I have always had concerns about how long I was able to 'last', which led to my approach of always making sure that the lady always got off at least once (usually orally) before any penetration occurred. My reasoning for adopting this practice was that she would not get left 'hanging' if I was too quick on the trigger- if she got her jollies first, then no matter what happened after I had made sure that she had had fun...there would be no anxiety for me and if I could last longer it would be a bonus for her, especially as I discovered that (in my admittedly small sample size) she tended to arrive at a second orgasm much more quickly than the first.In a previous journal post, I mentioned that my wife and I have only used my cage once. But I have been using it myself here and there pretty consistently since I got it (for example, I'm wearing it right now!), usually when my wife is out of the house for long periods of time (for some reason, I don't want her to discover that I'm wearing it on my own).
Anyway, I have found that when I wear it for a while, and then take it off, the next time I have sex or jerk off, I tend to finish incredibly fast. I never lasted super long in the first place, but being locked up and then freed makes me so sensitive that I really can't hold back for longer than ten, maybe twenty, seconds.
This was indeed the case the one time that my wife and I used the cage, and I wonder if maybe that's why she's been reluctant to use it since then. I'm not really sure.
Has this been an issue for any of you, as well? Is it par for the course? Please let me know. Thanks.
When I was [much] younger and was able to get it up 5-6 times a day, I would also make sure to rub one out about an hour or two before meeting, this would take the 'edge' off and let me go at a slower pace instead of rushing things along because I was too excited. I like to think that the ladies appreciated this courtesy even if they were not aware of the process.
Now, after being caged and horny for a length of time, I often have a 'short fuse' but she knows it and knows to be careful not to make it go off too soon as well as making sure that she gets off at least once first...and possibly a second time with penetration...and occasionally a [second or] third time when she is in the mood to be 'naughty' and wants to sit on my face and make me pleasure her orally after I have cum inside her.
As someone else noted, this feeds into my cuckold/humiliation thoughts as well, as she could easily use it to tell me that my cock is no good for fucking because it doesn't last long enough, using it as a 'reason' for her to seek and enjoy others.