Punished for coming!

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My Wife let me cum inside her Saturday night and then for the first time ever in our 25 year marriage let me go down on her to clean her up. I absolutely loved it! I would ask if I am weird because I do not feel the revulsion that many write about when 'forced' to do it but I already realize we all have our own limits and kinks, so that is a redundant question.

I think I know where she got the idea from, I am pretty sure it was mentioned in an audio book I got on Audible that talked about Femdom and Male chastity. While it was all a bit too much for my Wife at the time (we had only just got going) I did say at the end that nothing I had heard put me off or made me want to say no. All I can imagine is she remembered this and was testing me to see of I meant what I said. She agreed that it was really hot afterwards watching me lick her. It had also been my first orgasm in over five weeks, so there was a fair amount of cleaning up needed!
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If you can call being punished for "post-orgasm" or refractory period moodiness, then I would possibly classify my KH making 2016 a orgasm-free year a "punishment" as she got tired of my moodiness post orgasm, and the loss of attention she was getting during this time, but I don't really see it this way, rather a way of forcing a improvement in my behavior and constant horniness
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My Wife let me cum inside her Saturday night and then for the first time ever in our 25 year marriage let me go down on her to clean her up. I absolutely loved it! I would ask if I am weird because I do not feel the revulsion that many write about when 'forced' to do it but I already realize we all have our own limits and kinks, so that is a redundant question.
awesome Jasmic68 !!!

On my birthday my KH allowed me to orgasm. Whilst in the act I begged her to sit on my face after I came inside her. Once finished she asked me if she should sit on my face now and I told her that I would not want it.

She did not get it. How would she. I loooove the idea when horny but then can't get myself to do it. She knows I would love to be forced to do it.
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I'm almost always required to clean up afterwards.
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I'm sorry. I've been lurking a lot, because I just found you (somehow; where have you been all my life), and there's a ton of stuff to go through on this forum.

I want to resurrect this thread.

...because I cannot believe the saddest response ever was not given by someone else before me ...

:cry:

If I orgasm without permission, the game is over ... and we're not playing again for a while. It's not a punishment. If I'm not going to follow the rules, she's not going to play.

That's my motivation.
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cuyahoga wrote: I want to resurrect this thread.

...because I cannot believe the saddest response ever was not given by someone else before me ...

:cry:

If I orgasm without permission, the game is over ... and we're not playing again for a while. It's not a punishment. If I'm not going to follow the rules, she's not going to play.

That's my motivation.
I think that is a little extreme. I know for me personally, when i go a few months without ejaculating my body seems to release the pressure itself. Not too long ago, i was worshipping my KH's body. No physical contact with my penis of any kind. And i just came while i was doing it. I didnt intentionally do it. I guess i just got too excited.

My KH understands this can happen. She still beat my ass for it, but she doesnt go as far as stopping chastity all together. Maybe you guys should re-work your arrangement to where accidentsl discharges arent punished so severely.
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HandyRandy wrote:I'm almost always required to clean up afterwards.
Had my first orgasm of the year yesterday and yes I had to clean it up but that was not punishment . The punishment is having the orgasm and having to start over again .

If I leak uncontrollably like braddogg says my excitement only grows stronger but after a full orgasm things have to build again . That loss of constant arousal is punishment for me , but that's me .
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LOCKED HUSBAND wrote:If I leak uncontrollably like braddogg says my excitement only grows stronger but after a full orgasm things have to build again . That loss of constant arousal is punishment for me , but that's me .
That's so true, I'm learning that myself. I wish I understood it better.
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My partner and I have been kinky since we met > 15 years ago, and she's been full time in charge of my orgasms for at least the last 8 or 9 years. We're both switches, but I never come or masturbate without her permission. Sometimes it's given freely, sometimes I have to go more than a month (and rarely more than 2). But it's always up to her.

In general, we don't use real "punishment" in our play. But the exception is if I come without her permission either because I failed to war her in time to stop stimulating me (which happens a couple times a year) or, more seriously, if I deliberately let myself go (which I have done very rarely, but not never). The idea is that the consequences need to fit the crime, and be something that really deters me (complex because I like a good beating as much as the next guy). I have to know she's serious, but in a way that lets us move on without damage to our relationship or sex lives.

Here's what we settled on. If come because I failed to warn her or otherwise have an "accident", the orgasm is as ruined as she can make it and I get an immediate, hard, beating. She uses a cane at full force on my ass, and it definitely feels like a real punishment. I HATE it, it's not sexy for me at the time it's going on, and I know it's something I want to avoid. But I LOVE the fact that she does it. It makes it exactly as serious as I need chastity and her control to be, and with time, I replay those beatings in my head and it makes me feel very lucky.

The last time she had to do this, after an accident, was about a month and a half ago. She was teasing me, I probably warned her to late, and I came (after about three weeks). She quickly stopped stimulation, asked me what happened, and reminded me of our agreement for what we'd do. I didn't want to be caned, didn't really think I deserved it at the time, but I also knew it was the right thing. She quickly got the cane out of the closet as I wiped myself off and lay face down on the bed. She wanted me bent over (she's a switch, and she thinks it hurts more that way - and she's right). So over the ottoman I went. About 12 HARD strokes, no warm up, all I can do to not use my safeword. This was all less than 5 minutes after I came - we agreed that as soon as possible after the offense both hurts more and is more appropriate. Welts and bruises lasted over a week, but no damage or broken skin.

Anyway, I really try to avoid this, and I hope she never has to do this again, but I accept it (and it makes our play more real because it demonstrates real consequences).

About 4 years ago, I got a much more serious punishment when came during intercourse. It basically felt good and I let myself go. She beat me, but then for the few weeks, I had to get a ruined orgasm (which I hate) every morning plus any time she caught me getting hard. She's very efficient (she used her vibrator) and it got to be a real chore. Much worse, for me, than a beating. I was very glad when that was over - it was MUCH worse than any beating (as we agreed it should be). I've not repeated the offense since, and hope never to. But I'm glad she carried it out. Again, knowing that there real consequences makes the game a lot more exciting and real for me, and, she tells me, for her.

Anyway, once it's over, all is forgiven.
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braddogg4345 wrote: I think that is a little extreme. I know for me personally, when i go a few months without ejaculating my body seems to release the pressure itself. Not too long ago, i was worshipping my KH's body. No physical contact with my penis of any kind. And i just came while i was doing it. I didnt intentionally do it. I guess i just got too excited.
I have given the wrong impression. My accidents have never been that far along. We used to play for weeks, not months. I'm trying to change that now, so maybe there will be a lighter response if it happened like that. My accidents have happened in the two week mark, simply from me pushing too close to the edge. And given that my wife, in response to starting denial, used to 'jump start' me with extra attention, she saw that as two weeks of wasted effort that couldn't be replaced.

My game, that I asked her to play.
One rule, she decides.
If I'm taking that away from her, taking her fun away from her, after she put all that effort into it, she's just not going to play my game.
I always thought it was fair. Sad, but fair.
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