Just some thoughts. I organized this according to what I see are themes.
davidphd1866 wrote:1. The end of February will be four months.
2. I have been orgasm-free, but the semen sort of just runs out a bit from time to time.
3. I simply get "tired" of wearing the CB. I go about one week in, one week out.
7. I have now witnessed several horniness cycles and they seem to related to wife's ovulation.
So now you're getting into the reality of long term denial, and discovering that it may not be what you thought. That's okay, though, because sometimes just the experience itself is worth it, after you've finished and had a chance to reflect and digest.
9. Our wife and I get along splendidly. The chastity certainly hasn't hurt our relationship.
5. I still provide her with orgasms about twice a week. And she loves them.
10. My wife has become 100% happy with me being chaste.
4. My wife is too afraid (unwilling, etc.) to tease me or stroke me for fear of me cumming.
11. When asked, she expressed no interest in ending the chastity period or chastity itself.
Does this mean that you no longer have intercourse? I know all women are different, but some women might have a problem with that. Or not. Mrs. Edge would, which is why we use the strapon.
Glad to see that things are good, intimacy wise. Are things improving at all for you?
Also, what does your wife think about this so far? That is, what is she getting out of it that makes her willing to keep going?
6. Like some of you have warned, there seems to be a line where chastity becomes celibacy.
12. I have come to the point of asking, "Why any longer? What will be gained or learned?"
8. I now see why the Tom Allans of the group (et al) no longer focus on a "number".
Wait, let me expound. When you're new at this, it's all so exciting, and it's a natural thing to try for a new record of some sort, and you're *always* keeping track of things. How long since coming, how long in the cage, how many times having sex without release, etc., etc. That's perfectly normal - you're learnign something new.
But eventually you stop learning the new, superficial things, and it begins to change your perspective in unanticipated ways. For example, I used to be a casual bicyclist, then a few years ago I started riding more seriously. I went from 5 miles, to 8, to 10, to 15, to... and somewhere in there I stopped counting the miles except as they related to calories burned. I started biking on errands, to meetings, and to wherever it was convenient. I'm more aware of towns with bike lanes, I'm more health-conscious, and every trip I take I keep an eye toward whether or not I could have made it on two wheels.
And again, chastity is not a journey
, it's just a way to help build intimacy with your partner via some unconventional means. Just enjoy it for what it is, for what's happening, and screw the numbers.