Does anyone practice findom?

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Does anyone practice findom?

Postby braddogg4345 » Mon May 29, 2017 1:34 pm

I was just curious as to whether anyone here who practices chastity and/or FLR also practice findom? In our FLR, my wife and i do incorporate findom a little bit, but we are looking to step it up.

We both agree that money is power, and we want her to have all the power. The problem is that my KH and i are not together a lot during the week, and i need to have some means of paying for essential purchases such as gas, groceries while she is not with me.

The way we do things now, i basically have access to everything...credit cards, checking, and savings account. And if i want to make any non-essential purchases, i need to ask her permission. This works out OK, but the reality is that she really doesnt have control of the money, because i still have access to it if i really want it.

We are looking for a way to tighten up her control, without leaving me with no means of accessing money in case of an emergency, or in case the car needs gas. I am interested in hearing how others practice findom. And any suggestions to help me out.
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Re: Does anyone practice findom?

Postby fuzzydunlop » Mon May 29, 2017 1:56 pm

You could get a credit card with a very low spending limit, or a checking account with small amounts of money in it. In this day and age, she can immediately see how and when you use it.

Here's another thought---if you have a paycheck it goes into a joint account that is automatically set to sweep most of the money into an account only she has access to.
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Re: Does anyone practice findom?

Postby TwistedMister » Tue May 30, 2017 4:07 am

We have always maintained separate accounts, except for one joint business account.

You could use one of those reloadable debit cards, if you don't want to have cash. She could put a fixed amount on it, and you would have to be accountable for it if used.
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Re: Does anyone practice findom?

Postby fuzzydunlop » Tue May 30, 2017 9:11 am

I once heard an acquaintance tell her husband "what's yours is ours, and what's mine is mine." Kind of bitchy, but kind of hot. All the money in my family (almost) is managed by me. I would gladly shed some of that burden if I could, but that just doesn't match our skill sets and interests.

There are so many financial products today that make this reasonably possible. "Your" account should be a joint account, and all the main accounts could be in her name. The online banking features can allow her to check every penny you spend, almost instantaneously.

There are also ways of locking down your credit so that you can't borrow money, although I am not as knowledgable in they area. I think if you granted her a Power of Attorney to deal with your finances, and then she set up the online accounts without your access, that would add to it
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Re: Does anyone practice findom?

Postby braddogg4345 » Fri Jun 02, 2017 2:54 pm

These are all good ideas. I am trying to convince her to take my name off of all the accounts. She is hesitant to do this though. I kind of like the idea of opening an account in her name, and having most of my paycheck transferred into that account. Only problem with that is that the bank i use will charge for the checking account if a minimum balance is not maintained. I think i am going to try to let her warm up to the idea of taking my name off the accounts. If she doesnt, then i will propose the new account in only her name.
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Re: Does anyone practice findom?

Postby Joroincharge » Sun Aug 13, 2017 6:20 pm

braddogg4345 wrote:I was just curious as to whether anyone here who practices chastity and/or FLR also practice findom? In our FLR, my wife and i do incorporate findom a little bit, but we are looking to step it up.

We both agree that money is power, and we want her to have all the power. The problem is that my KH and i are not together a lot during the week, and i need to have some means of paying for essential purchases such as gas, groceries while she is not with me.

The way we do things now, i basically have access to everything...credit cards, checking, and savings account. And if i want to make any non-essential purchases, i need to ask her permission. This works out OK, but the reality is that she really doesnt have control of the money, because i still have access to it if i really want it.

We are looking for a way to tighten up her control, without leaving me with no means of accessing money in case of an emergency, or in case the car needs gas. I am interested in hearing how others practice findom. And any suggestions to help me out.


All sorts of ways of arranging this. All assets in her name and in such a way that you've got much too much to lose if you try and wriggle out so she she's got you by the balls every which way vanilla AND kink; but she gives you an allowance for necessaries, and a separate card with low credit level if essential and for something you wouldn't be using cash. And have you account to her for every penny you spend on anything, with disciplinary consequences if for anything unauthorised.
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Re: Does anyone practice findom?

Postby Joroincharge » Sun Aug 13, 2017 6:47 pm

Other thing she can do is (assuming she's a member here, if not she needs to join!) apply to have access to the keyholders hangout section (for F KHs only!) where she can canvass ideas separately!
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Re: Does anyone practice findom?

Postby ChastizeMe12 » Fri Aug 25, 2017 2:31 am

My wife and I have this type of relationship and always have - long before male chastity came on the menu. She's just the boss and is better at finance and many other things than me so she's always controlled the money.

The way it works is: we have our own accounts and a joint account, but neither of us extract cash from them unless we have to - we generally take our some cash every Saturday when we hit the market and if my wallet is empty she'll give me £10. Apart from that, we each use a credit card. I can use my card for daily expenses, but she totes monitors my spending and has a word if I'm over-spending. I have to get sign off from her on any out of the ordinary purchases.

It's worth noting that I'm the main bread-winner, earning more than double her income. We also have several investments that represent all of our financial security and 90% of these are in her name only. So she has me by the balls completely.

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Re: Does anyone practice findom?

Postby braddogg4345 » Fri Aug 25, 2017 3:24 pm

Quick update: My keyholder has made a lot of progress towards total financial domination. She has closed our joint savings account, and transferred all the money into a newly opened savings account in only her name.

She has transferred most of the money out of our joint checking account, and into a checking account in only her name. She has also set up my direct deposit from my job to go directly into her checking account. She has left a balance of about $100 in the joint checking account, but she holds my debit card and the checkbooks. She has also changed the password on all accounts online, so i have no access to them.

She has taken my safe deposit key away. We keep an emergency stash of cash in there. I now have no access to that.

The only things i have access to now are: our main credit card which i use for all purchases. I need to ask her permission when i use it, and she is the only one with online access to the statements, so she will know when i use the card. I also have my own private stash of money which i really only use for buying her gifts, and occasionally for gambling.

Whenever i win money gambling, i give it all to her. If she is feeling generous, she will give me some of it. The other day i won $500 and handed it over to her. She was generous enough to give me $200! She also gets any tax return money, and any other money i may receive.

So the findom is moving along nicely. we are also planning for any future purchases (car, house, etc) to be put solely in her name.
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