Question

[michaelnmelissa]

I'm curious how long each man stays locked up without being released for tease and denial? Being new, I suppose I've been thinking it should be often but now I'm not so sure. I know each couple will be different, but is it generally true you're locked up more often than not? Are you released and teased weekly, monthly, or...?

Thanks,
Michael

[jnuts]

It varies greatly. For myself I would say I get some action about 3 times a week.

[Dev]

Around here, I tend to tease Ab in his device. While he takes it off daily for bathing (at least at this moment), I rarely take it off for sexual hijinks. Last week he was wearing his locking cock ring and that's when we had the ruined orgasm. I play with him in his cage and have recently discovered the fun of putting a vibrator on his perineum while he is locked.

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[Atone]

I am of the opinion that it shouldn't be too often. More importantly it should be at the discretion of your spouse. If you are the one calling the shots then she is not in control. That is not to say that you shouldn't have input, just that it should be pre-negotiated.

-A

[thumper]

At the beginning, it was every 2-4 weeks. Then it stretched out to 4-6 weeks. Now it's 2-3 months. It's not like there's a prize at the end for the guy who goes the longest, but I find I'm craving longer and longer periods. Personally, my next goal is 4 months. But...you know...not my call.

[Atone]

Thumper, are you talking time between orgasms or T&D sessions? I think he was asking about being let out for just a little play time.

The craving for longer and longer periods is a hard one to explain or understand. When I started I though 30 days sounded really long. I remember thinking about once a month would probably be a nice pace. Then I got closer to the 30 days and I knew I wanted it to be longer. Then I remember reading about someone trying to go 100 days and I thought well maybe after a couple of cycles. Now I am well on my way to 100 days and then some. It is not a competition but when I hear about someone else meeting some goal I think wow, that would be great, I wonder if I could do that?

Oddly, at the same time, I hear about someone who just had a release after a relatively short period of time and I think, I want that. That sounds like it was a lot of fun.

-A

[thumper]

Thumper, are you talking time between orgasms or T&D sessions? I think he was asking about being let out for just a little play time.

Oh, yeah. Duh.

Well, the way we play, when I'm in, I'm in and don't come out until it's time. I get plenty worked up by her pleasure, but she's not the type to play with the merchandise while it's aging.

Oddly, at the same time, I hear about someone who just had a release after a relatively short period of time and I think, I want that. That sounds like it was a lot of fun.

Isn't that weird? It's like how I start to stare at pictures of cumshots I find while looking at images for the Portfolio. I just...stare. There's a part of me, the lower part of my brain, that still crave the orgasm, but the higher part likes to be starved of them...

[Dev]

Thumper, are you talking time between orgasms or T&D sessions? I think he was asking about being let out for just a little play time.

I think this is an important point. Since it is popular right now, Sarah's book, blog, and newsletter provides lots of hints on T&D that involve the guy being out of his device. That confused me at the beginning since my view was "Locked is locked." It is still my view, actually. I think if we want to do T&D, I'll have Ab put on his locking cock ring (now that we own it) and play that way. But really, I stimulate him in his cage and I am trying to get more creative about how I do that (and I think I am succeeding). To sum up, overall---out of device for T&D is rare.

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[jnuts]

But really, I stimulate him in his cage and I am trying to get more creative about how I do that (and I think I am succeeding).

Need details. Should be locked very soon. Yes, need details.

[Belle]

I don't know how often I will be letting him out when our device arrives. I have a feeling it will bemore frequent than most, as I am not a fan of manual stimulation, and oral is one of those things that I have to be in the mood for. Penatrative sex is what makes me cum, so I am pretty sure I will be letting him out for my own personal pleasure, not his.