Chastity and Erectile Mal Functioning

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Chastity and Erectile Mal Functioning

Postby happilylockedman » Thu Feb 08, 2018 9:43 pm

It used to be that my erection was something I could count on. I didn't wonder if I could 'get it up'. If I was sexually excited I got erect and stayed erect. Now that I'm an older guy things have changed. I can be all excited and hard and in no time at all I'm deflated. This has had a big impact on my self confidence in bed. My wife has assured me many times that it doesn't matter but it does matter to me (and I suspect to her as well despite her comforting words)

This reality introduced anxiety into the bedroom. I started out with my poorly understood assumption that my orgasm was what sex was all about and then added, on top of that, anxiety about whether I could achieve the orgasm that I felt was all important.

Enter chastity: When I'm locked up the issue and the anxiety of my maintaining an erection is gone. What a relief!

Many of us have written about all the other benefits of chastity to relationships so I'm not going to restate what we already know.

I haven't been locked much the last week or so (I had been locked basically 24/7 for a number of months) I'm happy to report that I have good carry over of attitude from being locked.

My orgasm is NOT what sex is about. INTIMACY is the name of the game.
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Re: Chastity and Erectile Mal Functioning

Postby WifeIsVanilla » Fri Feb 09, 2018 8:13 am

My doctor told me that the majority of men 40 or older need Viagra, etc to dependably "perform."
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