As I have said in other posts, this whole FLR, WLR, FemDom stuff is language that is loaded with so much baggage. I never even heard of the terms until a few months ago but meanwhile, I've been happily living my life as the woman in charge since Ab and I went on our very first date. As Celtic Queen noted, women have been holding home and hearth together for millennia while the men ran off with their spears and clubs and did their guy things. So it's really not a new concept.
I think what happens is that we believe we're supposed to act a certain way and try to act that way, even if it's contrary to our nature. That's the point I was getting at in the other thread when I was reacting to FLR women who use tools of the patriarchy (oppression, brutality, punishment, etc) so take the reins when they suddenly realize they want to be in charge. That doesn't work at all for me and I don't get it.
The more traditional scenario is for the woman to settle into the role of "little woman" or whatever, no matter what sort of person she was beforehand. Plenty of women do this--I know them! Some are happy, many are not. I, on the other hand, never bought into that stereotype. I had to be me, the strong, confident, assertive woman I am.
I went to a woman's college. You know the old joke: everyone is there to get her MRS degree. For a lot of my classmates, that was true and by the mid-point of their freshman year, they were pinned to frat boys from the college up the hill. A few of us, however, realized there was something else out there in the world besides getting married and settling down to be a housefrau. I sometimes wonder what the deans and faculty thought of all these girls who clearly came to college for one reason only: to catch a man. That's certainly not why I was there!