[ Mistress is God ] My Storey into Orgasm Denial
Posted: Mon Oct 29, 2012 9:38 am
1st of all it has been a while since I have done an update on this site and this is very bad of me as I should give back for all of the information that I have found so useful from this web site. Therefore I hope this description of a journey helps to give back.
Since before I can remember I have always been into some kind of fetish normally revolving around bondage or bdsm. For years I played with being restrained or minor pain whilst masturbating (i.e. nipple clamps, ball stretchers etc) however this always felt a bit flat as this was only ever for personal use and I never had anybody to share anything with. I was desperate for an experience that was going to last.
Going back about 3 years ago I fell on the idea of chastity and thought that I would give it a go. My first purchase was a CB 2000 which I have to say I hated and it didn’t really fit and very quickly decided that I need a CB 3000 instead.
When I got it, it took me ages before I could get any kind of combatable fit so that I could ware it for more then a quick play. Eventually after finding the correct spacing and figuring out that actually the best way that it worked for me was to ware the CB2000 solid ring as close to my body as possible with the cb3000 cage I was good to go. I very soon realised the sexual high that comes from chastity and restraint.
My wife started by allowing me to ware it but was quite clear that she was not keen and wanted it to be out of site out of mind. After a short time it was clear that this was not enough and the knowledge that I was wearing anything was just a massive turn off for her and killed her sex drive. The issue being she hates anything bondage related and just felt that this was a different type of bondage (probably why I enjoyed it so much).At about the same time she started to struggle with a major back issue and sex was not even on the table for a good 12 months.
So I made a decision that I would do as she asked and would never ware it when she was around but would put it on to go to work and if I was staying away over night and would then take it off when I got home. At about the same time I found the key safe web site. After speaking with the web site admin they actually picked up on an idea that I had given them and launched it on there web site. Following this I bought a £30 safe and was using the site to hold my key for short periods of time.
However something was missing and it was missing in a big way. My wife hated chastity and our sex life was getting less and less. What used to be great when we first got together was just turning into a chore because we felt that we should try and make some kind of effort. Sex happened 6 to 10 times a year and to be honest I got more pleasure from myself that I did being with her and I know that she felt the same.
One night my chastity life changed (and I wrote about it on this forum). I was staying away in a hotel, I had nothing to do and wanted to play. I decided that I want to drive myself insane with lust and hornyness and spend the night dribbling form my cage. So got my porn collection out on the lap top and put babe station on the TV in the back ground. As I was getting hornier and hornier I made a man vagina with the skin between my anus and balls. And start to rub myself as if I was a woman masturbating. My cock was as hard as ever and by now my balls were properly aching but was on a complete sexual high enjoying the moment. Then all of a sudden, it happened. I came….
I found myself stood in the middle of a hotel room with the bed sheets flooded with built up cum going
“What the fuck?”
Then it struck me. If I can cum whilst in chastity what’s the point?
I spent many weeks soul searching and in the mean time my CB3000 just became a sex toy. As long as I have not come for 7 days + I can put it on and either rub or waggle my cage and can cum quite easily now.
After putting posts on this web site it was clear that I was not the only one and that actually lots of people can cum in chastity its about not trying to because your partner doesn’t want to you and that you cum because it pleases them not because you want to. After doing more research I realised that the reason that I could cum is because I had access to my anus, prostate and balls to stimulate myself. The answer would be to get a full on chastity belt that covered everything so I could not touch anything. For me this was a no go and just not interested, don’t think that they look nice, don’t think that they are practical and just not for me (each to there own)
So if my chastity device was no good, where did that leave my chastity life style? Flat with no were to go…… or was it.
About the same time my wifes back was getting better and she was showing an interested in starting things up again. I wanted to see if I could be a bit of a tease myself and would go to kiss her then move away and would kiss all around her breasts but not touch the nipple until she was very horny and wet then as a bit of a joke at the time asked “am I allowed to touch?” to my surprise the response was not yet I am liking this in a minute I will tell you when to touch. I could tell she was building and building and when she finally told me I was allowed to touch her she had the most mind blowing orgasm going (yes and put her back out).
And so it started. If there is one thing that I know about my wife its all about timing and slow and steady. So it started with us agreeing that I would not be allowed to touch her breast or genitals unless she gave me permission. This had a much bigger impact then we both realised. In the past I used to be very grabby and would do things at the wrong time. (i.e. grabbing her boobs from behind whilst she was trying to cook etc) and due to this she had started to always protect herself when I went to cuddle her as she always thought that I was going to grab. After 2 weeks this had all gone and she LOVED it.
