"Hello world" thread

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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby Freaky_Dude » Tue May 23, 2017 10:49 am

Hi everybody,

My wife and I are a couple in the DC Metro area in our 40's who have been together for over 15 years. We would appear to be an outwardly 'normal' professional couple, though we had played with bondage and her teasing and denying me earlier on in our relationship regularly.

Unfortunately, she required anti-depressants starting around 2007 due to stress at work that, while improving her mood, gradually led to sexual responses being greatly reduced.

I had an interest in chastity and orgasm denial after discovering Altairboy's site looking in 2006 for a way to curb overwhelming horniness due to some mental medication I was on for a while that was leading to issues of frequent hard erections at work that were difficult to hide.

I tried to introduce my wife to the idea, but I botched it by explaining based on what were probably not real couples blogs, a lot of sites went right into sissyfication, cross-dressing, and cuckolding (areas that don't appeal to either of us at all), and there weren't any decent inexpensive beginner devices yet anyway. So, this was quietly shelved and not spoken of again.

As time has gone on, sexual contact has gotten less and less frequent. We have been going for several months between sessions with each other.
Everything else between us is still good, though. We still talk, are still on the same mental wavelength on most things, and still actually like and care for each other. We have gotten counseling for the sexual disconnect issues, and our therapist said that we interacted as a couple much better than most couples she's seen.

It takes a long time now for my wife to get turned on enough for PIV. (Oral hasn't really been a big priority for her, though I love the taste and sensations of cunnilingus.) By the time she's ready, I'm so turned on that I usually last at most a couple minutes, finishing way before she is at the point of bliss. Sadly, I get hit by the hormonal post-orgasm snooze wave and fall asleep soon afterwards, no matter how hard I fight it to finish her.

Fast forward to 2017. I've been waiting since January for security investigations and other processes to be completed before starting my next job, living off severance from my previous job.
After a while, I was back to masturbating 2-3 times a day and not getting tasks done at home, as well as not giving my wife the attention she deserves.
So, after discovering that there were now some sites and communities (like this one) for and by actual outwardly 'vanilla' long-time couples using male chastity devices as a marriage enhancement by cutting out the issues of frequent masturbation and taking one's spouse for granted (what I call "The dreaded 'Yes, Dear' Zone"), I ordered a silicone cage in April. I spent 3 weeks making adjustments and getting used to it.

I handed her the keys on our anniversary early this month, explaining why I was doing this. Fortunately, I made it clear I didn't want any outwardly changes in our relationship - no calling her "Mistress" or "Missy", no wearing women's clothing and hanging around in bars, no watching her with another man* - just her holding the keys and letting me out when she felt like it for her pleasure, while seeing what changes developed.

She (correctly, I think) wondered if this was my 'mid-life crisis', and thought it was a much less destructive one than most we've seen. Instead of seeking out a new sex partner after 40, as we've seen happen many times, I was recommitting in a very tangible way to my current partner.

My wife also thought the device itself is very amusing looking, especially when I attempt to erect and it bounces. She nicknamed it "Ms. Kitty." ;).

I confessed when I handed her the keys that my frequent jerking off was why I was getting items on the "Honey, Do" list checked off. She was annoyed that I was doing so, so she is glad that I can't anymore.
After a couple days of me being locked up with her holding the keys, she noticed I am being much more affectionate and cuddly.
I think she prefers me this way. She is highly amused that just wiggling her butt or rubbing my arm causes me to heavy breathe now. :)
I went 4 days locked up all day and night for the first stretch. Unfortunately, some of my extra security measures to ensure I don't slip out of the cage when soft caused some abrasions, so I had to be uncaged while those healed.
I've been back in since last Wednesday. With proper moisturizing, it seems okay now.
I know I won't be unlocked (outside of more painful abrasions) until this weekend at the earliest. I'm fine with that :)

She brought up getting some high-quality satin Ribbon this weekend to wear the key around her neck. I hope that's a positive sign.

I'm hoping to get ideas from those of you who have been at this for a while as to how to proceed to make my being cock-locked most of the time simply an everyday part of life and our relationship going forward.

-Freaky Dude

*watching her use her magic wand on herself in front of me while I am bound and caged, otoh - yes, please! :)
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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby TwistedMister » Wed May 24, 2017 4:04 am

...overwhelming horniness due to some...medication...that was leading to issues of frequent hard erections at work that were difficult to hide...

