by Steve2059 » Sun Dec 03, 2017 6:24 am
Hi there, posting to show I'm a real person but also to say a bit about myself.
Up until six months ago I had kinks that were rarely allowed out or kept totally private. I've always wanted to be submissive sexually but my wife never showed interest in taking the lead.Earlier this year I discovered the world of denial/tease/chastity and immediately knew this is what I wanted.
At first, I kept things to myself, using web and edging sites, until I found the courage to share the whole thing with my wife - who was frankly unimpressed. I talked her into giving domination a try and that was a disaster - it's not who she is and she was deeply unhappy to have this pressure put on her.
Going back to the drawing board I devised ways of achieving my aims without pressuring her, which basically involved keeping her apprised of what I was doing but without pressuring her to participate. My first challenge was to throw dice to see which of a series of dates would be my next orgasm - and got a two-month session (second longest option). I assured my OH that her pleasures would not be curtailed, and brought up the issue of household chores, which I wanted to incorporate.
She was OK with the denial though she didn't really understand it, but took to the chores part enthusiastically. I now do my own ironing, vacuum the house, keep myself "manscaped" and keep the kitchen tidy, all in enforced nudity. I love it and so does she.
Her one caveat is that she didn't want me in a cage. But a couple of weeks later she thought a cage might be ok for nights to keep my hands off myself, while the honour system would prevail during the day. In the last month though she's taken to the whole thing as she realises it's a long-term thing for me not just a fad, and she gets a load of housework done. She also really likes that we cuddle loads more without me wanting to progress to sex all the time, so I am apparently a lot more romantic now.
I write this in a short metal cage on day 3 of a week's lockup, but also on day 39 of a 67 day period of orgasm denial. I'm in heaven.
Great to come across this forum, to find that I'm not by any means alone.