[Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

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Re: [Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

Postby yeldarb » Mon Nov 13, 2017 1:29 pm

A lovely breast worship/naked cuddle session a few hours after that last post, with Sara squeezing and tweaking my nipples quite hard to make my little penis twitch in its cage.
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Re: [Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

Postby yeldarb » Tue Nov 14, 2017 5:28 am

I forgot to mention that, at the weekend, when she was re-locking me, as usual I sought assurance from Sara that she really did want this (I'm always in need of that reassurance) and she said she wouldn't be doing it if she didn't want to but asked if she actually enjoyed it or got anything out of it she said that I was "a much better person" from her point of view when locked. I loved hearing that!
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Re: [Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

Postby Schnoff » Thu Nov 16, 2017 4:28 am

Boy do I know that "needy submissive" who needs to hear that their D-type is really enjoying with they're doing. "You're not just doing this for me, are you?"

That doubt, it turns out, wasn't helpful, at least not around here. Things are better when I just trust that Bear wouldn't be doing what he's doing if he didn't enjoy it.

Things are a million times better since we added touch points. Saying good morning with some touch and asking how each other's night went. Serving breakfast kneeling. Embracing before Bear leaves for work, again when he comes back with a mutual "how was your day", and a final time before bed to say our "kink mantras" :lol: and for Bear to ask me how I've been doing with orgasm denial that day.

s-types thrive on structure, and it's the job of the D-type to provide that structure - in whatever form, that's individual to each couple. The D-type provides the framework for the relationship.

We're getting some kink mentoring, can you tell? I'm loving all of it, and Bear is thriving.
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Re: [Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

Postby yeldarb » Thu Nov 16, 2017 6:40 am

Hi Schnoff ... yes, sound of nail being hit on head ... you're absolutely right about structure ... I/we need to work on that. There are various fantasies I have that could be finessed and harnessed to give us that, ones that could be turned in to "low impact" routine rituals in terms of time and effort but definitely ones that punch above their weight in terms of erotic and chastity impact. Thanks for the feedback :-)
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Re: [Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

Postby yeldarb » Sat Nov 18, 2017 9:16 am

Saturday, and it has been a quiet week again where T&D is concerned, with Sara too stressed and distracted by work and social activities to have the patience and "bandwidth" for my neediness. I am one week through a (minimum) two week lock-up ... we'll see - maybe she will give me an orgasm, maybe she won't.
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Re: [Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

Postby yeldarb » Thu Nov 23, 2017 4:41 am

Seeing her lover again? Really? Maybe ...
Thursday and it has been quite a turbulent week so far, dominated by having to have a very old dog finally put to sleep, for its own good - Sara has rescue Greyhounds as pets and we are now down to one, having been up to three at one stage a few years ago. All very sad.
My cage actually came off in the shower Monday morning ... I think I over did it with the water jet setting! Given what was going on I held back from mentioning it or putting it back on for a few days ... one less pressure for Sara to be bothered with and she says that she has appreciated the thoughtfulness.
It is now Thursday morning and I'm still sans cage but she has said she will put it back on me this evening, though Friday morning is more likely as she has one of her singing commitments tonight and that too tends to pre-occupy her.
However, the HOT NEWS is that she said she had multi-orgasmic wand fun on Monday, while I was at work, and that her favorite ex-lover has been in contact, just on a friendly "how you doing" basis. That has happened before but this time may be different. Last night she said she thought it was time for her to "get her head of her ass" where such considerations were concerned (her words - it has been a year since she last had sex with anyone, at it was him as it happens) and, from what she went on to say, it is clear that she is seriously considering getting "back on the horse"!
I suggested that a tryst at some stage in the next few weeks, to re-new "acquaintance", might be a nice Christmas present to herself and she didn't disagree. I think she's now close to adopting a mind-set whereby the issues that have held her back the past year or two, especially the health issues, simply are what they are and that she has allowed them to dominate her life too much for too long.
If I'm right with that then it would be an awesome step forward for her regardless of whether or not she actually follows through at this time. I think that having allowed her the space to detach herself from "play" without any pressure from me may have allowed her to time and space she has clearly needed to regain some perspective and perhaps reconnect with an inner self that has been buried for too long and become accepting again of her needs as a woman. Regular good sex, whether masturbation, "play" of some (any kind) with me, or getting "well fucked" by a lover (as she used to put it) has always been and is and remains more important to her physical, mental and emotional well being that she has ever realised.
There is no question that she is a considerably more "sexual being" than she has ever really allowed herself to admit or be (apart maybe from the D/s BDSM phase she went through, which is what brought us together six years ago, and subsequent on/off and mostly disappointing attempts at threesome and "HotWife" fun.)
During this conversation last night I confessed that whilst unlocked this week I had played with myself (just can't help it!) but that I hadn't actually had an orgasm behind her back (or anywhere lol!).
She said that was good and appreciated that I could be trusted on the "honor" system, sometimes, but none the less she threatened that she may add another week to the two that are up this coming weekend for not being able to keep my hands off my (indeed her!) penis. We'll see.
The truth is I only really got one decent stiffy and self-edge in that time; until last night that is, when thoughts that she may have a lover again weren't far from the front of my mind - or from my little penis! Though I still managed not to come!
I'm surprised and no little impressed at my self control, though sadly it has as much if not more to do with my inability to perform as anything else!
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Re: [Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

Postby Joroincharge » Sun Nov 26, 2017 4:56 pm

Sounds ideal to me.
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Re: [Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

Postby yeldarb » Sun Nov 26, 2017 5:25 pm

Sunday morning and Sara shaved, lotioned and locked me telling me to attach the components while she pleasured herself to four orgasms with her wand ... then came the lock-up!
I'd asked her a couple of times in this weekend about what she'd said about her lover, and she says she means it. S
he has said two or three times that she'll reply to his latest contact, but she hasn't done so yet so I'm going to back off asking if she will as, in all honesty, she probably doesn't really want to yet.
I don't think she's as ready for that as she may have started to think or say; just as she clearly isn't ready for any real good kink play yet and that should probably start between us before she starts to look elsewhere again.
So for now at least I'm going to absolutely back off asking, suggesting or even trying to discuss either the kinky play I am so desperate for or her seeing her lover again.
BTW she had threatened that the latest lock up would be for two more weeks but in recognition of my self restraint she has said at least one more for now then she'll see - as it is that would take me to four weeks since my last orgasm.
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Re: [Yeldarb] Our "New Permanent"

Postby yeldarb » Wed Jan 03, 2018 4:59 pm

Well, how time flies - over five weeks since my last post.
Christmas has been and gone, with me unlocked since the end of November as we have just been two busy with work, and too stressed with other distractions.
I've had some orgasms, but nothing since before Christmas ... about two weeks I guess, on the honor system.
All good now though - ordered the new Holy Trainer Version 3 today - through their website - should arrive in 2 days or so, from Switzerland (we are in the UK).
I'll report on the "install" and initial impressions once we have our greedy hands on it - looks like a simple design mod has gone at least some way towards dealing with the slip-out issues some had reported with the V2 - we'll see.
Sara is very excited that maybe, at last, this might be a comfortable and sustainable solution - she's still very positive about wanting to lock my "pathetic little penis" away; she's also in dialog about a possible meet with her 'lapsed' lover, maybe while I am away on biz next week.
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