[lockanky] Starting the journey... rocky road

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lockanky
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[lockanky] Starting the journey... rocky road

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A few months ago, my wife saw an article in the Huffington post about male chastity. She joked that I would probably want one. But I had no interest.

But over the next several weeks, I looked at it again once or twice because I thought it was interesting, but not for me. It was something I had never thought of. It seemed silly, but intriguing nevertheless.

Each time I looked, I became a little more intrigued. I checked out blogs about male chastity, and found those interesting too. I mostly noticed the comments about how the chaste man is forced to give oral constantly, because I love giving oral, and I love bondage, and it was kind of like bondage.

I checked out the price of the CB6K out of curiousity, and found that it was ridiculous! No way would I pay that for a toy. That was completely out for me. But these things did pique my interest, and the thought of locking something on my cock seemed kind of erotic. I saw them used in some porn pictures, and it looked erotic. So I went back to the CB-X site. I noticed that the CBX devices came in different sizes, and I was curious what size would fit me. Well, the curve was definitely not an option! The CB6Ks looked weird and bulbous, but I thought the CB6K standard would be too big. On the web page, it said to measure when you're flacid and get the one that is nearest that size - 3.25" for the regular and the small is 2.5". But every time I went to measure my cock, I would start to get hard and spoil the measurement. I tried to catch myself at just the right time so I could get a measurement. But then, I ran into the problem that I could read it several ways, and I could change the measurement by an inch by pressing the ruler into my pubic bone and/or measuring differently - not an exact science.

So I went on a porn search to find pictures of men wearing the devices in the hope of eyeballing how they fit and which size would fit me. I saved a bunch of pictures where I could tell the man was wearing a CB6K. Over a few weeks I had found several pictures, and when I would jack off, I would see them in with the rest. They actually really made me hot. They make me think of forced oral, which is a huge turn on for me. I started to get really turned on by the idea of going down on my wife with one of these things locked onto my cock.

I found more blog posts and started to understand a little about the idea of a keyholder who could demand things from the wearer (like, hopefully, oral sex!). I also saw many references to how male chastity can make the man more attentive to the woman. Duh, I thought.

One day, I finally said "fuck it" and decided that I'm going to buy one of these things - the CB6K. I just won't tell my wife how much it was. I was so horny about it, that I even ordered overnight delivery.. at great expense. I texted my wife that "I did something crazy, I bought something". She did not know what it was.

When it arrived the next day, I quickly figured out the mechanics of it, but I couldn't get it on my cock because I was so hard. I played around for quite a while trying to trick myself, but it wasn't easy. I did manage to "catch" myself at the right time, and I used the nylon technique that I saw on one of the blogs. I got it on.

It was great. Uncomfortable as hell, but great. I was throbbing in the cage. I absolutely love the feeling of my cock being trapped in the device.

I called my wife and suggested we go out for dinner when she comes home from work. On the way there, she asked me what I bought. I was so embarrassed to say, I couldn't spit anything out. By the time we walked from the car to the restaurant, I told her I was wearing it, but she still didn't really know what I was talking about. As we were sitting down, with a family dinning at the next table, I quietly told her it was a chastity device. She had a lot of questions, but it was so uncomfortable talking about it in the restaurant.

I told her that the keyholder can control how long it stays on. She said that was dumb, because the man could just attack the woman and get the key. I argued that I would NEVER do that, but then she said, that, therefore, it must be a game. I could tell that she really didn't get the whole thing, but I did manage to get her to take the keys, and she put them in her pocket. She agreed to give them back to me at 9pm. I think she immediately regretted pointing out the article to me in the Huffington Post.

When we got home, I asked if she wanted to see it, and she said yes. I pulled down my pants. She didn't really like it. In fact she didn't like the whole idea.

She actually forgot to give me the keys, which I secretly liked, but it wasn't to tease me, she really did forget, which isn't so great. She remembered a couple hours later. The whole chastisty thing was off to a rough start.

The next day, I brought it up, and she was irritated. She said this whole thing was for me, and if she had to have the key, it was a huge burden for her. She would have to worry about me all day. When I would say that this could really end up benfiting her, she would come back arguing that this is for me, and I should just be honest about it. She said she would be happy to do something I ask her for me, because she loves me, but that I should not pretend that it is for her.

