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Re: [jasmic68] Making it real. Slowly.

Postby cycling2work » Tue May 24, 2016 9:06 am

Very sorry about your crash and thanks for reporting about it. It will certainly help others to avoid similar situations.

. We sat on the bed, unable to talk. I tried to cuddle her, more because I was desperate for some kind of contact from her, to know that she was alright and to start feeling alright myself.


She was upset? No cuddling?
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Re: [jasmic68] Making it real. Slowly.

Postby sirmebane » Tue May 24, 2016 2:25 pm

Jasmic68 wrote:The Crash

It took my Wife a good few hours to calm down but she has been great since. Monday was a bad day for me as I continued to go over in my head what had happened, to try and understand what I had been through. As much as I want her to have a certain amount of power over me, I want to feel aroused and passionate, this was a dark experience that I want to avoid. My Wife has insisted that if we do this it has to be fun. This was not fun, it was way too intense.


People often forget that the human is both animal and thinking being. We like to believe we control the animal but sometimes it gets the better of our intentions. Learn from the experience, know the warning signs and let your wife know when you feel like you're foaming at the mouth. Maybe she needs to make sure you don't go too long without some relief or just a little less stimulation.

Only the two of you can work it out for your needs. Take some solace that you stopped when you were asked and had feelings of remorse. The 'thinking being' assumed control as it should have so you're not out of control, you just ended up going a little too far.
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Re: [jasmic68] Making it real. Slowly.

Postby Jasmic68 » Wed May 25, 2016 5:06 am

Thank you for this sirmebane, this means a lot.

sirmebane wrote:

People often forget that the human is both animal and thinking being. We like to believe we control the animal but sometimes it gets the better of our intentions. Learn from the experience, know the warning signs and let your wife know when you feel like you're foaming at the mouth. Maybe she needs to make sure you don't go too long without some relief or just a little less stimulation.

Only the two of you can work it out for your needs. Take some solace that you stopped when you were asked and had feelings of remorse. The 'thinking being' assumed control as it should have so you're not out of control, you just ended up going a little too far.


Your point about me foaming at the mouth is not far from the truth. The animal part of my brain definitely took over, but you are right, as soon I was told to stop the thinking part of me returned, and very swiftly. I am confident that had she told me to stop at any other point I would have been able to.

As for the amount of stimulation I had received it was considerable, and spread over four days. It is without doubt the most intense period of denial, teasing and fantasy fuelled fun I have ever experienced.

I have been advised to talk to my Wife about the cuddling from someone who has experience in quite heavy BDSM practices. They saw this as a severe subspace reaction and saw my Wife's job as being there to bring me back down calmly and safely. This first experience was a shock for her as well, so we will definitely keep an eye out for the signs in the future.
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