[Smiff] His Knees, Her Needs

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I’m not entirely sure when my interest in chastity began. It was probably late 2008 that I stumbled upon it, but the foundation for it to be such an intense desire had been laid long before then.

College is where I really started looking at porn – because that was the first time I had such easy access to it. I watched and browsed a lot of “regular” porn, but as I discovered the different variances and fringes I became extremely interested in sexual power and submission. That submission was exciting on both sides, male or female. As I explored my own desires I found that female power and male submission was much more intoxicating.
One college experience that stands out was trying to hook up with a girl who lived in my dorm. She guided me to go down on her and after she came she was done. No reciprocation for me – just an aching erection and an addictive need for more. That was a one-night deal that I wish I had pursued. She pushed buttons that I didn’t know I had.

After my first year of college I met my wife. We, like most new couples, had an amazing sex life the first few years. Ours is still better than most (if my buddies are being truthful about theirs). Sometime during all of this I found Literotica’s Loving Wives section. My fantasy world was- and still is- filled with my wife as the star of the countless stories I read there. While my wife had long known that I harbored a desire to see her with other men, we’ve only recently begun to share that fantasy during sex. The lust and passion during those sessions is unbelievable.

Like I said, somewhere along the line I learned about male chastity. I ordered a CB-2000 and, after many months of angst, introduced her to the concept with shaking knees. The CB-2000 was horrible (compared to the market now). I couldn’t wear it for extended periods of time, and she had no clear idea of what I wanted from wearing it. Completely my fault for not preparing her (and myself) more thoroughly.
Then came the CB-6000, which split after not much wear. I also turned her off to the idea because multiple times when trying to get started I would “turn into an ass” when real life wasn’t in line with my fantasy. Again, completely my fault.
Never one to give up, I’ve added a Mature Metal Jailbird, a Holy Trainer, and most recently a Birdlocked Mini to the box of toys over the past few years. There have been several false starts in the last 2 years – some me, some my work, one her.

I knew it was time to do this once and for all. So with that in mind I started wearing my MM JB on my own for about a week to get the initial discomfort over with, wore my HT to work to get through security, and ordered the BLM because well, I just had to! On Friday I proposed a deal to buy something she wanted badly in exchange for making a commitment to be my keyholder. She agreed and took the keys! That night we had amazing sex (and she let me orgasm – begin counter now ☺ ). The next morning I was locked in the BLM because of a stint of work that requires getting through security.
To help make sure that we both have a solid foundation on the basics of male chastity and that she is informed enough to ask the questions she needs to ask, I’ve given her a copy of Sarah Jameson’s book. Not that she doesn't have a pretty good idea from trying over the years, but it’s a level-headed introduction to vanilla male chastity and I think it will serve us well.
We agreed to try full-time male chastity until mid-November and then discuss whether we want to continue from there. I sincerely hope she decides that she could never go back to the way it was before she locked me up for good! No rules, no contract, no topping from the bottom – just “she decides.” Nothing else has changed. Although I did offer to take one of the chores as a thank you – she chose the laundry. I’ve always pulled my weight around the house, and certainly don’t mind (maybe some of that extra time will benefit our chastity lifestyle!). The other women I’ve seen on this forum could be good mentors for her, so I hope she joins the forum to interact with you.

Feel free to comment. I plan to use this as a journal to help deal with the changes that are coming and to give Nicole a coherent look into what's going on in my hormonally charged mind.

Looking forward to the journey!
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Your story is not unusual. I think many of us struggled at the beginning. I know that we did. We had several starts and stops and conversations and adjustments. We finally found a middle ground that worked for the both of us and it has been about a year now. However, as with all other fetishes we try, it is not as exciting as it used to be. We are planning on taking a break from it after October and see what happens. Good luck.
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Thanks maxANDsue - good luck to you as you move to a different phase this fall.

