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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Thu May 05, 2016 8:13 am

Yesterday we both knew there would be action. We set aside our differences but I felt like I was wrong and felt I deserved severe punishment.
Punishment should be something you do not look forward too but it made me extra horny to feel we are going in to this direction. Ever since I came along the site Better Spouse punishment I thought this might be good for our marriage.

Understanding that it won't be fun and still looking forward to it must be the stupidest thing to do but hey. I got home, we slept the kids, I prepared a chair and two wooden spoons with which she can carry out the punishment. I told her before sleeping the kids that I feel really bad for my behaviour and want her to punish me. I had mentioned punishment a few times before.

She came out of the kids room and I showed her I prepared the stuff. I explained to her that I had an errection and if I still had an errection when she finished that it wasn't a severe enough punishment. She started and I told her to hit harder every time she must of hit me about 20 times, one of the spoons broke. My errection never went away and even though I felt pain it wasn't enough to be a real lesson for me. We used the wrong "toys" and I will have to invest in some proper padels if we want to go down that road. After the punishment I gave her a massage and a foot massage and then we had amazing PIV. She came twice and I also had an orgasm although it wasn't as intense as I had hoped. Not sure why. All in all I feel very close to my wife now. She is leaving for a business trip and I will be locked during that time. One key is in a sealed box which cannot be opened without breaking it and the other key is in a safe box to which I don't know the combination. I will follow my wife with my kids to do a week of vacation so she will send me the combination so I can properly shower and get on the plane. Will be an interesting week. Even though I have been permanent chaste she usually took of the device minimum three times a week since she likes access to my penis. Now I am fully locked for 8 days. Lets see how that goes.
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Mon May 09, 2016 9:19 am

Oh a Journey it is. A Mind Journey.

Something weird is going on with me and it is not the chastity that is transforming me but I guess deep down I always was a submissive. My first sexual thoughts I remember as a kid were being crushed by a woman or even a heavy animal. After that every sexual fantasy, I am talking about when I was 11 or 12 included a facesitting in which I was dominated.

I am reading up on it and from what I am discovering it makes sense.

I am currently consuming a lot of content of Elise Sutton and before that discipline action. My mind spinns super fast but about half a year I was 100% sure there is no way I was the least bit interested in a FLR I am now craving to be disciplined and want to serve my wife. I am definitely confused but am looking for a way to play this on a trial basis with my wife. I also have an idea on how I will introduce it. With pleasure I saw that she was not opposed to hitting me hard enough that the spoon broke :shock: - Now I ordered a paddle and found a wooden hairbrush. The only thing that will be tricky is having other people in the house (kids and the mom en law).

I am locked since Thursday- with no access to any key, feel very horny and extremely submissive.
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Thu May 26, 2016 10:40 am

On May 4th was my last complete PIV with Orgasm. the morning after, knowing i wouldn't see my wife for a long time I got weak and helped myself. Didn't feel great and was a lapse.

After that shower I put the cage on and locked one key in a emergency device that can only be broken to get the key out and the other key in a combination saefty key place to wich I didn't have the combination.

My wife left me for 8 days. In this time I was completely locked. I was very horny but felt very connected to my wife and also very happy. Prior to chastity I would have watched at tons of porn and would have been touching myself all the time I was by myself. Not so this time. I was no angel though as I used my KH's wand on my cage everday. I stopped before a full ejaculation and deep down I think it made me more horny.

I had asked my wife if i should leave the cage at home and she mentioned i could if i wanted but i thought it would be better to stick with routine so before my flight i asked her for the combination to which i got no answer so I started to fantasize of wearing it through customs. Not ideal when travelling with 2 kids. Thankfully I then told her very clearly what I am talking about, she had forgotten all about it and gave me the combination. So the device went in to normal luggage and I flew to see my wife. 2 flights with 2 small kids - total travel time 11 hours. but it went really really well.

