Since we're all talking metaphors here...LOL...I think there has been a bit of a slope for you, albeit a gentle one. It's fun to read about your adventures on the blog, but what's really _interesting_ to me is the changes that this game have brought. It's very similar to what I've seen in our relationship.
I guess to me, the notion of a slope implies some loss of control. We start walking down the hill then suddenly stumble, fall, and suddenly are flying down, head over heels with no chance of making any change in direction--and probably ending up at the bottom of the hill in worse shape than we started out. Put in a chastity context, that would be that these "things," such as I illustrated earlier, are inevitable, they WILL happen and we have no power to say no--and when the game finally does end, we'll be all the worse emotionally for having started playing in the first place.
I think everyone here on this forum would be in agreement that is not going to happen, but for the newcomer/reluctant wife who is searching for info...she might find one of these sites and because her bullshit meter isn't as finely calibrated as ours are, she might be rather put-off by the whole idea. And rightly so.
Likes, I do agree...there have been changes in my relationship with Ab and in myself as well. I can't speak completely for him but I am sure he would agree that he has experienced quite a bit of change, too.
So, for a metaphor...how about we're hiking through the woods and there's the branch that goes this way and the branch that goes that way and we keep making choices. Sometimes we're a little surprised at where a certain branch takes us. When we got to the beautiful waterfall, we enjoyed the view. When we got to the scary black bear, however, we turned around and went the other way.
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