This sounds like something that could be useful and/or interesting- what is it that causes this?
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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby Freaky_Dude » Wed May 24, 2017 6:49 am

The drug in question was Wellbutrin, or Bupropion. For some people, it leads to a greatly reved up sex Drive and increased sexual sensitivity. That is for a minority of patients, however. It's not like viagra or something for most people. :)
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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby TwistedMister » Thu May 25, 2017 4:21 am

OK, Thanks. I went on that quite a while back for quitting smoking. It left me with a case of tinnitus that won't quit...and I smoked *more*. It sounds like hundreds of peep frogs in each ear, and it never stops. Worse, the frogs in the left ear aren't in sync with the frogs in the right ear.
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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby Honey M » Sat May 27, 2017 12:50 am

OK, so I'm here. I wasn't ready for coming out, as the word goes, but, I can't post otherwise.
We have seriously been researching Chastity for at least a year.
And I wasn't sold on the notion, ~UNTIL I READ THE POSTS IN "GHOST ORGASMS?" ~ NOW I AM.~
I cannot wait to begin a lifetime left of fun, mystery and revelation. This groupings of posts has sealed my beliefs ~ that a male can have multiple-dry-O's whilst pleasuring his partner~ ,
herself going deeper than ever imagined into her own natural sexuality~ mindbogglingly intense!
M A Y B E- COULD IT BE THE R E A S O N men have so much testosterone,
IS SO THAT her natural, surpassed, latent, all-consuming DRAGON of passion even has
a HOPE of being discovered and fulfilled?
It SEEMS TO ME that herein this thing called "Chastity" lies the KEY.
I am extremely surprised at the upside-downness of this notion. How weird the world and creatures in it are!
I am indebted to the forerunners of this Science, and grateful for your contributions to the understandings and actual outworking of this physical/emotional/spiritual, PLEASURABLE conundrum.
Peace to Us All!
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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby MeecesPieces » Sat May 27, 2017 10:04 pm

Hello everyone, My name is Mousey.

I've been trying to get into chastity for a while now and incorporate it into my little side. Oh yeah, and I'm kind of a little. Well, not kind of, a lot. I'm also rambly. Sorry.

I'm a 29 year old transgirl going on 2 living in washington state. Quite gorgeous here actually, I love the trees...

I'm very much a creative. I'm an artist and a writer, I love to cook, and I hope one day soon to learn to play the violin. I also happen to be a little girl and it's a big big big part of my life. I live this innocent lifestyle 24/7 with my mommy whom I love to pieces. Recently we've been trying to incorporate chastity into our mommy/little dynamic as a way of keeping innocence and adulthood very, very separate, and so that's what drew me here.

I hope to make new friends and get to know you all! It's so nice to meet everyone <3.

Well, toodles for now.
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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby Cueball » Wed Jun 07, 2017 1:20 pm

Hello everyone,

Long time lurker with something to say. Looking forward to being able to post replies.

I may be a bit shy about specific details. Hope that's OK.

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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby TwistedMister » Thu Jun 08, 2017 3:53 am

Cueball wrote:I may be a bit shy about specific details. Hope that's OK.

Of course. We can't force anyone to dish out any more than they care to. :D
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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby Wandering Willie » Sat Jun 10, 2017 6:12 am

Hi everyone,

I’ve been lurking on this forum (and on Thumper’s and Tom’s blogs) for quite a while now and it looks like a great community, so I finally took the plunge to join.

I’m a 52-year-old Dutchman, and my 67-year-old English girlfriend J and I have been together for 33 years. (Yes, you read that right. She’s 15 years older than me. When we met I was 19 and she was 34, and she is the love of my life and the reason I get up in the morning.)

I introduced chastity to J a year ago while we were on holiday in Turkey to spice up our dwindling sex life, and things have progressed rapidly from there. Even though we are both vanilla, I knew intuitively that male chastity would be perfect for our relationship and I was right; We have never felt closer and can’t keep our hands off each other.

My first device was a Bon4M (horrible!), then I was in a Chinese cage for two weeks that was too small and bruised my dick, then I wore an Uberkinky spiral cage for three months (decent but heavy), and now I’m locked 24/7 in a custom Rigid Chastity “Beast Muzzle”.

The whole chastity/tease and denial thing is still evolving for us. J is really interested in the effects that her actions (or lack thereof) have on me in my chaste state, and keeps coming up with new “experiments”, which is very exciting for both of us. My periods of denial have gone from six weeks to three months to six months (is there a trend here?) and although she hasn’t said it, I can tell that J is really getting off on my frustration and horniness.

I on the other hand, find that I’m really getting off on not getting off. The more she denies me, the hornier I get. Why on earth would your dick get hard when she tells you that she’s not letting it out of the cage for a few days?!? Anyway, more about that later I guess.

Male chastity is something pretty awesome. In a very short time, it has become so much more than just a kinky sex game to us.

It’s actually very beautiful to me. It’s about trust, and desire, and passion, and commitment.

No kidding, this gig can bring some deep feelings to the surface if you let it.

But I'm preaching to the choir here of course. :)

I’m looking forward to getting to know you all!
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Re: "Hello world" thread

Postby locked4her55 » Sun Jun 11, 2017 4:30 pm

Welcome WW to the CF's. Nice intro. Enjoy
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