[ribertgropius] next step in my journey
Posted: Mon Jul 06, 2015 12:21 am
A month ago I finally took that first step in truly exploring being caged by my partner, and asked my partner if she would hold the key as we prepared to go to a birthday party with a kink-related theme. We had talked about my interest, and even that I had ordered a chastity device, but still had not found a way for me to truly experience what I longed for: to have her hold the key. It's not that she wasn't supportive, but as much as I wished otherwise, she was not going to take the initiative to lead me forward without me giving, at least initially, a nudge.
I spent a few weeks prior purchasing first a metal device, then getting a different size ring, then deciding to try a Holy Trainer to see if it would be more comfortable to wear for more than a day. The metal ones are intriguing, and long -term I would like to find one that works well for me, but the Holy Trainer is fascinating in that there is no visible lock; the entire package, once in place, is smooth with the locking mechanism concealed within, and even rubbing against my partner, or the sheets, there is no movement, no pinching, just....containment. So once convinced that I could wear it, I have been dreaming of the next step, and the party seemed to be the right opportunity to give her control.
To give some background, we are a switch couple, still relatively new to each other in staking out our individual roles as our relationship continues to evolve, with my role being primarily a dominant one enjoying her response to submitting to me. We have been active in the local kink community in terms of friendships, support, and attending play parties, and she is aware of my submissive desires as well as my enjoyment of dominating her. I think as in the case of many switch couples, there is that fear that my partner won't enjoy that "other side", and for me in particular, I was more than a little concerned about bringing this topic up and having her embrace leading me along this path.
But....she smiled when I suggested she carry the key, and in fact, enjoyed knowing that for the duration of the party, witnessing some pretty erotic displays by other couples, that I was "contained" inside my cage. She wore the key on a necklace throughout the party, and even shared with some female friends my predicament. And when we got home, she enjoyed releasing me to satisfy her, only to have me lock myself back up for the following day to enjoy her "Selfish Sunday," as we call it.
A couple of weekends have passed since, and I didn't want to press the topic, hoping that she would bring it up herself, but then decided I needed to once again suggest an opportunity to explore my surrender of control over my cock. This holiday weekend commitments entailed us being apart for four days, and so I asked her if she would be willing to hold my key if I locked myself in my Holy Trainer. And this time.....I gave her both keys, now confident that I could wear it for an extended period of time.
This is the first time I have not kept the second key on me "just in case" I needed to remove the cage for discomfort. And this will make four days that I have been wearing the cage 24/7, but this time, it is not my choice once I agreed to have her lock it on me.
I know for some this is just a baby step, but for me...OMG....what a mind-fuck! She has already informed me when I see her tomorrow night she WILL unlock me so I can satisfy her, but that does NOT mean I can orgasm, and once she is satisfied with my bringing her to climax as many times as she wishes, per my request to have her enforce orgasm denial for a week, the cage will be locked back in place.
It is such a different feeling to truly have it locked on me, and not be able to remove it. And to not be able to masturbate, to not be able to even touch my penis with the design of the Holy Trainer is...well...affecting me in ways I can't explain yet. I don't know where this journey is going, but I am both anxious and excited to be on it. We shall see what the future brings for both of us....
R.
I spent a few weeks prior purchasing first a metal device, then getting a different size ring, then deciding to try a Holy Trainer to see if it would be more comfortable to wear for more than a day. The metal ones are intriguing, and long -term I would like to find one that works well for me, but the Holy Trainer is fascinating in that there is no visible lock; the entire package, once in place, is smooth with the locking mechanism concealed within, and even rubbing against my partner, or the sheets, there is no movement, no pinching, just....containment. So once convinced that I could wear it, I have been dreaming of the next step, and the party seemed to be the right opportunity to give her control.
To give some background, we are a switch couple, still relatively new to each other in staking out our individual roles as our relationship continues to evolve, with my role being primarily a dominant one enjoying her response to submitting to me. We have been active in the local kink community in terms of friendships, support, and attending play parties, and she is aware of my submissive desires as well as my enjoyment of dominating her. I think as in the case of many switch couples, there is that fear that my partner won't enjoy that "other side", and for me in particular, I was more than a little concerned about bringing this topic up and having her embrace leading me along this path.
But....she smiled when I suggested she carry the key, and in fact, enjoyed knowing that for the duration of the party, witnessing some pretty erotic displays by other couples, that I was "contained" inside my cage. She wore the key on a necklace throughout the party, and even shared with some female friends my predicament. And when we got home, she enjoyed releasing me to satisfy her, only to have me lock myself back up for the following day to enjoy her "Selfish Sunday," as we call it.
A couple of weekends have passed since, and I didn't want to press the topic, hoping that she would bring it up herself, but then decided I needed to once again suggest an opportunity to explore my surrender of control over my cock. This holiday weekend commitments entailed us being apart for four days, and so I asked her if she would be willing to hold my key if I locked myself in my Holy Trainer. And this time.....I gave her both keys, now confident that I could wear it for an extended period of time.
This is the first time I have not kept the second key on me "just in case" I needed to remove the cage for discomfort. And this will make four days that I have been wearing the cage 24/7, but this time, it is not my choice once I agreed to have her lock it on me.
I know for some this is just a baby step, but for me...OMG....what a mind-fuck! She has already informed me when I see her tomorrow night she WILL unlock me so I can satisfy her, but that does NOT mean I can orgasm, and once she is satisfied with my bringing her to climax as many times as she wishes, per my request to have her enforce orgasm denial for a week, the cage will be locked back in place.
It is such a different feeling to truly have it locked on me, and not be able to remove it. And to not be able to masturbate, to not be able to even touch my penis with the design of the Holy Trainer is...well...affecting me in ways I can't explain yet. I don't know where this journey is going, but I am both anxious and excited to be on it. We shall see what the future brings for both of us....
R.