Holiday was AMAZING but we shared a suite with the kids and once they were asleep my wife was usually exhausted so our score for the entire week was one shared orgasm (hers) and a bit of teasing for me. Before chastity that might have drove me against the wall but this time I enjoyed it. I gave her massages and she relaxed herself to sleep and we were very close to each other.

Even though we were at the beach and at pools all the time I always locked up to my wifes liking.

So no bombastic orgasms ;) but a lot of closeness and the one orgasm she had was as important for me as it was for her. First night back home we had an amazing PIV session with "some kind of orgasm"(*) for me and three for her and 1 1/2 days later she allowed me to go down on her while in the cage. That has to be one of the best things for me. I almost explode inside the cage while I get to work her beautiful organ and amazing taste.

(*) I don't know what it was. It was not full but it was more then an ideally ruined one as I didn't get hard anymore after. But three orgasms in a row for my wife is record so she would not have wanted more. anyway...
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Re: [cycling2work] addicted 2 porn - trying to get free

Postby cycling2work » Thu May 26, 2016 3:53 pm

PS: There is a new post above this one - wanted to keep chronological order so i went and changed the order.

Be careful what you wish for?.

My wife is a natural dominant person and in the past and still sometimes in the present that pisses me off. So it would sound weird that I want to enter in to a FLR including domestic discipline, right?

When I started chastity I didn't want anything to do with FLR but that is only 6 months ago. I then accidentally downloaded the wrong book from Amazon "how to set up an FLR" but wasn't interested in it. Read a few things then but it didn't really rock my boat then.

Fast forward to today and I believe this could be good for me for her and for our family. I might be wrong... hence the BCWYWF. I will describe a situation we had a while back. Our routine was that once the kids sleep we watch sometihing on Netflix we both enjoy but my wife was watching her series I don't like on Netflix, At first I didn't care and told her i will make you tea and something to eat but when i came back she made no signs of being willing to switch Channels. I got sad that she ignored me like that and then I got mad and we had a fight over something stupid like that.

Another time - she watched her series and Netflix and i decided to ignore everything and massage and kiss and worship her feet. I was in a incredible place and really happy and content. Didn't care what she was watching - all I wanted to do was make her happy. I want to experience that more often and push back my alpha behavior so we crash less.

My goal is to be in this space as much as possible and to give her the power to punish me when I get angry. I told her that for punishment to work it shouldn't be fun for me so she knows that if I have an errection punishment is not yet hard enough.

The crazy thing is we had a fight Monday and Tuesday and after resolving it I opened up to her and told her that there might be a way that might work she was totally open to it. I was like so you have no problem hurting the person you really love and she was like no. I offered her quite a few things that I am willing to change and she wants to discuss details over a romantic dinner. I believe it is the best way forward for us as a couple and as a family but I am a bit nervous also.

Planning to write some things about our family vacation which went great but thought that this was more important. Excited and scared.
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Re: [cycling2work]From Porn addict 2 better husband. This wo

Postby cycling2work » Wed Jul 27, 2016 4:26 pm

i have not been spanked since my last update.

I purchased a spreader bar on aliexpress which i asked my wife to try on me. but that was all. She is very busy and stressed at work so there isn't much happening although credit to her she tries to please me by playing with my cock and balls 2 - 3 x per week.

Her need for sex or orgasms or massages is very low unfortunately but if she gets horny it is amazing. she usually rides me and i have difficulty holding back. all good, locked 24/7 not looking at porn since a long time and not pleasing myself. If she unlocks me to play i usually lock up in the morning.
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Postby cycling2work » Mon Aug 29, 2016 2:01 pm

The new and exciting is the new norm. I love my cage and am happy to wear it. I am now permanent chaste and watch very little porn.

In one of my last posts i talked about wanting punishment. I offered many times to my wife she could do it and wished she would one day lock me in that spreader bar that i purchased...... BUT she never did.

So on Friday we were very good with each other after some ups and downs in the week. I asked her before she slept the kids if she is willing to do me a favour and she asked me what it was?

