I spoke to her last night on the phone, she is out of town, and told her that I had been good. She was quiet for a second and then she said she liked it. We then talked about Friday and she said that she excited to see me and play with me.One day [several months ago] she saw on my phone browser that I had been on literotica.com. She seemed bothered by it and later asked me if I played with myself by myself. I told her I did, not realizing that she didn't. She was upset and I told her that I would stop for her, but she didn't want to talk about it. I kind of slowed down (I usually jerk-off 1-3 times a day) but then got back in an old rut.
About 2 weeks ago I decided that I wanted to make a change in my life and started to eliminate some negative and selfish things from my life. Porn and jerking off were two of them. I stopped and actually put on my CB6000s last Sunday, about 1.5 weeks ago. We saw each other on Friday, me sans CB6000s and cuddled that evening and then went to bed. I was dying for release, but loved the idea that I had gone 6 days. On Saturday morning, we played, with her jerking me off and me playing with her until she came. I then told her what I had done and she seemed really excited. I told her that I wanted to stop masturbating, but needed her support and she agreed to help. Later that afternoon we started playing and she asked me to jerk-off for her, and then she masturbated for me. We played around again on Sunday morning and after she left, I put my CB6000s on again.
It has been 11 days since I last selfishly jerked off alone, and I feel great. I hope that I can stick to it and can eventually introduce her to keyholding and get a nice chastity device from Mature Metal. As for kinkiness, two interesting things happened over the weekend.
I am first trying to do this to cut masturbation out. Can I do it myself? Probably for a while. We see each other pretty much only on the weekends, so would like to wear during the week and then be out on the weekend. Ultimately, if she wanted to take a little more control, etc, that is fine, but I am seriously not trying to get her into a 100 day w/o orgasm run or anything like that.
I feel like my approach should be the least threatening to her. She likes that I am remaining chaste, she likes that I tell her that I am, and I really only want to be chaste when not with her. I am pretty much already doing those 3 things, but would like to have a device thrown in with her knowledge and her as the keyholder. I guess that I am primarily concerned with the weirdness factor for her (I don't even know if she knows what they are) with me wearing a device.