The whole things sounds like the perfect thing to me. My wife is so caring and responsible that she cannot be selfish with her own needs. She is always worried to make sure I am pleased when we have sex. This may seem great, but I feel it makes her sort of dread the *responsibility* of sex. And at the same time, I love so much to please, and I would love to selflessly go down on her or do whatever she wants me to do, but she can never separate my needs from the equation. It seems like having me locked up takes my needs out of the equation. It seems perfect for the both of us. But there was no way that I could convince her that this thing wasn't all about me.

The next day, we talked about it at breakfast. I told her that there are so many blogs where the woman say it is the best thing that ever happened to them. They say that their husband is like a new man and that it's like they were perpetually courting. But she didn't buy it. She looked on the laptop and found other ridiculous things about chastity on the web. Like domination and submission. She hates that. She pointed out that holding the key is a giant burden and that if she had to keep the key she would just worry about me all day. It would be horrible for her. She also pointed out that if I had the device on, I would be constantly thinking about sex and bothering her with text messages and talk all the time.

But I had secretly put the device on and slipped the keys in her purse so that I would be trapped all day (without having to bother her) while she is at work. This was one of the singularly most erotic experiences I can remember. While she was gone, I was at home with my cock locked away from... myself! It dawned on me that this thing can't come off without her unlocking it. It actually blew my mind. I had not anticipated the intensity of the feelings and the eroticism. I touched my nipples and my cock throbbed, but I couldn't touch it. I tried to make myself cum by pulling it in and out. There was a little stimulation, but not enough to cum. I thought that if I really really try hard I could cum, but I gave up long before that. It was frustrating, but in an incredibly satisfying way.

A few days later, when the weekend came, I locked myself up and asked her to take the key, and I conceded that it was for me. She agreed to take it for 24 hours. She did not know that I had also slept with it on, so it was actually 36 hours. During this time, I experienced things that I never expected. She was on my mind constantly, and I felt an affection for her that I hadn't felt for a long time.

There was a glimmer of hope in the evening. We were watching TV and she asked me to check if she turned off the oven upstairs but then she got up and looked. When she came back she joked that could have commanded me to do it. Damn right she could have!!!!!! And I would have vacuumed the whole house if she asked!!!! It makes me want to do anything and everything to please her.

She definitely noticed the change in my behavior, but instead of liking it, she was suspicious. She thought I was trying to prove that this was a good thing for her. We debated the point, but she didn't believe me. She also pointed out that she was right that all I did was talk about it. So I agreed that I would not talk about it.

The next day, she gave me the keys, and I let myself out. I was so amazed and genuinely surprised by what it did to me to be locked up with her holding the keys. At one point I had a revelation... it dawned on me... I realized that the night that I was locked up and she was holding the key, the feeling was as if she had given me a blowjob the whole night long. Of course I pine for a woman who would give me a blowjob all night long! And it really did leave me with a feeling just like that. Again, I was so surprised by the effect this thing had on me. Where at first I said "Duh" that a man would be more attentive when locked up, I had no idea how deep it ran - it was truly like a love potion. It was actually astounding the depth of the pining I felt for my wife when I am locked and she holds the key.

It has been several days since that, and I have made sure not to bring it up so that she gets a nice break from it (because she hates it). But I have a plan for Monday. I am debating two versions of the plan. The first is that I want her to take the keys on Sunday night, and then when she returns from work on Monday evening, I will walk out of the room while she tosses a coin. If its heads, I stay locked until Tuesday evening. My thought is that I want her to be able to cheat the coin toss without letting on that she was in control. Maybe she can get a taste of that control without guilt.

The second version of the plan is that I ask her not to unlock me until Tuesday, and also that we make love on Monday night. That way she can possibly have me please her without having to worry about pleasing me. Oh my god - that would be heaven for me, because I have so longed to please her orally.

So we are off to a very rocky start. Today I slipped the device on, and hid the keys in her purse again. I love it, but it's not the same as if she was really participating. But it does leave me bound, and I love the feeling. I will not let on that I did it. I will sneak the keys out of her purse later and she will never be the wiser.

