A different journey this time
Posted: Sun Aug 29, 2021 9:15 pm
I’ve been lurking the last couple of days. It has been a while.
Belle and I have been through a lot in the past few years and Chastity hasn’t been on the menu. From discovering that I was a porn/sex addict to coming to the conclusion that I am quite possibly also bi-sexual, it has been a ride. We did some therapy for a while, got better, got blah, and now a little lost.
I have decided to jump into chastity again but in a different way. I’m doing it alone. I’m tired of the depression that follows masturbation, and Belle’s extremely low sex drive means that the canyon between us is too far to bridge.
I’m going into this with a different mindset. I don’t want to lock up for the kink factor, but to ‘put it away’. I know how difficult that is likely to be but I’m going to give it a shot.
I had a jailbird that was too large and a contender that was just about right. Somehow when we moved a couple years ago, the cage for the contender disappeared...awkward...so I am in the market. I have read a lot of good things about dhgate devices on here and I’m contemplating that route. Possibly checking out the cherry keeper route as well. Not sure yet.
In the meantime it will be the honor system, which might be better to start anyway because the device often seems to call attention to the situation and make me horny which is what I would like to avoid.
I am also considering taking an herbal supplement that my one therapist advised me to take. I discontinued it when I found that it muted my orgasms. Doesn’t sound like such a bad thing now.
I’m fairly certain that chastity either started or worsened my sex addiction in the first place, and understand this may well backfire, but I’m hoping maybe without the tease, the denial will have a different effect.
Belle and I have been through a lot in the past few years and Chastity hasn’t been on the menu. From discovering that I was a porn/sex addict to coming to the conclusion that I am quite possibly also bi-sexual, it has been a ride. We did some therapy for a while, got better, got blah, and now a little lost.
I have decided to jump into chastity again but in a different way. I’m doing it alone. I’m tired of the depression that follows masturbation, and Belle’s extremely low sex drive means that the canyon between us is too far to bridge.
I’m going into this with a different mindset. I don’t want to lock up for the kink factor, but to ‘put it away’. I know how difficult that is likely to be but I’m going to give it a shot.
I had a jailbird that was too large and a contender that was just about right. Somehow when we moved a couple years ago, the cage for the contender disappeared...awkward...so I am in the market. I have read a lot of good things about dhgate devices on here and I’m contemplating that route. Possibly checking out the cherry keeper route as well. Not sure yet.
In the meantime it will be the honor system, which might be better to start anyway because the device often seems to call attention to the situation and make me horny which is what I would like to avoid.
I am also considering taking an herbal supplement that my one therapist advised me to take. I discontinued it when I found that it muted my orgasms. Doesn’t sound like such a bad thing now.
I’m fairly certain that chastity either started or worsened my sex addiction in the first place, and understand this may well backfire, but I’m hoping maybe without the tease, the denial will have a different effect.