Too many orgasms for older men can be unhealthy. Huh?

[Len51]

Edited to replace the name of the post orgasm depression I get. It goes by many names.

My wife has kept me in chastity for over a year now. I wear my CB6000s 24/7. In fact the cage and a ring has broken from the constant use. For me it is very comfortable. I used to get an orgasm a month but two days ago my wife read an article online that stated too many orgasms with ejaculation for older men, can be unhealthy. This jist of it was about how much energy goes into the one goal of sex which is to pass on one's genes. Chemical, hormones and a few other things they mentioned are lost or diminished and unlike younger men, older men take much longer to replenish and can feel fatigue, depression, and a list of other things. I tried to find the URL of the article but I could not. Most articles talk about the benefits of sex so this article ran contrary to all the other sex wisdom out there.

The fact that I do suffer from some form of Postorgasmic depression which started two years ago, tended to back up what she read. My wife now has me on a 4 orgasm a year schedule and thinks that is two too many and will see how well I handle 4 orgasms a year before reducing the number further. There are reasons why my wife could care less if I ever cum again besides my health but that is a long story about her weird brand of bisexuality. When she agreed to chastity as our lifestyle, it came with a list of things that made being a keyholder too much work for her. I had to agree to not do the things on her list so I have no say in my chastity at all nor can I mention it or try to influence her by sending her articles or pictures like I used to do a lot.

For almost 30 years my sex was with my wife and her girlfriend. Most men are happy with one threesome and I was having several each month, so I owe my wife big time and gave her control of our sex life for as long as we live. I had my fun all that time with two women who would try any crazy fetish I asked them to do. TIme to pay the piper but oddly enough I enjoy chastity as it makes me feel better and happier.

For more information on Postorgasmic depression go here:http://www.healthcentral.com/sexual-hea ... depressed/

[Tom Allen]

Postorgasmic Illness Syndrom

I don't even...

[Len51]

I do get very depressed, fatigued and disinterested in everything after an orgasm. The last time my wife asked me why I was so down and I told her I was bored with everything and not interested in doing anything. When I was having a few orgasms a week I would get depressed after each one and get another to try to feel better. What I did not know was that my orgasms were the cause of my depression and when I greatly reduced them I stopped feeling depressed all the time and only got depressed and fatigued after my monthly orgasm. If you search the internet you will find many medical sites address post orgasm depression. It is not uncommon and I am on anti depressants but now that I know the cause of my depression and greatly reduced the number of my orgasms, I have been able to reduce my dosage to the point that my next step is to stop taking them.

Here is another take on the problem and I think it is interesting that chastity alleviates the problem. Maybe someone should tell the medical profession about the benefits of chastity.
http://www.healthcentral.com/sexual-hea ... depressed/

[crated51]

More likely your dealing with low testosterone and exposure to estrogen mimicking chemicals. Apart from the standard: exercise, get plenty of rest, etc. Start cycling supplements that frees testosterone and reduces estrogen - STAY AWAY from prescription quick fixes!!!

You will NEVER hear of man who is up on life with low T!!

[sherulestherooster]

A few things:
In your case, I tend to agree with crated51. If I understand your prior posts, you used to have a lot of sex (not sure I always follow, did your wife let you have sex with her, or just others?). If you didn't experience this phenomenon then, why now? Maybe something like low T changed things?

I too feel a letdown after orgasm. I suppose that's one of the reason orgasm denial works for us. My wife can tell just by the way I act toward her if I masturbated. So, I don't masturbate anymore. We both like the horny me better than the satiated me.

"Depression" seems a little strong of a word, I feel lethargic and irritable. Kinda like Inigo Montoya in the Princess Bride: I have been pursuing sex for so long, now that I've had it, I don't know what to do (haha). When she has denied me, I feel euphoric and have a lot more energy. I wish this weren't so, I really do enjoy orgasms. Been this way for quite a while now. Had a physical recently and doc said I was fine.

I too enjoy being locked up in the chastity cage, but out of curiosity, wouldn't the depression you experience be a sufficient deterrent for you? It is for me. That disappointment she gives me if I masturbated is not worth the momentary pleasure at all. But, I do wish I were locked more frequently.

[Tame Lion]

I see this post orgasm depression theme pretty often on this board. I don't see it many other places. I wonder if people who suffer this gravitate to enforced chastity as a way to compensate. I am older too, but after I come, I feel relaxed and very comfortable. I asked Mrs. Lion if she could detect differences in my personality when horny or sated, and she couldn't see any.