I hope that she will eventually find some kind of benefit from this. I don't think that I am a 24/7 type of wearer, but I would love to be occasionally locked in this thing that is like a love potion, and please my wife per her desire.
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That's not a good start. I think you were too hasty in your desire. You should have talked about it and educated her more. She's probably mad that you didn't include her In the decision. Remember, a relationship is two people.I say you should "back up the bus". Take it off. Give it' some time- like a week- for her to process. Make a date with her ahead of time to talk about it. Sounds like she hates surprises. Tell her you care about how she feels. Then apologize for being selfish and hasty. Tell her a contract is common and a good thing for you both. Nothing whacked out like those fem-dom types. Just something agreeable and personal. Skip the punishment rules in detail, just get a term and simple agreements. Give it a trial run of two to four weeks. Having a contract gives her the security that she doesn't have to be "burdened with this" forever. And it gives you the comfort of knowing she will try. After she tries it, she might like it. And try not to talk about it all the time.thats how we are different from women. Keep your cage in the undercurrent, don't make it a tidal wave. Good luck. Follow me on my journey..mr cage
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So what happened? What's going on?
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Thanks for the thoughts. No doubt I got way too hasty and it put her off. Lesson experienced, but not necessarily learned. It's really tough to not be overcome by the excitement and fantasy of it.

I was planning on giving my wife a break from it for a few days and then ask her to take the key Sunday evening. That would have given her 5 days. On Saturday evening, I discretely put the cage on, impatiently fantasizing about the feeling of giving away control of my member. I slept with it on that night. It was so incredibly erotic to be trapped that way. I still couldn't quite get over the sensations and emotions that it evokes. It wakes me in the middle of the night, which is not liveable in the long-term, but is sooooo sweetly painful and frustrating.

It was Saturday morning, we were both awake and about, but the mornings are absolutely the worst time for me to tame erotic thoughts. I just have such a distorted sense of reality in the morning - there must be so much hormonal activity that clouds my normally very rational mind. I couldn't see any reason to wait, so I asked my wife if she would take the key until Tuesday. That precipitated a long discussion.

My wife and I are very open and honest in our discussions, and we can say anything to each other. Some good things came out that helped her to understand what this all means to me. And I learned that she has a fear that, now that I have this chastity device, that's going to be the only thing I want for the rest of my life. She worried that I can't just be normal and have normal sex like other people. In stead of putting me in chastity and playing this game, she wondered why we can't just fuck. She said she'd rather fuck every day than me putting on that chastity thing.

But seriously, that wouldn't work, because she doesn't have the sex drive for that, and she would end up being resentful that she had to do all that work for me. It's certainly not work if we both want it, but if she has to constantly muster up sexual energy that she doesn't naturally have, it's going to seem like work and she is going to get resentful.

We agreed that she will take the key until Tuesday evening, we'll do something for her on Monday (whatever she wants), and in exchange, I won't constantly talk about having it on, and I will put it away for a month after. I feel a little bad to get my way... but I made a comment at the end that kind of worked. I told her that the chastity device was the perfect solution, because she can be pampered and not have to worry about sex, while at the same time, I am having a deeply erotic experience.

So, we each had things we had planned doing on Sunday, so nothing much happened in the day, other than that I had a device locked onto my cock that I couldn't stop thinking about. And when my wife has the key it chances my perspective. I see her in ways that I hadn't felt for years. It reminds me so much of dating, and I realised that dating is the same thing - chastity. When dating, you don't just say, "let's fuck". There is way too much at stake. Instead you naturally want to pamper her and suggestively tease her until some kind of obvious point of no return, where you know you won't get turned down. She is in control, essentially. It may only be kissing, but that is enough because you are building towards something. In the mean time between dates, you don't just jack off every second, because you want to save your virility for the next encounter with her. Again, she is essentially in control of your orgasm. That pattern is *exactly* the pattern of male chastity. That is why I feel so sappy and affectionate when she has the key.

