At 14-17 days I definitely have a grumpy peak. In fact, this lead to a blow up earlier in the week, at exactly 15 days. I accused her of ignoring me as she doesn't really do active T&D and she accused me of constantly upping the ante and pressuring her. We immediately made up the next morning though, when both us weren't so dog-tired, and the game goes on...
So, would that be considered T&D?
Since you don't get to orgasm any interaction with your wife qualifies as T&D, I would think, at least it does for me. The little peck on her neck, the trailing hand grab, the hug from behind where she rests her head on your shoulder ... all these little things become highly charged. And then when you do really play, like we we've done twice in the past few days (a significant amount of play for 40 somethings with career and two young children), and I make her come with my mouth, the arousal is mind blowing.
This is the first time I've been past that grumpy peak actually. It's kind of nice to be back in that constant low-level arousal contented state. How can you be aroused and contented at the same time? I don't know.