I told her I beg you to lock me in that spreader bar and hit me really hard. I know it sounds crazy but I want that. She laughed but agreed. I was so excited. My penis heavilly pressed against the cage and when she came out of the kids room she looked at me ans said, o.k., lets do it.

I had a raging errection. When locked in that spreader bar, kneeling on the bed. legs out, hands between my feet at the back of my body my ass was up in the air, my face down on the bed. I felt helpless and my ass streched and exposed.

She took the hair brush and started to hit. I asked her to tell me after each hit for what I deserve it and it got her going. My errection went away, I was scared. Though we had a safe word I didn't want to use it.

When she was finished I was glad she was finish. It hurt like hell. I had left her wand (which she never uses without me and hardly uses with me) out on the bedside table too and was so excited that she used it on herself. I offered a massage but she told me she wanted a good fuck.

She rid my dick cowboy style using the wand on herself at the same time. Her Orgams were so amazing for me, I asked if I could cum and she allowed me to. I was soooo happy.

I want to be hit again very soon. I was like a puppy all weekend with her. Full of energy and really happy and helpful. I love my wife and even though in the moment I thought I don't like it I can't wait to be locked in that spreader bar and hit very hard by my wife with the hairbrush. Punishment or not - I am not sure. Probably not if I want it to happen again soon.
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Re: [cycling2work]From Porn addict 2 better husband. This wo

Postby cycling2work » Tue Oct 11, 2016 12:53 pm

We contintued with punishment although not as much as I would like. I believe I was punished a total of 4 times.

But some other things happened.
This whole tme in chastity I have either watched some porn or tried to please myself, either in unlocked moments (trying to avoid to come) or using the wand on my Contender. I didn't do that since September 16th almost a month and I am so happy. It even included me being away for 8 days. In these 8 days I was locked once I arrived at the hotel. I kept the keys in a safe box to which I didn't have the combination and just before going through security I asked my wife for the combination.

I was really good with my wife however and I don't know what happened. I got really irritated this past weekend. :( When we finally made peace she told me that this will cost me.

I got some preview of this yesterday night where she went off on my balls, hitting and squeezing them telling me when she is finished I will no longer need a vasectomy. It was hot. She told me real punishment will be later and that she will spank me so hard there will be blood. I trust my wife and know that won't happen although whilst typing this I have an attempted erection in my contender and am certain there will be moments of regret.

All in all I am loving this chastity lifestyle and I am glad that for now I am able to stay completely away from Porn. I don't count days but mostly do orgasm when she wants PIV and that is good with me. She comes first though.

One funny story. She still ows me the "force me to clean you after I came inside you". Which I know is quite weird. Me begging her to "force me" to do something. Anyway once I finished inside her and she asked: "So you want to clean me now?" I said no thank you and that was it. She laughed about me a few times and copied the face I apparently made that time and I told her it doesn't work like that. She needs to force me to do it. :roll:

Nex time she asked me: "Are you ready" and I said yes, but she couldn't do it, not sure she will ever "force me" but that is o.k. with me.

Now looking (or not) forward to my spanking I will probably be receiving this evening.
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Postby cycling2work » Wed Oct 12, 2016 1:57 pm

The punishment is behind me... There was NO blood phew :D

However this is an amazing journey. My wife locked me in my spreader bar. I put on the gag ball and she started lecturing me with a very firm voice. She seemed to still be very mad at me.

I had the wooden hair brush ready for her and her wand as I was hoping she might use it on her later. I mumbled to her, begged her to start slow, mumbled through the gag that I would understand if she feels the need to go hard but begged her to start slow. She said with a very firm voice NO!

Locked in the spreader bar, legs spread, hands between my feet I was very vunearable. She started hitting me with each leacture. It stang, it hurt, I quickly fell over and was scared. I could not lift myself up again so she turned me back on my knees.

This was a roller coaster of emotions. There was certainly no attempted erection and even though I tried to be silent I at least once screamed through my ball gag. When she was finished I was part releived but had the feeling it could have gone a bit longer. I begged her to hug me and to be nice to me and felt very close to her.

