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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Fri Jan 29, 2016 8:07 am

We went from this:

What I find really interesting is that I no longer have any urge to do it myself, so on one side I really want to continue chastity with a device - having an eye on the contender on the other hand I don't know if I need it.


To this
resetting counters after 91 days

being alone and uncaged was not a good combination :cry:
Trying to stay strong for the remainder of the separation week.


in a matter of days. WOW - My head is spinning.

I ordered a Contender which will be waiting in my hotel in Orlando when I arrive. Meanwhile I am locked in the HT - locked myself and I have the key. A lot of you might wonder what is that going to help but for me it helps. It is another layer, it reminds me to stay good and to wank I need to take it off, also I don't tend to get erections in the HT during the day. At night it is a different story and even though I took lots of lube I needed to put it off at around 4am - as I wanted to sleep and not: apply lube, walk, piss, apply lube, walk, turn around.....

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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Fri Feb 12, 2016 9:29 am

I JUST returned back to the good place, but went through emotional roller coaster. Last time I wrote I had done it myself and I was upset with myself. That my wife was nowhere around did not help.

I went on the business trip, had the contender waiting for me in the Hotel. Mark, from MCN is amazing to work with. I put it on straight away and left the hotel without a key (or the tool for the security screw). The contender felt amazing and I love it. But I think I was too optimistic with the base ring and it seems i went a number to small. Woke up every hour in the first three nights but wanted to get used to it. Now I just ordered a bigger ring as I feel like I just don't get used to it.

I wanted to be good in Orlando on my business trip and the contender helped me, even though I had the tool. I was starting to be proud of myself and just did not want to do it myself. On the last day I packed my bags and knew i would need to pack my contender and I wanted to wash my penis without the cage. And then....

Yes, the day of my return to my wife I edged myself and edged myself and edged myself until I went a little too far. Didn't feel like an orgasm but wasn't horny anymore. BUT an hour later I thought well let me repeat that and so I did - many times and again I went over the edge (just slightly)

This was a huge mistake and I was so angry with myself. It took one week to be back in a good place. I was the old me that I was before chastity. My wife would irritate me so much and I would get angry with her. I did not feel the love I feel when I am not in this bad place. It was just me. I was different to her, misinterpreted her and got aggressive with words. Still when analyzing it feels as if she was also wrong but if I am in the good place these fights just don't happen, it is weird.

But now I am back in the good place and I love it. I apologized to my wife and told her everything. She is very understanding and told me - yeah you were just like a year ago. I told her no no no - this journey started only 70 days ago and she told me it feels so unreal, I never want to go back to before. I agreed. She does not read the books I recommend to her as she has no time. And in the week since I was back from business travel she did not want anything erotic with me since she did not like the person that came back from the business travel.

To help me get back to the horny and good place I watched porn but with the contender on. Not proud of that but it helped me get my hormones in place. I stopped again and my wife teased me again yesterday, which felt amazing.

PS: My birthday present is coming up :D :D :D :D Something I had asked for minimum 2 months ago. I think she will rent a hotel room and has some exciting stuff planned.

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Last O: 8 days
Last Masturbation: 8 days


I asked her that if I write a private blog just for her if she would read it and she said yes. So I think that is what I am going to set up. A blog (with a password, sorry guys) addressed to her, telling her what I like, what I dislike and more importantly what is going on in my head.

My wife is so amazing, so understanding, I truly am in love.
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The end

Postby cycling2work » Fri Feb 12, 2016 1:06 pm

The End

I am extremely grateful to the organizers at this forum who don't get a penny for looking after us wankers. I will stick around to read stuff and also to answer questions from time to time if I happen to think I know the answer.

However for me personally writing here in the Journey does not make much sense. Reason why I started the Journey was that I had benefitted immensely from reading many other stories and they were all similar in that the relation got improved and the couple found happiness. I wanted to share my story for others. I am very happy I did because when I now look back it is nice to see what my thoughts where just a few weeks ago.

