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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Tue Dec 15, 2015 9:54 am

We are in the game now :) wow. After I showed her the article about sex according to the recommended Tao Frequency I made it pretty clear to my wife that this is what I long for. Now I am without any kind of O. since 7 days. It feels amazing. The best part of it is that I always thought we would not be able to have PIV without me having at least a ruined orgasm or her not enjoying one. For the reason that I come pretty fast. However my wife managed and left me rock hard and shaking with joy.

A few nights ago she was tired but horny and wanted to please me so she asked me to choose what I wanted. I smiled like a small boy at Christmas and told her I want her to edge me with her hand, had to explain edging to her but she did an amazing job. She did not bring me all the way to the edge but very close. When I thought it was over she sat on her property and rid herself to an amazing Orgasm. When she was done she got off and kissed me. I was in trance as I was so happy that we could do that without me coming. We did it again a few days ago. Just for fun and to see how she would react I begged her for an orgasm but she denied me :D I would have not wanted it but am very happy that she staid strong.

I feel so much better and my wife also. It is really love again AND desire on both our parts. It is incredible how fast a change like that can ocurre. She told me that before we made this change she had given up hope and was pretty sure that our marriage will go the way of divorce :( and when we first started the “no wanking” play she thought that is very short term. So now she is excited that I am already at 47 days without full masturbation and loves the new us. This morning I asked her when I will be allowed to come and she told me. I don’t know, perhaps in 2 weeks, a month or tomorrow. That is my decision and I have not made it yet. WOW!!

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7 days without O
10 days without PoM
47 days since Masturbation incl. O. (not getting rid of it after all - that is when this amazing journey began)
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Re: [cycling2work] and the fun goes on :)

Postby cycling2work » Fri Dec 18, 2015 1:33 pm

We had a big scare this week as my wife's period did not come and she had morning sickness. Due to Medical reasons it would be risky to have a third kid and also VERY expensive since public education in Chile is not what you want for your kids. We do use Contraception but had some issue in the past month.

My wife played the game and she played it very well. I asked her several times if I could orgasm, even when we had PIV and once just to play I even begged her but she stayed strong. I actually did not want to come because I felt so much better with the elevated hormon levels.

On day 9 though we found out that "we" were not pregnant and so she allowed me a orgasm for celebration. I was excited to be able to do it but at the same time I knew my high was going to end. As you can imagine it was a huge load and a great experience. The emotional down was not huge although we did have 2 fights in the 36 hours post orgasm. I told her afterwards that I want to wait minimum 9 days till my next O because I enjoy the high. She accepted and is happy.

We constantly send each other love notes and are generally happy and in Love. My wife prefers me to remove the HT at night. She gives me the key and I unlock so she can feel my organ when we cuddle and she can play with it. In the morning without asking I put it back and leave her the key. I am never without the device on unless she requests access. One night she came home late and did not mention it so I thought she wants me locked up as she was extremely tired. The night was VERY painful and I could no longer sleep from 4am onwards. I spent 10 minutes showering the organ with cold water but it did not help much. In the morning she saw me with the device and asked me why I was wearing it. I told her it was impossible to remove without the key and she had both of them. I told her I thought she wanted me that way. She just said - oh, I forgot.

That morning she allowed me the O. and the next night we had a fight, she kept me locked up. I woke up at 2am with pain, put lube on and woke up every hour after that but lubed the member and went to the toilet every time I woke up. Was a lot more bearable then the previous night but still quite painful.

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1.5 days without O
13 days without PoM
50 days since Masturbation incl. O.
Longest run - 9 days
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Tue Dec 29, 2015 12:27 pm

It is a Roller Coaster Ride of emotions. Not like in my previous denial run (9 days) where I just felt love. I am now on day 12 without an O and I have been grumpy a few times. Once my wife even said. I don't understand you. Once you love me unconditionally and the next day it seems you hate me. Don't know what it is but it is A LOT better then when I still masturbated multiple times a day. I don't know where these emotions come from and I would prefer them not to be there but all I can say I am happy that I am a lot better than 61 days ago.

Now on day 12 the real horniness seems to have come and I love it. I don't want to orgasm and I told my wife. About a week ago I asked her to wait at least until 2016.

She likes me unlocked at night but 2 nights because of fights she had me locked. I told her if she doesn't want to tease me I prefer locked as it is safer to stay good. The nights which were terrible at first (extreme ball burn) are now cool due to me being used to the device and because I now got my hands on some silicone lube. I am back on the 45mm ring.

I love my wife and she usually teases me before we go to sleep and just when we wake up. I do top from the bottom a little and from time to time I ask her for 20 more strokes which will never get me to orgasm but feels amazing.

Lets see when I am allowed to come. For now it is not really a denial game since I tell her I don't want to come. However now thinking about it I think it would be cool if it happened this weekend :)

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12 days without O
24 days without PoM
61 days since Masturbation incl. O. (When this amazing Journey began)
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Re: [cycling2work] best sex is with wife

Postby cycling2work » Wed Dec 30, 2015 9:06 am

WoW, it was not planned to write again within 24 hours. But I wanted to share what happened last night ;)
I took the kids to the airport to wave goodbye to my parents who were visiting us, my wife stayed at home organising some papers.