Maybe the opposite of depression is what some experience. Could it be that when horny and wanting, there is more energy and interest in interacting with the person who can get you off? There is the excitement of the "hunt" when horny. I certainly feel it. But after I get to come, I just feel laid back and satisfied.

[Schwink]

I've heard of Post-Coital Tristesse before. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-coital_tristesse for Wiki-cite! I don't really feel the lows that most people describe unless I orgasm more than three times in a day.

[Len51]

I tend to agree what all that is said and glad that others do not think I am off the wall with this. I do agree that depression is too strong a word but my last two doctors felt that just feeling blah, not sleeping well and sometimes getting angry, is caused by depression. You do not have to look or feel like they show on TV to have depression. I take Wellbutrin and if you look it up, you will find that it increases libido and causes very intense orgasms, so I kind of like it for that reason. When my wife and I were both on it to quite smoking (That is what Zyban is), the sex was out of this world with toe curling painful (in a good way) orgams. We were having sex all the time.

I also learned that BDSM is often the refuge of those with depression. We were very into BDSM and my wife's girlfriend, who lived with us part time, was my Mistress and lover. Once I went on anti depressants, I lost interest in BDSM so maybe my doctor is right.

Like most of you, this is why chastity works out for us. I am starting week 4 with no orgasm and have three more weeks to go and feel good and not burning for an orgasm. Last night during our teasing session, I did not even get hard and was happy to end it after just 15 minutes. If I know I am not going to cum, my penis does not like to play without a lot of effort on my wife's part.

[Len51]

A few things:
In your case, I tend to agree with crated51. If I understand your prior posts, you used to have a lot of sex (not sure I always follow, did your wife let you have sex with her, or just others?). If you didn't experience this phenomenon then, why now? Maybe something like low T changed things?

I too feel a letdown after orgasm. I suppose that's one of the reason orgasm denial works for us. My wife can tell just by the way I act toward her if I masturbated. So, I don't masturbate anymore. We both like the horny me better than the satiated me.

"Depression" seems a little strong of a word, I feel lethargic and irritable. Kinda like Inigo Montoya in the Princess Bride: I have been pursuing sex for so long, now that I've had it, I don't know what to do (haha). When she has denied me, I feel euphoric and have a lot more energy. I wish this weren't so, I really do enjoy orgasms. Been this way for quite a while now. Had a physical recently and doc said I was fine.

I too enjoy being locked up in the chastity cage, but out of curiosity, wouldn't the depression you experience be a sufficient deterrent for you? It is for me. That disappointment she gives me if I masturbated is not worth the momentary pleasure at all. But, I do wish I were locked more frequently.

The frequent sex is due to my wife being bisexual and not wanting to have sex with women without me, but allows me to do so. Her longtime g/f had her own room in our house and split her time between living with us and her cuckold husband. She exited our life a few years ago. We both miss having her in bed with us. She filled something in both of us that made sex even better. She provide me with the rough sex I occasionally like but my wife does not. She gave my wife someone who thinks with their emotions to talk to and enjoy long, gentle and sensuous sex with a lot of kissing and foreplay. I provided that to my wife too but that is all my wife liked but I also need some hard and rough sex without making love, at times.

As for depression being enough of a deterrent, it was not because if I had several orgasms a day, there was little if any impact from depression. My wife was well aware for a long time that I needed frequent sex and that is also one of the reasons she would find women for me to take the load off of her. She never had sex with any women without me participating so she was not looking for woman just for herself. She considers herself to be heteroflexible. All three of my serious relationships since the age of 14 have been with bisexual women and lots of threesomes. That is all I know and now we do not have that and I have fewer orgasms as my wife's libido is not what it used to be while mine still is.

This is why chastity works well for us. My wife knows that she is free to have outside lovers but she does not want any. She likes it the way it is where she teases me twice a week and I have 6 scheduled orgasm days for 2015 with two of them being optional if she wants. She makes chastity fun. She has rules that prevent me from sexually touching her without her permission. I am locked up 24/7 and she replaced my underwear with panties. She wears a key charm around her neck, not the key to my lock, just a key charm. She mixes in some domestic discipline and she leaves marks when she gets into it. She is always teasing me in some way and encourages me to view porn to make myself horny. She enjoys an orgasm of two a week and they are very intense bordering on painful, after teasing me for an hour or so. My moans of frustration turn her on. She always got turned on by my moans of pain during any BDSM games with her of her g/f. Now the moans are for a different reason but still excite her a lot.

All in all, this is the best we have felt since leaving our g/f. We are both happy with our chastity. I feel better than I have in a long time and my wife likes having control of our sex life and how well behaved I am.