Saturday night we laid in bed, and I can't keep from rubbing her. Everything about her is so beautiful and precious. Her feet are heavenly. Her back feels so smooth. And my cock is raging in its cage - exactly like the feeling when we were dating. Only now, instead of me keeping my hardon to myself internally for fear of shocking her (when we were dating), instead, my cock is locked by an external cage. Instead of her, though social norms, controlling my erection, she is now controlling my erection by lock and key.

She *loved* the attention. I had sooooo much romantic energy to worship her by massaging her. She melts with massage. I started focusing on her feet. I had no sense of time - I could have done it for a year. But after about a half hour of rubbing her feet and up her legs and her feet and up her legs... she asked for me to "touch" her. Fuck! This thing really fucking works!

So I went a little further and started "touching" her where she wanted. I have to say that I love giving oral so much it is practically insane, but my wife is not as insane about it. We actually have a problem in our sex life that she wishes I wouldn't always want to lick her. She has complained that I shoudl bring her to orgasm by just touching her with my fingers. But that is soooooo hard for me to do - I just naturally get my face in there and make her cum with my tongue.

This time, though, I held back and tried to do exactly what she wanted. Maybe the sensation and eroticism of the cage holding back my throbbing cock was the extra sensation I needed to be able to restrain my natural urge to go down on her. So I kept touching her and she wriggled with sensation. I was so energized by the totality of the situation, I could have touched her forever, but she came relatively quickly, and hard.

After that, I had as much energy as ever, locked away in my cage. I LOVED that she felt absolutely no responsibility to make me cum. Instead she relaxed, and I couldn't help but massage her.

Then she dropped a bomb. She said, "I think maybe I like this thing", obviously refering to the cage that was currently crushing my throbbing cock and filling me with an energy I forgot I had.

I rubbed her for a long time until she finally fell asleep.
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I'm pretty sure I'm doing everything exactly wrong.

So on Monday, it was a normal day, except that I have a device locked onto my cock... but other than that, normal.

In the evening, after work, everything was also normal... ..and then I started to get grumpy. She was going about things as if everything were normal, but no, it wasn't normal - I have a device locked onto my cock and she has the key! That's not normal!!!

I usually don't get grumpy or moody unprovoked. And this wasn't provoked - I get that. But the newness of being cock-locked and being in a constant state of heightened arousal... and I suppose the fact that I hadn't cum in a several days... I guess my cock felt provoked, and I was moody and disappointed. She must not realize, I thought, how much energy I have to meet her every need - happily,... but she had no needs. I mean, I rubbed her feet while we watched the news, but that was enough. And she doesn't want to play the game and tease me (verbally) to let me know that she acknowledges my predicament - she's doing this because I asked her to, not because she is trying to get anything out of it. In fact, she's not afraid to say that she doesn't want it to succeed. She thinks it's silly.

She ended up putsing around (as did I) until midnight, and then we both went to bed. I asked her if she wanted a back rub, but she didn't want me to go through all that trouble when it was so late. She said she wished that we would have started earlier. I thought, Dohhh! what a waste of all my energy and enthusiasm! I told her that I got grumpy. She thought that made sense because I hadn't cum in several days. But I told her I was grumpy, not because of that, but because I didn't get to do anything for her. I felt I got cheated out of a day and I should get another day locked up. She understood and agreed. (Holy Sh#t, be careful what you ask for!) So I convinced her that it was no trouble at all to give her a back massage. I used massage oil and rubbed her down for 45 minutes. I could have gone 6 more hours, easily, but I think I did the right thing by stopping there. She absolutely loves massage - her noises tell me so.
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:D awesome, sounds like you are on a good path now. go slow and give her time to process. get her to wear the key on a necklace. trust me, its a good thing. you both will have a physical reminder of the situation. she will come around this week. sleep soft, if you can. Mr Cage.
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I have kept the device on for 24 hours before, but never for 24 hours when I'm out and about doing things.

We were outside a few days ago - Sunday - at a stadium - where other people are - where there are many people in the bathroom - where you have to stand in line, sit down, stand up, get in the car, walk here walk there.

You take what you can get in that situation. You can't have your hand in your pants the whole time adjusting and making sure everything is correctly positioned in the device, not binding, etc.

