... for some value of "vanilla."
Posted: Wed Dec 30, 2015 3:11 pm
This conversation comes up every so often, so lets just get it out of the way:
While we - the mod team - don't care about your particular kinks (in the sense that there is no judgment implied), we want to foster a place where people can discuss enforced chastity, OD, T&D, etc., in an environment that is free of *overt* displays of kinkery such as BDSM, Sissification, Cuckolding, and a host of others. While some of the members themselves may enjoy those interests, it has been our intention to keep them out of the focus so that those people who really are uncomfortable with other kinks can have a place to discuss just the chastity related parts.
When we started this group 5 years ago, we wanted to distinguish it from Chastity Mansion, and from several of the other larger forums that had a member base that were more BDSM oriented. What we wanted was a forum *mainly* for those who were vanilla oriented, and who were put off by the sissy & cuck crowd at Chastity Mansion, and by the more BDSM oriented groups elsewhere.
The first year we saw a lot of sissies coming over from Yahoo groups and The Mansion, which turned off many of the original members. We made the decision to discourage not the sissies themselves, but the usage of the terms often associated with that particular lifestyle. It's a fine distinction, but it was a workable compromise. We did not make the decision lightly, and it went along with our decision to have discussions as adults, and not in the "character" or personae.
So, the way it works is that a person can join in the discussions, ask questions, give answers, etc., but as Joe, and not Sissy Joanna. Again, it's not perfect, but it's the compromise that we worked out.
On a personal note, while I don't care about a particular member's kinks, I do care about having a forum that is mainly for the more vanilla crowd. When I started blogging, back in the stone age, most of the questions that I got were from men and women who were married or partnered, and who felt uncomfortable on the Yahoo groups (the women, especially), and on some of the more well known boards at the time. There really was no place for the more vanilla folks to go (ironically as it seems), and we created this group with them in mind. Since then (2010), we've managed to build up a small, but interesting community, and I'm generally pretty happy with how it has worked out.
While we - the mod team - don't care about your particular kinks (in the sense that there is no judgment implied), we want to foster a place where people can discuss enforced chastity, OD, T&D, etc., in an environment that is free of *overt* displays of kinkery such as BDSM, Sissification, Cuckolding, and a host of others. While some of the members themselves may enjoy those interests, it has been our intention to keep them out of the focus so that those people who really are uncomfortable with other kinks can have a place to discuss just the chastity related parts.
When we started this group 5 years ago, we wanted to distinguish it from Chastity Mansion, and from several of the other larger forums that had a member base that were more BDSM oriented. What we wanted was a forum *mainly* for those who were vanilla oriented, and who were put off by the sissy & cuck crowd at Chastity Mansion, and by the more BDSM oriented groups elsewhere.
The first year we saw a lot of sissies coming over from Yahoo groups and The Mansion, which turned off many of the original members. We made the decision to discourage not the sissies themselves, but the usage of the terms often associated with that particular lifestyle. It's a fine distinction, but it was a workable compromise. We did not make the decision lightly, and it went along with our decision to have discussions as adults, and not in the "character" or personae.
So, the way it works is that a person can join in the discussions, ask questions, give answers, etc., but as Joe, and not Sissy Joanna. Again, it's not perfect, but it's the compromise that we worked out.
On a personal note, while I don't care about a particular member's kinks, I do care about having a forum that is mainly for the more vanilla crowd. When I started blogging, back in the stone age, most of the questions that I got were from men and women who were married or partnered, and who felt uncomfortable on the Yahoo groups (the women, especially), and on some of the more well known boards at the time. There really was no place for the more vanilla folks to go (ironically as it seems), and we created this group with them in mind. Since then (2010), we've managed to build up a small, but interesting community, and I'm generally pretty happy with how it has worked out.