I came home around 10 exhausted, slept one of the kids, my wife the other. Afterwards she went back to the living room watching a series and sorting papers. I told her I was very tired but if she was interested in playing to which she said later. I told her, o.k. I will get the key then, wash your toy and might go to sleep. Feel free to wake me when you come to bed.

Women and men are SO different. Incredible. She has me there waiting for playtime but enjoys watching a series???? Anyway... I go to bed but don't dare to sleep in case she would not want to play. So I wait and wait and wait...... hoping it will be worth it.

When she finally comes she takes my cock and strokes it, strokes my balls as she always does, soft to hard with pain of the level 1 out of 10 - so just really amazingly enjoyable. She brings me just to the edge a couple of times and turns round. I tell her I feel guilty as it should be about her pleasure not mine. I spoon her and rub her pussy. Then she tells me - rub my asshole with your dick but don't enter. I do as she asks, rub her pussy with the right hand and then she takes my left hand and puts it on her tit. I can feel that she is thoroughly enjoying herself.- We played like that for many minutes, me not coming close to the edge but really enjoying it and also enjoying her reaction. Once we are finished she is in a different world, first time I have seen her like that. She thanked me for a firework of orgasmS. I counted 3 but she said she did not count them :o

This is the very first time that she enjoyed herself so much without penetration an the very first time I can recount that she has more than two orgasms. I know for the women most of the sex happens in the head but I can say where this journey is taking us is amazing. She is at the hairdresser right now and started to read Mistress Iveys book The Ultimate Guide To Tease & Denial

This is the WhatsAPP conversation we just had:

Her: Doing my homework :D :D :D
Me: You like it? :) :) :)
 "be careful what you wish for" you could say haha
Her: hahaha :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:   :lol: :lol: :lol:


We are in an amazing place and I could not be happier. I also gave her my personal denial limits or requests which is minimum 14 days without O and maximum 45 days. She accepted it.

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13 days without O
25 days without PoM
62 days since Masturbation incl. O. (When this amazing Journey began)
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Wed Jan 13, 2016 2:25 pm

My Journey is going great. A little different then most journeys I read on here but are we not all different? For example with Interest I read that a lot of you guys are hardly let out and your SO prefers your cock locked away unless you are allowed to come. My wife prefers to feel my dick and have access to it. Each night before we go to bed I ask her if I should unlock and she usually says yes. I get her keyring from downstairs, have a little wash and go to bed in an aroused state.

The thing that worried me before starting if I would be able to keep true to myself and not wank all the time. I read stories about hands having to be tied whenever unlocked but thankfully I am able to stay good. The key is on my wife's keyring so the most dangerous time when she is out I have no access.

Also many of the stories I read here you are allowed almost unlimited time at giving oral pleasure, my wife prefers the PIV and comes easier from that then from oral. However I AM making progress and she seems to start enjoying oral more.

What I love about our new love life is that we do something sexual at least once per day either in the evening when the kids are asleep or in the morning before they wake up. I don’t crave the orgasms – and don’t really want to come before I hit the 2 weeks mark. Yes I am horny, very horny but always scared of the down - I believe the longer I wait the more insignificant "the down" will be. My wife yesterday asked me after I was allowed to please her orally (oh I love when that happens) if I wanted to come. I said yes at first but very hesitant. She asked again and I told her I prefer to wait. We are now at 12 days since my last Orgasm. We agree that I we will probably celebrate tomorrow (that would be the 13 day mark) and I am happy and excited. Last time I had the O. I had no post orgasm blues. I would be curious if you feel it and how long you are usually between Orgasms. If you feel a big down do you have multiple orgasms before the next lockup? I opened a thread here for that discussion here.

Oh and riding the bike with the device works well - i don't have a street bike though. Ordered a new bike which I should hopefully be getting soon - Specialized Sirrus Carbon Elite :):) Will make my commute even faster and more fun. Also I want to get myself a contender soon. Will report back if that is all compatible ;)

Stats:
Last Porn - 4 days ago (I lapsed)
Last Orgasm - 12 days ago
76 days since Masturbation incl. O. (When this amazing Journey began)
PS: No, she has still not read the book - but seems to be a natural and a good teaser......
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Mon Jan 25, 2016 1:40 pm

88 days ago I started the "No more Masturbation Journey" and i am very very happy i did. There are however some changes that make me a tad scared.

1) I usually only wear the device during the day, when starting out I used to get erections with basically the Holytrainer trying to rip of my balls..... - Now I no longer get erections or attempted erections during the day.

2) Goes with 1) really - When let out and my wife touches my penis I don't get hard. So if she does not do it with undivided attention (like watching TV) he will stay soft and she will eventually stop touching. Once I lick her or I feel she is getting serious he will stand up to show some respect. Same thing when I spooned her in the past without the device I was hard immediately. Now it takes a HUGE amount of effort in my head to try to get an erection which she will be able to feel when spooning.

I replied to a thread about the erectional changes and it seems normal so I don't have sleepless nights over it however my wish is it where different.

