No, I'm really not a troll. Not 100% sure what that is but I assume its a guy who really is not interested or into this who hangs around to be a dick. Which is one reason I like the forum. One rule. Don't be a dick!
I'm truly interested but maybe its the motives? Maybe its the more careful what I wish for? Or maybe? I just don't know. I've invested in it (At least to the extent of buying a Curve from Kept for her) I'm frustrated but... Part of its device issues and the whole living this way and maybe just that I'm not really keen on learning to love denial for denials sake.
My take on this has morphed from my first stumbling onto the concept. First it was mostly WTF... I admit some of the fiction.,. Well some was sort of hot. Some was truly disturbing and not my cup of tea. I guess if I had only knew of the ubber pay sites and chastity mansion it would never have gotten beyond the "look at THAT!" stage.
Ok, then marital issues. The links that led me back to reading about this in a more "reality way" re: how to turn your crummy husband into the Ideal Mate.
The ideas on things he used to do that he doesn't bother with anymore? Very right on. Most of which had nothing to do with locking up cocks and doing denial but... That part (Sex being an issue and one sided) needed some kind of tune up I admit.
I think some of this is coming across wrong. I'm not trying to start a fight. Or say that what your doing is wrong. I'm trying to figure out how we can do whatever we end up doing that works for us. I think most of us can admit that the "mold" others casted for this lifestyle is not for everyone. Otherwise you would all be dusting wearing french maid outfits.
Some of what I am thinking out loud may well be just dumb ass stuff that you have heard from other "noobs" before and are sick of or is a weird slant on this that you don't think is kosher. Anyway, take my comments with a grain of salt. I'm not trying to be a dick. Honest!