I'd like some commentary here, particularly if you fit into this mould.
Domina/submissive. Shoe worship. Foot worship. Other various body parts worship. Whips and chains and cuffs. Riding crops. Flails. Dungeons. Cuckolding. Male enslavement. Multiple male milking stalls like a dairy barn to harvest large quantities of cum. CBT. Leather and latex. Fantasy and reality.
All in a day's work for a kinky erotic Romance editor where all the novels are written by women.
And when I take off my kinky editor hat and put away all my research materials that Miss BethK has never had the desire to pick up and read - she hasn't even read any of the novels I've edited, I put on my middle-aged vanilla chaste hub in a female-led-relationship hat.
It was my editing that lead me to the chaste lifestyle. Male chastity appeared in a femdom story I was editing. That caused me to do research on the side, and here we are today. First we played at chastity, then forty days ago it got serious when the lock snapped and the key went to my wife. Nary an orgasm since.
Miss BethK pretty much leads this menagerie which is our life in a little house on the prairie. And I pretty much follow. That works best for us. And though everyone in our little village of 128 is aware of my kinky Romance editing, they are unaware of my new chaste ways, or how much Miss Beth is really in charge around here. (She is the rabble-rousing politico around here though, firing up a successful campaign to save our Post Office from closure and taking a village library board
seat about a year after we moved here - the village board might be her next conquest).
I just spent an hour or so writing the longest post to our blog, detailing how I wound up in a female-led marriage which is almost exclusively vanilla (besides male chastity). All my research into various and sundry kinks (it's a job, not an adventure), and all my private perusing of the Web, whilst I find much about the FLR that has a woman ruling over the roost like a personal fiefdom, I've found nothing on a vanilla FLR.
So I wrote a post about it. As our blog has taken the blogosphere by storm (it has two followers), that important information is available now.
Are there no vanilla female-led-relationships or marriages besides ours? Or is the nature of vanilla such that reading about such a relationship just - well - too vanilla?
Are there any besides us? Or is even a vanilla FLR destined to slide inexorably into the Great Beyond of a femdom relationship? Even the "publish" button on this edit screen says "submit": so many social cues here. . . .
Whether your FLR (or desire for one) is vanilla or otherwise, I would like to hear from you on how you got where you are today. Perhaps I am just a bit down: our blog has only been going since June (though our female-led marriage is approaching five years now); surely there must be more folk who are either curious or have experience in this area they'd like to share? I don't fancy myself a trailblazer in vanilla kink. - James.