It was uncomfortable, especially when I figured out something was wrong. One of my nuts slipped out when I got out of the car to go to main st. to find something to eat with my wife. I hope no one, especially my wife, noticed that I had to walk funny, and I needed to find a restroom to make a repair.

The most descrete thing I could do was to find a restaurant and then, after ordering, use their restroom. The place that caught our interest was a small place, and I thought that was good, because usually they have a single restroom so you can lock the door and have your privacy. But this restaurant was so small, that it had NO restroom!

That made for an uncomfortable meal, and an uncomfortable walk back down main st. to parking.

Fortunately, we walked by a place that I could tell would have a restroom, and so we diverted there so I could "use the restroom".

Then I got to see exactly what was going on. One nut was not captured between the ring. My sack was still kind of puffed out through the gap between the ring and the cage, but the nut was not in there. It had pulled through the gap, through the ring, and kind of inside me.

All I did was apply some pressure with my fingertips, and it "rolled" through the ring, through the gap, and into the sack where it belonged.

This was kind of a disappointment for me - to see that I'm not really locked up after all. Somehow, stuff can get out.

For the rest of the day, it was a little distracting to occasionally readjust things (discretely) so that everything stayed in its place. Several times if felt like it popped out again, or was about to, but it didn't.

Nevertheless, instead of feeling like I have this thing on that can't be removed, I felt like I had to keep pushing this thing on so that it doesn't pop off.

Kind of a disappointment.

And I didn't really want to talk about it to my wife. It just felt like information I didn't want to share.

So, from that point on, I haven't had to go out so much, so that I am able to easily keep everything together. But I do feel like it is a little bit disappointing that to some degree, I have to pretend like this really works rather than FEAR that it really works.
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It is Tuesday morning.

My wife works late tonight - until 9. That means I'm locked up all day without even seeing her! And it also means that, unless we stay up late again, tonight doesn't have a relaxing span of time available, once you subtract-out all the other routines that occur after work - like eating.

We always talk in the morning while getting ready for work. We wake up enough before work that there is plenty of time to have casual conversations. One of the first things she said is, "Well, I'm sorry but I have to add a day because you were grumpy yesterday." That was the first time she had ever tried that on - to tease me about being locked up longer. I brushed it off confidently, as I must have learned to do when I don't know what else to do. She promptly stood up and went upstairs to do something. In a few seconds, a rush came over me. SHE WAS PAYING ATTENTION TO ME! OH MY GOD! I instantly felt it in my groin. When she came back downstairs, I told her that I love her so much. I think I'm very lucky.

A little later is when I learned that she would be working until 9. In response I said sadly that this means tonight is not a great night, and she joked that we should add another day. I brushed that off too, trying not to let any of my caged enthusiasm show.

After some putsing around, I came up behind her and rubbed her back and asked, "So there is an extra day because I was grumpy, and an extra day because you work until 9 tonight, Is that one extra day, or two." She replied, "two". Do I even have to say what that does to me? When she shows me just the slightest amout of attention and acknowledgment for my predicament, it sends me. Plus, maybe she is warming up to the idea. She is not trying to make it end as soon as possible, I notice.

A little while later, I asked her if I could borrow the key, because I want to adjust the device more snuggly. She agreed. Without undoing the whole thing, I removed the spacer pin and spacer and replaced it with one size smaller. Maybe it is too tight? I don't know. I will probably have an opinion about that tonight.

But I'll tell you one thing, now this thing feels like I could not remove it at all. That thought makes me almost dizzy. It makes it so real. It's a game, but it's a real game. I really do need her in order to cum, or even to touch myself. I need her permission. She really does control me. Oh, god... and I love it! I fucking love it.
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I also lost my nuts thigh the ring today. Read my post for details. I was able to make an emergency repair. Mrs Cage removed the device and cleaned and replaced it tonight. I think I may move to a smaller spacer. :?
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Having the key in her possession is powerful, but wearing a key around her neck that you can see will be empowering for her! Buy her a pretty, delicate necklace with a key. THEN she will be your keyholder! ;)
(I started, too, as a reluctant keyholder)
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