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Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you feel?

Posted: Wed Nov 29, 2017 5:38 am
by Onlyhers4ever
My wife will sometimes use her vibrator during the day while I am at work and not tell me about it. I must admit that it makes me feel that she is cheating on me. I think the longer I am denied the more possessive I get of her orgasms. Her orgasms become mine and I want to be there or at least know when she is having them. Am I the only one that thinks this way?

Re: Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you f

Posted: Wed Nov 29, 2017 9:38 am
by Tullyboy
It wouldn't make me feel good if it occurred regularly. If she wanted it that much, I'd hope to be included. However, it's fun as a tease.

Re: Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you f

Posted: Wed Nov 29, 2017 12:59 pm
by sherulestherooster
I love it when my wife masturbates, frankly. But she seems embarrassed about it and will not straight up tell me. I suspect it's a guilt thing. When she does, it's almost always in the shower, and our euphemism is that she "took a long shower". So if it's a longer than normal shower, I'll ask her if she took a 'long shower', and she will never say yes, but if she smiles, I pretty much know.

With you on this, I wish she would be upfront about it. Especially so I can keep the orgasm log as accurate as possible. LOL

Re: Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you f

Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2017 1:38 am
by slave d
WOW this from guys who probably used to masturbate most days and never tell anybody !!! and now you don’t like your wives doing it !!! Seriously I’d be thrilled that She felt She could !!! How long have you all been married and how long locked ?? FWIW my answers are 43 years and 4 and a half years !!

MsMs ld

Re: Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you f

Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2017 6:56 am
by Onlyhers4ever
slave d wrote:WOW this from guys who probably used to masturbate most days and never tell anybody !!! and now you don’t like your wives doing it !!! Seriously I’d be thrilled that She felt She could !!! How long have you all been married and how long locked ?? FWIW my answers are 43 years and 4 and a half years !!

MsMs ld
LOL Slave D. Your point is taken. I think part of my frustration is the fact that sometimes she will do this on the same day that she refuses my advances. Maybe what I try to start in the morning sets the mood for her to finish herself later in the afternoon. I'm actually ok with this if she would turn it into a tease like Tullyboy suggested. We talked about this yesterday morning and she is going to start sending me a heart emoji each time she does this going forward. I've told her that I would welcome her coming right out and saying something to the effect of "i just had an orgasm and you can't!

To answer your question, we are just a few days removed from our 25th wedding anniversary and have been experimenting with chastity for a few years now but have really only gotten my wife on board for maybe the past 6 months so we are fairly new at this as a couple.

Re: Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you f

Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2017 8:18 am
by sirmebane
My own wife's drive isn't frequent so when she wants sex, I'm excited and one of the things that happened in chastity that never happened before was she used a vibrator on herself and left me locked. I did get a little attention but it was all about her that night and I was so amazed that she was willing to make that step all I could feel was...

aroused.

Re: Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you f

Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2017 9:37 am
by Tullyboy
slave d wrote:WOW this from guys who probably used to masturbate most days and never tell anybody !!! and now you don’t like your wives doing it !!! Seriously I’d be thrilled that She felt She could !!! How long have you all been married and how long locked ?? FWIW my answers are 43 years and 4 and a half years !!

MsMs ld
Congratulations on a long marriage! Wonderful!

We’re at 25 years and 25 years (wink - she’s always been in control). I haven’t been [much of] a masturbator for the last 20 years or so. At some point I realized that I was combining it with porn and robbing my wife of her rights. I’ve always been much more needy than her, so I haven’t really had to face the reality of her jilling regularly. But as I said, if she was regularly choosing a vibrator by herself over me then I’d probably be a little hurt... just as she was hurt when she found out that I was choosing porn over her early in our marriage. I still remember the tears.

Re: Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you f

Posted: Thu Nov 30, 2017 7:53 pm
by locked4her55
If my KH "plays" without me it's news to me. She is of the belief that I shouldn't be doing it and the same goes for her altho I have told her several times over the years that it's ok with me if she found the desire too. :D

One time when I was fully restrained she planted herself inches away from my face and brought herself off. Afterwards I told her it was totally hot and she replied, "Don't think that's gonna happen again any time soon." :(

I might get a little concerned if her "playing" ever became the norm and a substitute for me. :shock:

Re: Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you f

Posted: Fri Dec 01, 2017 11:53 am
by TwistedMister
It turns me on when Mrs. Twisted tells me that she got her jollies by herself, especially since I know that when she does she's rubbing it in that she can rub one out when I can't. She used to be so 'uptight' about things like that, it's great to see her letting go of her inhibitions.

Re: Does your KH “play” without you? How does it make you f

Posted: Sun Dec 03, 2017 6:36 am
by Barkis
The website from which I bought my first cage (poor choice, as it turned out) had a blog associated with it. One of the posts told the story of how the locked guy was trying to lose weight. His partner and KH would set him a target each week, and if he made it she would unlock him briefly and allow him to masturbate in front of her.

I found this idea incredibly hot, and plucked up the courage to tell the story to Mrs Barkis. She audibly gasped, and confessed to a fantasy she had always had about pleasuring herself while I secretly watched through a slightly open door. Over 40 years married and she can still surprise me!!

Suffice it to say that it is no longer just a fantasy ;). And yes, I am always locked up for the experience.