After a while it changed into I would have to ask when I was in her to make sure that I was allowed to cum. I then started to bring back the chastity bit and told her that I would save myself for her. However this massively back fired as I was so pent up when we had sex that I only lasted for a couple of minutes and left her very unsatisfied. Something that had to change and fast! Then I realised that we seemed to be having sex once a month and about the same time each month. She would get her monthly (call that day one) and she would start to get horny about day 8 and we would normally have sex between day 10 to 16.
This realisation did 2 things.
1) It stopped me calling her a nun because I realised she did like sex but just at the correct time of the month
2) It meant that I started to focus all of my attention when she wanted it.
Ok so lets build this in. so I would not cum all month and wait until about day 8 and masturbate so that I was fresh for her when she wanted me.
But as all men do I wanted more. So with very careful wording and at the right time we discussed that only she would allow me to cum and that I would have to ask for permission. We have been doing this now for several months and in general this has been working well however I know that there are not any consequences so I cheat and masturbate mid month when I start to get horny. But it is working. She is now getting into teasing me and loves to flash me a boob when the mood takes her, She will walk past and thrust herself at me saying wouldn’t you love to touch the sacred mounds (our name for breast) things are getting fantastic and we are both enjoying it.
Being a man though again I want more I still want to bring back that chastity feeling so that she is in total control.
So to today.
After much rewriting I have written an orgasm denial contract. What does it say will it just puts into words everything that we now do and enjoy however it now has consequences as if I do anything that is not authorised then I have to pay her a fine from my personal money that she can spend on herself doing or buying what ever she wants. Also to try and show her that I am committed to our new contract I wanted her to know that she holds the key to my heart as well as the key to our sex life and I have just bought her the necklace that is now my avatar picture.
This Thursday is the big day. I am away Thursday night and I want her read the contract and have the necklace whilst I am away so that she can read through it without me looking over her shoulder.
Will she love it?
Or will she hate it?
This is either going to be everything I have dreamed of or I am just about to kill the whole thing.
Will let you know soon.
I started this by saying that I wanted to give back. Hopefully this storey gives others ideas and persistence if your chastity life style is not working the way that you hoped. Take stock and move on, where there is a will there is a way……
Since before I can remember I have always been into some kind of fetish normally revolving around bondage or bdsm. For years I played with being restrained or minor pain whilst masturbating (i.e. nipple clamps, ball stretchers etc) however this always felt a bit flat as this was only ever for personal use and I never had anybody to share anything with. I was desperate for an experience that was going to last.
Going back about 3 years ago I fell on the idea of chastity and thought that I would give it a go. My first purchase was a CB 2000 which I have to say I hated and it didn’t really fit and very quickly decided that I need a CB 3000 instead.
When I got it, it took me ages before I could get any kind of combatable fit so that I could ware it for more then a quick play. Eventually after finding the correct spacing and figuring out that actually the best way that it worked for me was to ware the CB2000 solid ring as close to my body as possible with the cb3000 cage I was good to go. I very soon realised the sexual high that comes from chastity and restraint.
My wife started by allowing me to ware it but was quite clear that she was not keen and wanted it to be out of site out of mind. After a short time it was clear that this was not enough and the knowledge that I was wearing anything was just a massive turn off for her and killed her sex drive. The issue being she hates anything bondage related and just felt that this was a different type of bondage (probably why I enjoyed it so much).At about the same time she started to struggle with a major back issue and sex was not even on the table for a good 12 months.
So I made a decision that I would do as she asked and would never ware it when she was around but would put it on to go to work and if I was staying away over night and would then take it off when I got home. At about the same time I found the key safe web site. After speaking with the web site admin they actually picked up on an idea that I had given them and launched it on there web site. Following this I bought a £30 safe and was using the site to hold my key for short periods of time.
However something was missing and it was missing in a big way. My wife hated chastity and our sex life was getting less and less. What used to be great when we first got together was just turning into a chore because we felt that we should try and make some kind of effort. Sex happened 6 to 10 times a year and to be honest I got more pleasure from myself that I did being with her and I know that she felt the same.
