[Betterthansmith] The end.

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[Betterthansmith] The end.

Postby Betterthansmith » Mon Feb 13, 2017 11:45 am

Three years ago, about this time of year, I casually introduced the idea of a chastity cage to my wife. She didn't collapse in shock, she didn't kick me out of the house. She mumbled an 'oh ok, if you want...'

Our relationship is pretty typical. Early 40s, three kids. She is happy with the vanilla standard and I have spent the last ten years fighting that urge to want something more, that there has to be something more than this normal...

Just over three years ago she caught me masturbating in the shower. She knew it happened, but she was shocked to actually catch me doing it. Part of my reasoning in introducing the chastity cage was that she could help curb my masturbating. She understood, but suggested I shouldn't need a cage to stop me from masturbating, I should just not do it.

The cage arrived. She was intrigued but little more. She worried that it wasn't right, it wasn't natural, it must hurt, etc etc.. I tried to assure her but she was never sure. Any periods of time in the cage were typically instigated by me - 'how are you going to stop me doing X or Y or Z?' was the usual leading question from me.

I ordered a JailBird. Then I ordered another one when the fit wasn't quite right. Every month or two she would lock me up after I'd annoyed her enough into locking me up. The longest she kept me locked up for was three weeks and every now and then there'd be a small hint that she actually liked having this control over me.

The first time I gave her an orgasm while locked up she said 'and what about you?' I replied 'you'll have to unlock me' and she nervously replied 'I don't think so, I'm going to sleep' - she couldn't believe it when I thanked her and kissed her goodnight. She was so content (and I was loving it) but she still didn't get it. As is always the case he next day it was like nothing had happened.

We used a strap-on over the cage a few times (which was amazing). She used different toys with and without me to orgasm. She started to text me at work when she was at home having an orgasm.

All these fantastic fantasies. Problem was that they were my fantasies. Yes she enjoyed herself but everything had come from my suggestions one way or another. She was having 4-5 orgasms a month rather than 1 or 2, but she could take it or leave it. She wasn't that bothered to lock me up. She likes to see me masturbating and cumming on her chest when she's playing with herself, so why should she lock me up? (Yes, I explained the options but to no avail.)

A couple of months ago I sold the last JailBird. There is no chastity cage sat in the cupboard any more. Having it there unused was like having money burning a hole in my pocket, so I got rid of it. I can't ask anymore leading questions and be disappointed when I don't get the answer I want to hear.

It makes me sad. I miss it - there were some extremely frustrating but fun times. When I told her the cage was gone she was almost emotionless. Not bothered either way. We are back to 'normal'. Birthdays and Valentines, mid-cycle vanilla-ness. She tells me I should be happy, 'other couples don't do it as often as us'...

So that is it. My first and last journal post. I never kept a journal on here - I suppose deep down I was never convinced that it would last. I didn't want to be one of those 'everything is awesome' for the first six months and then disappear. So why write it? I guess to say a quick thank you to having my questions answered when I was an excitable beginner. I suppose to cling on to the idea. And if you're trying it, good luck, and if you're in it, I realise how lucky you are.
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Re: [Betterthansmith] The end.

Postby locked4her55 » Mon Feb 13, 2017 3:38 pm

Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you both.
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Re: [Betterthansmith] The end.

Postby mistress is god » Thu Feb 16, 2017 8:35 am

Betterthansmith can I just say that your story is so similar to mine. My wife was the same at the start and would allow chastity in the relationship but it was all me with no input from her.

She likes the once per month vanilla sex and now hates chastity and sex toys and will not allow them in the house.

However please please be careful!!! you can blow a part a relationship if you are totally unhappy in the bed room. I know I have been there... If you are into chastity / denial and she is not then do it for yourself. Just because she is not holding the key does not make it any less real. Lets be honest if you really want to cum you can find a way whilst wearing a device so either way it comes down to your personal commitment to yourself.

If you want to be teased. You know where your hand is and where the porn web sites are.... just remember to stop.

Just a thought and hope it helps........
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Re: [Betterthansmith] The end.

Postby Betterthansmith » Thu Feb 16, 2017 12:45 pm

I appreciate the reply - thank you. I'm aware of the unhappiness becoming an issue so really just have to focus on pleasing her and making her as happy as possible. Orgasm denial is still a 'thing' so really it is taking a different approach and an approach to our love life that she is happy with, and appreciating any effort she puts in to try and do something she hopes will push my buttons. Yes, I mourn those fleeting moments of when the fantasy was a reality, but I also have to accept and appreciate how lucky I am to have a loving wife who entertained those moments in the first place.
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