[NoloMeTangere] Posting in Mid-Journey
Posted: Tue Jul 19, 2016 11:44 am
I am posting, or rather re-posting this in the Journey thread after originally having posted my story in response to another member's thread. He and I both seem destined to be headed toward "enjoying" the ultimate fantasy, "permanent" denial.
Briefly, my now wife and I had been workmates, and then best friends while she was in a monogamous relationship with a woman. After her relationship broke down, we were intimate on the rebound, and she became pregnant on what was essentially the first try (not really, but practically). We decided to marry and try to make a go of it despite her sexual orientation. We were able to develop a very hot romantic life, but, like another member's wife, my wife has always hated phallocentric sex.
Over time, years, I reduced my intercourse requests as much as I could and supplemented my lack with masturbation. My wife never liked this and has always felt that if she could give up women, I should be able to give up masturbation.
My wife is sexually very submissive, and I have come to be fairly Dom, a situation that should lead to head-banging sex, except she really doesn't like intromissive sex, and hates semen - even the smell, which she is inordinately sensitive to, makes her practically nauseated.
Years ago we moved towards me performing oral sex on her as almost our exclusive means of fulfilling our love for each other, and we do love each other. This has always been difficult for me to do without PIV because my wife likes me to be very Dom, but she also hates PIV. It was almost impossible for me to just take her, "force" oral sex on her, but then not penetrate her since giving her oral makes me lose my mind practically.
My wife has always been somewhat disgusted/amused by erections and by my testicles. Fortunately she does love my muscles and the fact that I'm bigger and stronger than her. She just hates the penis. And, of course, she HATES the smell of cum.
I decided I would try using a device about three months ago, and it made her very happy and really increased our sex life, albeit with virtually no orgasms for me. With the device, I can now do oral on her without forcing PIV on her.
There are several positives. She is happier with me and closer to me than we've ever been - I mean ever. Even our daughter noticed it, and she likes it, I think it makes my daughter feel more secure. Also, while I have always loved eating my wife, it has taken on a whole new level of importance in my world. Now the smell of her excitement makes me insane, and the taste is the only thing that keeps me going.
Unlike many of the wives described on this board, my wife has a strong libido, it's just directed away from the penis. She likes me to "take" her, pick her up and carry her into the bedroom or lift her onto the table and make love to her orally till she screams, just without my penis being in any way involved. This "force" is maybe the one thing she loves about being with a man rather than a woman. Before chastity I would either just stop (so difficult - but I've done it), guilt her into intercourse, which completely ruined the afterglow for her, or left the room (because of the smell) to masturbate, which was less bad, but still undesirable.
Now, I feel like a racehorse trembling at the gate, except I never get to run! This leads to a cycle where I go back down on her to another series of orgasms for her. And the cycle repeats. Fortunately we have enough privacy (most of the time) and her libido is high enough that my tongue quits before she does.
One member's story resonated so strongly with me that I shared it with my wife. That member is starting permanent chastity, and the idea of having, as my wife put it, "all the benefits of a man" without the downside - the penis- inspired my wife to research chastity options because my cage tends to hurt and chafe. She has a lot of lesbian friends who are piercers, and she is thinking of some type of piercings that would accommodate some sort of rings. She claims a friend of a friend did this.
She has offered to have two more babies as an incentive, since she has always worried that our marriage was unstable because I might cheat due to lack of sex for me. She says if we can work out a reasonably permanent, undefeatable chastity mechanism, she will consider our marriage as stable and have more kids.
I should add at this point that, as much as I love my wife, the piercings that her friends have suggested all take MONTHS to heal and I'm not willing to have a wound on my penis for months. If anyone can suggest a reasonable alternative, feel free to let me know in the comments.
Briefly, my now wife and I had been workmates, and then best friends while she was in a monogamous relationship with a woman. After her relationship broke down, we were intimate on the rebound, and she became pregnant on what was essentially the first try (not really, but practically). We decided to marry and try to make a go of it despite her sexual orientation. We were able to develop a very hot romantic life, but, like another member's wife, my wife has always hated phallocentric sex.
Over time, years, I reduced my intercourse requests as much as I could and supplemented my lack with masturbation. My wife never liked this and has always felt that if she could give up women, I should be able to give up masturbation.
My wife is sexually very submissive, and I have come to be fairly Dom, a situation that should lead to head-banging sex, except she really doesn't like intromissive sex, and hates semen - even the smell, which she is inordinately sensitive to, makes her practically nauseated.
Years ago we moved towards me performing oral sex on her as almost our exclusive means of fulfilling our love for each other, and we do love each other. This has always been difficult for me to do without PIV because my wife likes me to be very Dom, but she also hates PIV. It was almost impossible for me to just take her, "force" oral sex on her, but then not penetrate her since giving her oral makes me lose my mind practically.
My wife has always been somewhat disgusted/amused by erections and by my testicles. Fortunately she does love my muscles and the fact that I'm bigger and stronger than her. She just hates the penis. And, of course, she HATES the smell of cum.
I decided I would try using a device about three months ago, and it made her very happy and really increased our sex life, albeit with virtually no orgasms for me. With the device, I can now do oral on her without forcing PIV on her.
There are several positives. She is happier with me and closer to me than we've ever been - I mean ever. Even our daughter noticed it, and she likes it, I think it makes my daughter feel more secure. Also, while I have always loved eating my wife, it has taken on a whole new level of importance in my world. Now the smell of her excitement makes me insane, and the taste is the only thing that keeps me going.
Unlike many of the wives described on this board, my wife has a strong libido, it's just directed away from the penis. She likes me to "take" her, pick her up and carry her into the bedroom or lift her onto the table and make love to her orally till she screams, just without my penis being in any way involved. This "force" is maybe the one thing she loves about being with a man rather than a woman. Before chastity I would either just stop (so difficult - but I've done it), guilt her into intercourse, which completely ruined the afterglow for her, or left the room (because of the smell) to masturbate, which was less bad, but still undesirable.
Now, I feel like a racehorse trembling at the gate, except I never get to run! This leads to a cycle where I go back down on her to another series of orgasms for her. And the cycle repeats. Fortunately we have enough privacy (most of the time) and her libido is high enough that my tongue quits before she does.
One member's story resonated so strongly with me that I shared it with my wife. That member is starting permanent chastity, and the idea of having, as my wife put it, "all the benefits of a man" without the downside - the penis- inspired my wife to research chastity options because my cage tends to hurt and chafe. She has a lot of lesbian friends who are piercers, and she is thinking of some type of piercings that would accommodate some sort of rings. She claims a friend of a friend did this.
She has offered to have two more babies as an incentive, since she has always worried that our marriage was unstable because I might cheat due to lack of sex for me. She says if we can work out a reasonably permanent, undefeatable chastity mechanism, she will consider our marriage as stable and have more kids.
I should add at this point that, as much as I love my wife, the piercings that her friends have suggested all take MONTHS to heal and I'm not willing to have a wound on my penis for months. If anyone can suggest a reasonable alternative, feel free to let me know in the comments.