She asked me to take off the Contender. I was horny as hell when all was over. I wanted to lick her, she wouldn't let me near her private parts. She said, well you are horny now. I am not. Do something about it. So I got some lotion and started massaging her feet and her legs for a very long time.

At one point she turned me over, took off her pants, took her wand and rid my penis. She loved it and praised the wand. She came to a powerful orgasm and then allowed me to have one. We came together. But before I did she asked me if I wanted to clean her after, I said yes. When we both came I didn't want to clean her anymore. Just like always.

Today we felt very connected, I thanked her on WhatsAPP for helping to make me a better husband and she worte back.
Thank you my sweety, you showed me this path and the most important is you know to discover new things in me that I didn't know I would be capable of doing. I love you infinitely, my lover and sould mate.


Am so happy now. My warm butt is a reminder of a wild night but is nothing compared to bruised butts of slaves I have seen when I was still looking at porn. I doubt it is even still red.

IN LOVE and pleased.
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Re: [cycling2work]From Porn addict 2 better husband. This wo

Postby cycling2work » Thu Nov 10, 2016 1:01 pm

It's been more than a year that I am locked up. At the beginning permanently during the day and free at night but now it is a 7/24 situation.

Permanent is different to different folks, for me it means I get out when my KH wants me to get out to play with me. Currently for her play always involves me out. Thre is no playing with me locked. But I am sure that will change. The Contender can be easily washed when locked up so I don't need to be free for hygine.

Life is good and I have got used to not playing with myself. Gotten used to no porn and I love it that way. I still get irritated sometimes and we did have an argument that put some chill on our relationship for the last few days. A stupid argument over not much. I found it weird because I think it was my fault and it happened even though she had plaid lots with me, we had amazing sex and I hadn't come in a while.

The other day she was really horny because she was so happy with my attitude, me helping out a lot in the house. She knew I didn't want to come so I offered to get the wand for her. She uses it very seldomly but loves it. We kissed while she used the Wand on herself. Afterwards for the first time in a very long time she ordered me to lick her. Licking is what I love most so I happily went down. It was so hot for me. She then used me to ride my dick and didn't take long for her to come. I loved it. Rigth away I put my cage back on and we cuddled and watched Tele. Live is good.

BTW, ordered a Looker 2 with a plug. Should arrive in 2017. Am pretty excited about it :)

Last O: no idea, but it has been a while.
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Postby cycling2work » Tue Jan 03, 2017 1:55 pm

Just a quick hi from Cycling2work.

Since I chose a stupid user Name - here a quick number. I cycled about 5.500 km in 2016. All with the exception of 200 caged. In the MCN Contender no issue what soever. Curious how things will be in the Steelworxx Looker 2. Finally and because of the cycling I decided to have the plug removable in the Looker2. It shoudl arrive end Jan, latest end Feb.

I started Chastity to curb Masturbation as Porn as mentioned many times through out this journal but it turned in to an excellent way of making our relationship and sex better. As you can read a few entries above I got curious about punishment and asked my wife. It took her a while to pick it up.

There was one thing she hated about me and that was that I had my phone with me at most times and I was always watching it according to her. I believe it was only 5% but 5% is a lot too, especially if you have a loving wife and Children. So I asked her for a dinner date in which to discuss our sexual relation and relation in general. I asked her to discuss several points, contract style.

This made her extremely happy. A few points.

No more talking about Chastity or Sex unless we are on a specific dinner date.
Minimum 2 punishments per month
No mobile phone use during weekends or evenings.
Some Cleaning up duties after my O.
The use of some new toys.
Her doing her own research on Chastity

So far it went well. I get punished regularly and I like it. Not really during punishment but before and after. and I use my phone a lot less. She hasn't done any research or used new toys but this is not a sprint but a Marathon and I am extremely happy with my KH, wife and love of my life.
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