However, now that the forum is private (which the majority of you believe to be the best choice) I don't see any reason anymore to share. I got a mere 2 hits in 5 hours (one of which was me). So If I want to keep a private journal I will do it private (where I can share even more with myself) or like I mentioned above one shared only with my wife. Or I might go the way of http://TheChasteCyclist.com although I can't imagine reaching 10% of his readership as he has a very unique and amazing writing style and KH ;);)

Anyway - thanks for reading until here (if anybody reads it anyway).
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby Jasmic68 » Fri Feb 12, 2016 7:30 pm

I think one of the down sides of this forum is how replies to journal entries are discouraged. I try to abide by it as rules is rules, but it does mean you have no idea who is reading and whether they are actively interested. I just wanted to say I have been doing both, just not commenting because of that rule.

It's a shame to see you go but I can understand.
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Mon Feb 15, 2016 8:36 am

thanks Jasmic, Yep, I am a ASW how they call it in the blogging world. So i need to see either comments or hits. With the change I get neither ;)

I read your story with interest and it is exciting to read the progress from you and from the others. Even though we are all different there are always some similarities and I also learnt stuff in the progress. I strongly believe that locking up your own tool almost always can only be a win. I will stick around the site just have not made up my mind what to do with the journey. So long.
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Wed Feb 17, 2016 2:10 pm

Guess it wasn't The End

I will just stop focussing on "hits" and keep it as my journal. Comments welcome.

How things have advanced. On the 9th of December I wrote the following:
AND - since about 10 days I have started planting the idea that I want some really special sexual play for my birthday (end Jan). She asked me what do you want for your birthday - and I told her - well - i have an idea related to the bedroom. :) I told her I did not want to come for more than a week before, wanted to be tied down and played with for more than an hour without being allowed to come. I am planting more ideas in to her head for this special day :D :D :D


My birthday was End of Jan and my wife is super stressed at work. But she loves me and likes the new me so she wants to organise something for next week. It involves a night in a hotel :D :D :D

Not sure what is in it for me but I am without an O since 13 days so we will be at the 3 week mark and I am already extremely horny as I have been teased a lot in the past few days.

Have not yet started the private blog for my wife because at the moment she is so stressed that she would not read it. She took on a "fire fighting" project at work where she has to organize a conference for 1800 people in May where the person who was in Charge really messed up. They hadn't even reserved a Hotel (!?) so you can imagine the level of pressure that is on her. I have taken over more of her private workload like shopping and organizing the kitchen and she thanks me with "teasing"..!

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Last O. PIV: 22 days
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Mon Feb 22, 2016 12:28 pm

Getting better and better.

I started out with porn with 11 and the first scene that turned me on was a pretty vanilla face sitting scene. Since that moment I have been obsessed with wanting to please women orally. I was a late starter sexually but got pretty good at oral. My wife though wanted less and less of it over the years. I had asked her to facesit me and I loved it but I never quite figured out why she did not want me down there all the time.

Over the years I had read many books about oral and pleasing her and in the back of my mind there was the fact that women need to be told how much of a turn on they are and their private parts. Apparently most women are really shy of men going down there because they don't like their own smell. My wife refuses to gear near my face or kiss me after I went down on her. I made a point the last 3 months to tell her how much her scent down there turns me on, hell making sure she understands it is like a drug to me. I got more of it... :)

Yesterday was a key event though. My wife was tired and as the kids were both sleeping during the day she decided to turn on the TV upstairs. I went and joined her even though she was not watching something I like. We talked a bit and she told me she will only watch 10 minutes as then she has to prepare food for the kids. I told her.. Hmmm.... I will prepare lunch. How about you do something to motivate me? She was already worked up sexually since we had been touching and kissing all morning. So she asked me what that would be. I told her the biggest favor you can give me is if you let me go down on you. She asked if she should take of the contender and I told her if you want to play with "your cock" or give me a blow job, then yes, otherwise please don't, I like being locked when he is not in use.