I love my KH and she embraces the no orgasm - but she doesn't care too much if I wear the cage or not - so I stopped wearing it since Friday night as my skin of my penis is coming off (result of the HT I guess) - I hope it is the skin renewing and nothing too serious. Never happened before putting a piece of plastic on my dick and sweating 14 hours a day in it.

What I find really interesting is that I no longer have any urge to do it myself, so on one side I really want to continue chastity with a device - having an eye on the contender on the other hand I don't know if I need it.

So - seems all negative? Absolutely not. Thanks to Chastity our marriage is still amazing, loving every day of it. Today I went the extra mile by bike just so I can surprise my wife when she leaves the Kindergarten when she brought my son there just so I could kiss her. A few hours later, at lunch she called me so we could have lunch together. We went to a restaurant, all the other guests there must have thought we are lovers and cheating on our partners as we were constantly touching hands and kissing. I am just a little lost as to how to continue with the devices.....

Tomorrow is my birthday but guess my real sexual present will be delivered to me when back from a business trip. I probably will get an O. :D :D but asked for a special looooong session for my birthday. My wife is leaving on Wednesday night and me on Saturday early morning. My plan was she locks me and leaves me with a sealed emergency key. I take my plane on Saturday early Morning and come back 6 days later. So all in all 9 days complete lockdown - including going through customs and all...... Even though now I have no desire to masturbate I don't know how I feel when left alone and with no attention so I think it is the best choice.....

Also planning a vasectomy
blablablabla

Stats:
Last Porn - my stat counter on my phone says 16 days - but i think i tried porn after that because of the concern for erectile problems - did not do much for me though.... so I didn't even bother resetting the counter.
Last Orgasm 8 days
Last ejaculation from Masturbation 88 days (when this journey started)
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[CYCLING2WORK] Emotions

Postby cycling2work » Wed Jan 27, 2016 8:23 am

90 days

You probably read some indifference, doubt and weird emotions in my last post.
I have so far travelled 90 days without completed Masturbation and have really only had about 3 "real Masturbation sessions" without ejaculation.

However I was starting to get so unsure due to the erectional changes, the skin that is coming off my penis, the control that is not taken by my KH. I even thought I might no longer need a device.

Woke up yesterday on my birthday. My wife was tired. So I decided to take a shower (a tad grumpy) and edge myself in the shower. I think I did it about 5 or six times. I was so much in doubt regarding the erectional changes that that the edging was the way to justify it to myself. First I just wanted to try how long it will take to get an erection and then... well...

Postby cycling2work » Mon Jan 25, 2016 1:40 pm

What I find really interesting is that I no longer have any urge to do it myself, so on one side I really want to continue chastity with a device - having an eye on the contender on the other hand I don't know if I need it.
Myth busted - I would say


When I came out of the shower my wife asked me if I am upset with her. I told her no - just sad but it is not your fault.. She asked me to bed and gave me a very nice teasing session which lifted my mood.

At lunch my wife took me out to a very nice and fancy place which was amazing. Had some alcohol but went back to the office. At night then I started watching porn and edging myself again. So there is ABSOLUTELY NO DOUBT that I need a device.

Then at night we had a stupid and avoidable fight - but surprisingly we made up and she gave me a nice orgasm. The big session that I am excited about will be after our business trips.

I am in the process of ordering a Contender and Mark is very helpful but I am not really able to do my homework very well with measurements. I know it is really important but I don't seem to find any penis rings here as I also don't have much time. Would want him to ship it to me while in the States. Mark seems hesitant because obviously he wants it to be right on first shipment. But we are playing against time. Let's see if I get the chance to find some rings in a hardware store.....

Stats:
90 days since last full Masturbation
1 day since last O (PIV)
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby Jasmic68 » Wed Jan 27, 2016 10:38 am

I am finding it fascinating reading your account of how you have cured yourself of a porn and masturbation addiction and in the process become much closer to your Wife. In some ways we are similar, I didn't start for a porn addiction but like you I have not masturbated for three months and it has totally had an impact on our marriage.

When it came to me explaining to my Wife why I didn't want to orgasm I explained how a few weeks after my last one if I brought her to an orgasm I experienced something quite incredible at the same time. My entire body became sensitive and I floated away into some strange sense of bliss. It was way more powerful and lasted longer than my own orgasms. When my Wife understood that She no longer felt bad for denying me.

I also wear a Holy Trainer and I just wanted to tell you not to worry about the ring being too small. After two months my testicles are much more stretched than when I started and my ring fits so much better as a result.
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Wed Jan 27, 2016 1:59 pm

Hey jasmic, have followed your journey with interest too, yes it is really cool. Thanks for your tips... I am going to get myself a contender now as i think the open design suits me better and think the sizing of the ht is a tad off for me. I got to two weeks but at that point it seemed to get hard for me (having the urge to pee every half hour). Read you went 6 weeks - wow.
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Thu Jan 28, 2016 3:17 pm

resetting counters after 91 days

being alone and uncaged was not a good combination :cry:
Trying to stay strong for the remainder of the separation week.

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