So my wife is not quite the fan of my cuckold/hotwife fantasy that I thought she was based on the intensity of the sex the last few times. She asked to not visit that topic again during sex because it leaves her feeling gross, and thinking that I look at her as a sex object to share instead of a wife that I love. Now that isn't the case - I adore her. But it would be selfish of me to try and explain that when she just needed me to listen and understand. (Wait, did I just listen instead of trying to solve the problem? Yes, yes I did. Congratulations, self!) At any rate, should she choose to use that fantasy for teasing later she knows exactly what buttons to push.

On the keyholder front she's more into this than any attempt in the past - which is amazing - and scary. I had to go to a medical appointment today so I was without cage. When I got home I put on the Holy Trainer (what a stupid name) and waited for her to close the lock. Now she doesn't quite understand just how much of an effect her looking me in the eyes and closing the lock has, but I was a little too flustered to explain fully. We'll have that conversation later.
She did hide the keys this time. Actually hid them not in the normal drawer - but somewhere that I have no idea about. We were having a pretty deep discussion this evening and she could sense my feeling of wanting to get out of the cage starting to form. She looked me in the eyes and said, "I can see you wanting to back out. I'm not going to let you this time. I finally realize that I have all the power, and you want me to have it. That cage is staying on until I'm ready for it to come off. I was so stupid in the past, but not this time."
I know it's cliche, but what have I gotten myself into? I told her thank you, and that I was proud of her. That's exactly what I wanted and needed, although she doesn't know that I had no intention of ending it this time. I am so excited about the weeks and months to come.
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It is such a great feeling when your keyholder falls off the edge and works out that she is in charge. I have to be careful now when she offers to lock me up 'for a few days' as the last two times a few days has turned into months.
Enjoy and may you be locked for a loooong time.
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Smiff wrote:I am so excited about the weeks and months to come.
I think you left out "years" ;)
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luckylocked wrote:It is such a great feeling when your keyholder falls off the edge and works out that she is in charge. I have to be careful now when she offers to lock me up 'for a few days' as the last two times a few days has turned into months.
Enjoy and may you be locked for a loooong time.
Thanks lucky. "A few days" turning into months sounds like she enjoys it as much as you do! Congrats!

I think we're going to have a good run of it this time. She seems to be enjoying the fact that I'm locked more than anytime in the past. Perhaps she has figured out just how good this could be for her.
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locked4her55 wrote:I think you left out "years" ;)
Boy do I hope so! :)
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My stint at work that required passing through security is done. So after a night out of the cage to relax and sleep well, I'm back in the MM JB. Boy did I miss this thing. The Holy Trainer was comfortable and concealable enough, but cleanliness is so tough to maintain in a device like that without removing it daily. I really don't want to have to remove it every day when I have to wear a plastic cage, but I don't see much of a way around that. Unfortunately I'm moving towards a position at work that will require metal detector access every day. Now that's a ways off, but we'll have to discuss just how much trouble she's willing to go through with getting keys for cleaning. I tried searching the boards for "cleaning" and "shower" to see if I could pick up any tips, but I didn't have much success. I guess I'll post a thread in the General Chat area to see what the more experienced non-metal wearers among us have learned.

One week behind me today! From previous experience I know that this next week will be the hardest. I think. I've never gone more than about 16 days or so. I hope she pushes me past that boundary the first time. I certainly will encourage her to. (And I put that on here so I can look back in a week or two and remember what an idiot I was for suggesting it!) In the past she really didn't care. This time she seems to have plans - and I'm a huge fan!
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A fairly uneventful few days behind us. Friday evening I did get to go down on my wife. Cunnilingus is always one of my favorite parts of sex. Unfortunately she's not that into it - never has been. Maybe that will change the longer she keeps me locked up. It was her lead Friday night, so that is encouraging. My tongue and a Vixskin that's about my size brought her to a rousing orgasm, with me straining against the metal of the Jailbird.
I like to use the Vixskins with the strapon harness, but she doesn't like the way they feel. I don't think they make any dildos better, so unfortunately I don't get to do that very often; maybe once every two to three months.
As you might can tell, these kinks are all mine. I guess she was born without the kink gene.
Since then it's just been yard work and projects around the house. Ten days in, ?? to go!
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