It was simply amazing for me. She was in trance but so was I. Being locked in a Contender with a too small base ring (*) was just amazing, the cock wanted to explode the contender. After she came I showed her my penis and it was completely blue. She got worried and ordered me to take off the contender, I told her not to worry and I am fully in control of my body, went to take a shower with a huge smile on my face.

At night she asked me to go down on her before some PIV with her on top. She had an amazing O. and thankfully I managed not to come. I am now at day 18 and if all goes well on Thursday will be my birthday sex session ;) in a Hotel.

Very happy, very in sync with her and extremely horny.

(*) getting a bigger one today

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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Wed Mar 02, 2016 8:54 am

day 1

Today is day one. which means yesterday i had an Orgasm. Oh my wife is amazing. It had been 25 days and it was the belated birthday present I had wished for.

When I got home from work, all sweaty as I cycle 16.5k home, mostly uphill she demanded I take a shower and suggested I put on the clothes that are on the bed. She said after that we are leaving. But don't ask questions.

The kids had been taken care off. So we left to an amazing hotel. After that we went to the roof top bar to have champagne and cheese and then left to a top meat restaurant. It was an amazing evening and I was extremely horny as I knew it was about to happen. I felt so close to my beautiful wife who wore an amazing looking dress and was just perfectly looking.

After we were back at the hotel she blindfolded me and tied my hands and feet. She teased me a lot and we had wonderful sex. I was hoping that she would force me to clean after my O. but was very happy after I came when she didn't do that. I still fantasize about it but on the other hand find the thought disgusting after I come.

We had amazing breakfast today and I feel a lot less horny but still a tad horny. Guess with one Orgasm after 25 days you don't get it all out of the system. I now want to let the timing of my orgasms be up to my wife completely without guidance or suggestions. Let's see where that goes. I asked her if she suffered that I didn't come in 25 days. She was surprised it had been so long but she said hell no, because "I came plenty of times ;);)"

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Longest run: 25 days without O.
Last O: 1 day ago
Last Masturbation 25 days ago
Next Masturbation - hopefully not in a long time ;)
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Mon Mar 14, 2016 1:50 pm

fighting

all is not good in chastity land. not sure what happened but even though i am on day 13 since my last o I am not incredible horny and we are fighting a lot. Consequence there is no teasing and I am fully locked up without release. i kind of feel like the victim here not like the aggressor, she has a lot of work and sleeps too little because of the kids.

Nights are o.k. with the bigger base ring. Wake up first time around 3am and then every hour to go pee but that is fine. Think eventually i will get used to it. During the day it is super comfortable and still cycling every day with it. Yesterday I ran a 10k race with the Contender on. I didn't even feel it.

Hoping the fighting stops soon so we can go back to business :roll:
Not dying for an O, would prefer to go near 30 days again. But lets see what happens next time we get intimate

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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Wed Mar 23, 2016 12:56 pm

The last chastity cycle (cycle meaning me between orgasms) ended March 18th with an accidental Orgasm. My wife rode me and I came before she did. I am not sure if it was a full orgasm it didn't feel that way. It was definitely a cycle to forget. Glad it's over.

Didn't tell my wife that it was perhaps not a full O. I am happy to be horny again and this cycle has started much better, we are aligned again and we are back to me getting teased almost daily. Not much teasing but at least some stroking and some attention. Not expecting any O (accidental or not) before 2 weeks in to the cycle.

What has changed and it is a very positive change that since the night in the Hotel I self lock before going to sleep. Meanwhile I only have to go pee 2x3 times per night and I can manage without lube. Won't be long before I am down to being awoken 1x I suppose. I stay locked till the next evening if my wife wants to tease me. She usually tells me to "take it off" and it makes me happy as it means she wants to play. When she goes to sleep I put it back on. Before I did that I would edge myself a few times at night and I wanted to avoid this temptation. :ugeek:

Last O: 6 days ago
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