That escalated quickly!? Not sure if she is serious but she has mentioned it a couple times since that I am not to finish any time we have PIV or tease time. She still doesn’t actively keep my locked 24/7 so it’ll be interesting to see if she starts taking that more seriously as things have seemingly progressed in her actions as of late.

[Norcalguy09]

The wife is starting to really mess with my mind. She gave me the option of unlocking and having her use her hand on me for a short time or possibly have sex in the shower tomorrow, but no promises about tomorrow because there’s a lot going on....then a new spin on the wheel to see how long I’m locked up for this time. After three weeks of being locked and I can’t remember my last O, I went with the here and now! I’ll just say it felt amazing and I really wanted to cum so badly. Time went off and she quickly told me to lick it back up and she spun the wheel. Another three weeks in lock down! I’m crossing my fingers that it’s not that long before some more teasing but either way, she’s really starting to get in a groove. So thankful for our chastity life.

[Norcalguy09]

Much has happened in the past year or so. Either way we obviously took a break from chastity. I’ve been feeling like I’ve missed it for quite some time. About a a week or so ago I brought it up and wife/kh shrugged and said “sure lock up if you want”. Not the ideal response but I’ll take it. Thankfully she doesn’t mind the wheel of chance that limits my time for piv so she’s spun that a couple times in the past week. The first was 2 seconds and a few days later was 19 seconds. Both were so frustrating and incredible.

I am not locked currently by her but I’ve been self locking in the evening for a couple hours and then taking it off to sleep. I’m trying to tread lightly as this isn’t her thing but she is always gracious to play along. I do hope that she will get into it like she did in the past even though she did request that we not go all flr right off the bat.

Here’s to beginning again the chastity life.

[Norcalguy09]

It’s now been three weeks that I’ve not been allowed PIV. She spun the wheel and that’s what it landed on. KH has allowed me to play by myself for the first two weeks but forbade at least a week before we spin the wheel again.

It’s been an interesting month anyway with my sister in law staying for an extended period and KH is very busy with all that is entailed with her being here. I’ve tried to be more active in helping and taking care of chores and projects in the meantime. Now that SIL has left I’m hopeful that I’ll be able to get back to serving KH more. I reckon we shall see.

Hopefully I’ll post here later with an update as to where we stand with our love making or if I’ll be denied and whether I’ll be locked up more often. I’m trying to not be a pain and ease back into this lifestyle as KH is more comfortable.

[Norcalguy09]

I’m the luckiest man, it feels like. I’d probably say, most guys with a KH feel the same.

Back from church and she texts me from the other room. I’ve been awarded 35 seconds of PIV and two weeks of additional denial afterward. She proceeded to meet me in the master bath with her pants pulled down telling me to get lubed and enjoy my 35 seconds. I absolutely did and nearly finished in the given time. As I pulled out she allowed me to take care of myself. I’m not sure I’ve cum that much in a long time. What an amazing feeling. While I asked if I could not finish she let me know that she said I should finish. What an amazing thought and feeling. Even if I’m doing the work, she is in charge. I’m excited to get back in the cage.

I’m lucky to be in this spot and continue to be thankful for her control of our sex life.

[Norcalguy09]

Once again, a long break. Had a bad situation with one of my cages and that freaked out the wife and I for a while. Not sure what went wrong but I think the cage is too narrow and short at least for long term wear. It worked before, not sure what caused this. Anyway, that was months and I’m feeling like porn and taking matters into my own hands is just no good.

All said, I’m currently in a state of chastity without a cage. So far I am doing alright staying chaste but I definitely crave being completely locked. Frankly I think she appreciates me locked as well.

I’ve been looking at a Cobra custom cage and am seriously considering dropping some real money on a cage. Wife is tentatively onboard, I’m sure we’ll talk more seriously before I make the purchase. Definitely would appreciate any feedback or thoughts on custom cages. I like the idea of three diameter measurements for the shaft and length.

We did go back to a wheel game this past weekend for some play ideas. She used the hitachi on me to three edges which was incredible and something she has never really done. She has in the past either allowed a full release or made a duration time but never played with the edging. Quite a thrill to say the least.

This post is all over the place so I apologize, just getting my thoughts out and appreciating this community being a place to share.

[Norcalguy09]

Wife and keyholder has been getting back onboard with locking up. This past weekend the wife didn’t spin the wheel but wiggled her toes at me and told me to get undressed. She used her sexy little toes on me until I very nearly lost it. As quickly as it began I was told we were finished.

In other happenings, I had sent her a link that was posted on this forum that I thought would be vanilla enough but still represent my thoughts. She actually took some screen shots and let me know what she was comfortable with and what is a hard NO for her. She was apprehensive that I might have expectations that she’s not comfortable doing but the reality is, I know I need to be locked and will be happy to have her onboard. She’s very much not ok with me giving her oral pleasure and while I’d love to, I recognize that she’s never liked it so chastity or not, I can’t/don’t expect to give that to her. I’m excited that we are having more direct conversation and being open about this lifestyle. At this point I know she’s doing this more for me than for her. Again, I love her for her willingness to give this another go.

All said, I purchased a Cobra and am hoping it will arrive this week. I get locked up and she gets to control sex and all things in the bedroom. Not your typical chastity but there are so many flavors that we are making it work for us.