Tempted to "Out" myself

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happilylockedman
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Tempted to "Out" myself

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A few days ago I wrote how, when I was swimming in a friends' pool, I was concerned that my balls would retract and my device would fall off in full view of them. I didn't want that to happen but part of me did. I guess I have a streak of exhibitionist in me. Also, I think I would welcome having to explain what my wife and I are doing, to the right people. I mean, I see the benefits that we are enjoying and would like to spread the joy. But I know that that would likely lead to a terribly awkward social situation.

After we got home I told my wife about the concerns I described above. She said she hadn't considered my cage falling off and that if it happened it would be a catastrophe. She's just about always right

I think about the delightful situation that caged55 described and would like that for myself!
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happilylockedman wrote:I think about the delightful situation that caged55 described and would like that for myself!
Yes, one of the 'fantasies' that 'turns me on', is that of being 'exposed' to certain carefully selected people. I wouldn't care for it to become general knowledge, but I find the idea of limited exposure for the purposes of amusement/humiliation/teasing/service to be highly erotic.

We had a friend who had a side-business selling erotic stuff to women at 'parties', like a 'Tupperware party' only for sex toys. The idea of being brought along to be used as a 'demonstrator' for bondage gear, chastity devices, strap-ons and other toys, along with being teased and 'used' by the participants gives me a stiffy. Unfortunately, she has dropped out of sight and the last rumor we heard was that she had become divorced from her husband who was in the military and on a combat tour in Iraq or somewhere around there...one can guess what might have caused that.
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I also would love to be exposed in certain situations to others who may be into chastity also or at least sexually open minded . Having others to actually talk to openly in general conversation about the many different feelings and emotions derived from our lifestyle would be great . The thought of being naked caged and being with others clothed or nude being able to feel so free about our lifestyle would be wonderful .
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It's a tricky thing with chastity. Some of the things we would find exciting when aroused, would be a disaster when no so turned on. Wearing something that creates an aroused headspace really needs clear consideration when it comes to this stuff. I'm pretty lucky in that I have a number of very kinky friends, so a few know. I also have non-kinky friends, and people I associate with and do business with. They really should not mix. When there's an issue with the cage being too obvious, I have a pass to take it off. We got a ring with a ball on it, that's intended to be worn during sex, just behind the glans. I wear that instead, so that I'm wearing something to remind me of my chastity. I'm not allowed erections (unlocked) or masturbation, so cheating isn't an issue.
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Finn, could you describe the "ring with a ball on it" more fully. Thanks.
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We do something like that. Do a search for "head ring" or "glans ring" There's many styles out there.

Try this for a quick check https://www.stockroom.com/head-ring-with-ball.html
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Locked by LRC wrote:We do something like that. Do a search for "head ring" or "glans ring" There's many styles out there.

Try this for a quick check https://www.stockroom.com/head-ring-with-ball.html
Exactly!
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I'd love for my wife to share with her friends im her locked chastity slut! I know one friend knows because she suggested to lock up her husband when he was exposed as a porn addict. My wife called what we do a "game", little does she know how serious of a "game" it is! I've even caught her looking at my crotch a few times. I'm guessing to see if she can tell if I'm locked. I really wish my wife would tell her sister, she's pretty dominant, and I'd love to know she has something on me she could use to control me somehow!
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I learned a long time ago that you never know what life has in store for you. We decided not to tell anyone that we shared a girlfriend and that the girls were both bi. We went on a need to know basis. Years later I found myself as public figure for a few years and it was important to be viewed as a conservative businessman in a stable marriage.

My old friend and former drug dealer ended up in local politics. He could not go beyond local political offices due to fears that one or more of his former customers would out him. Had to quit politics and take a regular job. Our girlfriend ended up becoming a school teacher in an elementary school. In our day, you could fire non hetero people on moral reasons. So we still believe in keeping things to ourselves because you never know, as some famous people and politicians found out the hard way.

I had to bite my tongue many times when guys would brag about having one FFM threesome or wish they could. I had over a thousand in 47 year, and as far as they knew, I had none. Covering up our girlfriend was easy. She was introduced as my wife's girlfriend to all who visited us. Just a girlfriend who stayed with us for one reason or another. No one even suspected anything and she was always welcome to go with us to social and family events. My folks knew her well but not as well as they thought.
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I too fantasise about being "outed" on this. But were I ever to be outed I could never become "inned" again if things became too awkward. Best not to try.
A few months ago we had a friend stay with us: I had worn my big, heavy metal cage overnight and my wife, in a rare kinky moment, made me go make coffee dressed in only my cage and a thin pair of shorts through which my cage was obvious. Should our friend see me and inquire as to the bulge, I was ordered to tell her honestly and show her if she wanted. As it happened she didn't see me, but, despite this being a fantasy of mine, in reality it was the scariest 10 minutes I think I have ever experienced.
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