One night my chastity life changed (and I wrote about it on this forum). I was staying away in a hotel, I had nothing to do and wanted to play. I decided that I want to drive myself insane with lust and hornyness and spend the night dribbling form my cage. So got my porn collection out on the lap top and put babe station on the TV in the back ground. As I was getting hornier and hornier I made a man vagina with the skin between my anus and balls. And start to rub myself as if I was a woman masturbating. My cock was as hard as ever and by now my balls were properly aching but was on a complete sexual high enjoying the moment. Then all of a sudden, it happened. I came….
I found myself stood in the middle of a hotel room with the bed sheets flooded with built up cum going
“What the fuck?”
Then it struck me. If I can cum whilst in chastity what’s the point?
I spent many weeks soul searching and in the mean time my CB3000 just became a sex toy. As long as I have not come for 7 days + I can put it on and either rub or waggle my cage and can cum quite easily now.
After putting posts on this web site it was clear that I was not the only one and that actually lots of people can cum in chastity its about not trying to because your partner doesn’t want to you and that you cum because it pleases them not because you want to. After doing more research I realised that the reason that I could cum is because I had access to my anus, prostate and balls to stimulate myself. The answer would be to get a full on chastity belt that covered everything so I could not touch anything. For me this was a no go and just not interested, don’t think that they look nice, don’t think that they are practical and just not for me (each to there own)
So if my chastity device was no good, where did that leave my chastity life style? Flat with no were to go…… or was it.
About the same time my wifes back was getting better and she was showing an interested in starting things up again. I wanted to see if I could be a bit of a tease myself and would go to kiss her then move away and would kiss all around her breasts but not touch the nipple until she was very horny and wet then as a bit of a joke at the time asked “am I allowed to touch?” to my surprise the response was not yet I am liking this in a minute I will tell you when to touch. I could tell she was building and building and when she finally told me I was allowed to touch her she had the most mind blowing orgasm going (yes and put her back out).
And so it started. If there is one thing that I know about my wife its all about timing and slow and steady. So it started with us agreeing that I would not be allowed to touch her breast or genitals unless she gave me permission. This had a much bigger impact then we both realised. In the past I used to be very grabby and would do things at the wrong time. (i.e. grabbing her boobs from behind whilst she was trying to cook etc) and due to this she had started to always protect herself when I went to cuddle her as she always thought that I was going to grab. After 2 weeks this had all gone and she LOVED it.
After a while it changed into I would have to ask when I was in her to make sure that I was allowed to cum. I then started to bring back the chastity bit and told her that I would save myself for her. However this massively back fired as I was so pent up when we had sex that I only lasted for a couple of minutes and left her very unsatisfied. Something that had to change and fast! Then I realised that we seemed to be having sex once a month and about the same time each month. She would get her monthly (call that day one) and she would start to get horny about day 8 and we would normally have sex between day 10 to 16.
This realisation did 2 things.
1) It stopped me calling her a nun because I realised she did like sex but just at the correct time of the month
2) It meant that I started to focus all of my attention when she wanted it.
Ok so lets build this in. so I would not cum all month and wait until about day 8 and masturbate so that I was fresh for her when she wanted me.
But as all men do I wanted more. So with very careful wording and at the right time we discussed that only she would allow me to cum and that I would have to ask for permission. We have been doing this now for several months and in general this has been working well however I know that there are not any consequences so I cheat and masturbate mid month when I start to get horny. But it is working. She is now getting into teasing me and loves to flash me a boob when the mood takes her, She will walk past and thrust herself at me saying wouldn’t you love to touch the sacred mounds (our name for breast) things are getting fantastic and we are both enjoying it.
Being a man though again I want more I still want to bring back that chastity feeling so that she is in total control.
So to today.
After much rewriting I have written an orgasm denial contract. What does it say will it just puts into words everything that we now do and enjoy however it now has consequences as if I do anything that is not authorised then I have to pay her a fine from my personal money that she can spend on herself doing or buying what ever she wants. Also to try and show her that I am committed to our new contract I wanted her to know that she holds the key to my heart as well as the key to our sex life and I have just bought her the necklace that is now my avatar picture.
This Thursday is the big day. I am away Thursday night and I want her read the contract and have the necklace whilst I am away so that she can read through it without me looking over her shoulder.
Will she love it?
Or will she hate it?
This is either going to be everything I have dreamed of or I am just about to kill the whole thing.
Will let you know soon.
I started this by saying that I wanted to give back. Hopefully this storey gives others ideas and persistence if your chastity life style is not working the way that you hoped. Take stock and move on, where there is a will there is a way……